First off, this is both an introduction to myself, and a request for advice from all the dopers. Believe it or not I’ve been lurking for over a year now and this is my first post. So please be nice =)
Here it goes:
I work in Southern California, but my company recently sent me to Atlanta for six weeks to help out with the project. I’ve been here three weeks now and I haven’t done anything with my free time except sit in my hotel and play video games or watch TV. I really need help from you guys to get me out of this rut. I don’t want to go back home and have everyone ask me what I did to hear, “uh… I just stayed in my room”.
Anyways, I think you should know a little bit about me before you give any advice. I’m a white single male, almost 25 yrs old. I spend most of my free time playing online role playing games or hanging out with my friends. At work when I’m not too busy I like to surf the dope. In college I got a degree in computer science and want to have a career in video game development or 3D design. Right now I’m doing admin work for Nokia. It’s boring, but there’s really no stress involved and it pays the bills.
That’s just my nerdy side. For the most part I’m a shy person who keeps to himself. I can be outgoing as well. I enjoy going out and partying much more than getting my half-elf wizard to level 99. I enjoy playing sports, basketball, football, and ping-pong (if that’s a sport). I love going to parties, meeting other people and making new friends. I’ll start out really shy but with a couple of beers in me I’ll actually get the nerve to start talking. This may not always be a good thing (depending on HOW many beers I’ve had), but I usually have fun no matter what happens. I also enjoy going to clubs and dancing, and sometimes I enjoy going to bars. The problem with going to bars is that I still have random people come up to me who are convinced that I’m not 21 yet even though I have been for over four years! It gets old fast, but I guess having a baby face will be good for me in the long run.
So you’re thinking, for a guy who “loves” to go out, why is he in his room all day? Well here’s the problem. I’m really shy and I’ve never been out alone. “Why not go out with your coworkers”? Well, most of them are 40 + and married. The guy closest to my age, prob 28, 29, is married with 2 kids. I did actually go to a bar with most of my coworkers last week. Having to sit around while some 60 yr old dude brags about how his kid is making 200K + a year isn’t my idea of fun. For the most part, whatever I’m going to be doing for the next 3 weeks, I’ll be doing alone. This is where I need help.
I guess what I want to do breaks down into two parts. First, I need advice on how to go out at night by myself (and possibly have fun). This includes a bar or club or anything else I might not be aware of. I suppose my main goal is to meet a girl. I’m not the kind of guy who wants to have sex on the first night. That really isn’t even my goal. I think just finding a girl I’m interested in, and who likes me as well, makes me happy. It just puts a smile on my face (go figure). I just need to psych my self up enough to go out.
So for this part I need advice from dopers who have actually gone out alone. How did you convince yourself to do it? What did you do? How did it go? Please don’t leave anything out. I need success stories here! This especially helps if you’re similar to me. If you were the captain of the football team who dated the prom queen, your advice probably won’t be very useful. Also, not to be blunt, I appreciate the “Just do it”, but it helps if you’ve “done it” and can give me some perspective.
Second, I need advice on what sites to see while I’m in Atlanta. What can I do in Atlanta that I can’t do in So Cal? I’m really open to anything. Everyone has told me to go see the Coke Factory or the CNN Building for some reason, and I don’t think I’d want to do that. My friend suggested that I see if any cool bands were touring at this time. If you know of any please let me know. Just to give you an idea of what I like, my favorite bands are R.E.M. and The Smiths. Lately I’ve been listening to Modest Mouse, Superchunk, Galaxie 500, and a crap load of other indie rock bands. Again, please suggest anything that you’ve enjoyed doing while you were in Atlanta.
Agh, I guess all of that was really long. Thanks for being patient and reading the whole thing. I know my grammar is awful, and I doubt it will improve much in the future. It’s just not my thing. Anyways I’m looking forward to any advice you guys have and I’m open for any questions you might have about me.