The only time I can fall asleep quickly is after sex, so if I’m being awakened, that had better be why. I’m also a lot less receptive to actually being asked; just go ahead and start, I’ll wake up and be happy to do so, but if you actually ask, I might have second thoughts. I don’t wake up in the middle of the night on my own, but if I thought the person next to me would like it, I might try something if I did.
All of this is contingent on me being generally happy, not stressed, and getting enough sleep. If any of those conditions aren’t so, then I really need my sleep and don’t take kindly to that being interrupted.
Lazy weekend morning sex, on the other hand, is my idea of heaven. Lying in bed while it’s getting lighter and lighter out, sex every hour or so… That’s the way life should be.
These days the only person waking me up in the middle of the night is my eight-week old daughter, demanding food. So, no … no wake-up sex for me. My husband is also a little scared, now that baby has arrived, that doing it again will result in another baby!
Not to say that, having slept well for a change, I would be averse to a little half-sleepy, warm and cosy nookie!
I almost have to wake her up. My wife’s hours are: asleep at 9:30, up at 5:30. There’s a very slim margin for nookie between 9-9:30, assuming the kids are asleep. The same at 5 AM, because the youngest will wake up soon. Wake-up sex involves getting up, making sure the security bar is against the BR door, returning to bed & hoping that kissing & hugging her neck & back will get her in the mood w/i the alotted timeframe.
A conversation often heard in our bedroom: Suburban Plankton: Wanna fool around? Me: Not right now, but you can wake me up.
I love being woken up for sex. SP is really good at doing the “kiss and caress” thing until I’m at least mostly awake. He never wakes me up “poking me” he knows better than that. My favorite time to have sex is like 5am after a good night’s sleep. Then I still have time to be all snoozy and cuddly afterward, and still get up at a decent time. Weekend, weekdays, doesn’t matter.
Unfortunately for Suburban Plankton, I never wake him up for sex. I require more sleep than he does and I’m a pretty sound sleeper. So if one of us is awake and wanting it while the other is asleep, it’s usually him being awake, and me being asleep.
I guess it’s a little reassuring to know that my SO wasn’t unique in this annoying habit. But I think I pretty much broke him of this by almost breaking his nose with a well-placed elbow while I was sleeping. I did try to warn him that it was dangerous to try and wake me up.
Before this happened I had considered trying to get up early while he was sleeping, getting a kielbasa out of the fridge and poking him in the behind with the cold wet thing but then he’d probably have liked it and wouldn’t understand the point I was trying to make and I would have to throw out the kielbasa.
Male, mostly straight. Just love it, doing and being done.
I’ve certainly learned that not all partners enjoy it. My ex-wife was not a fan and should not be roused from sleep EVER.
A girlfriend in college really liked it and would sometimes remain in a dreamy state all the way through. One time we were cuddling afterward, she was drifting back to sleep when she snapped into a bolt upright state of alarm, “oh shit, I’ve got a tampon in!”
I, personally, get 8 hours of sleep a night. Considering the relative worth being assigned to sleep vs. sex, I am very curious how much sex everyone else is having.
That being said, I had assumed that the proper way to wake someone up for sex was kissings, stroking, rubbing, and fondlings, starting exquisitely gently and gradually growing more firm and encompassing more areas, and continued until you’ve gotten at least some sign of affirmation from your partner. Maybe that’s just me, though.
This all puts me in mind of Nexus (which I read when I was 12 and everyone at school thought I was reading a dry library book ) and the bit where the guy has sex with his wife while she’s asleep. It’s rather a nasty scene, he doesn’t like her, and she doesn’t have sex when she’s awake…and he thinks she’s just pretending because she won’t give in when she’s officially awake. Still, it kind of turned me on. But I’ve always been warped.
) and the bit where the guy has sex with his wife while she’s asleep. It’s rather a nasty scene, he doesn’t like her, and she doesn’t have sex when she’s awake…and he thinks she’s just pretending because she won’t give in when she’s officially awake. Still, it kind of turned me on. But I’ve always been warped.