I think of all the people I’ve been with, I’ve been in pretty similar standing. I was the more attractive one a couple times, but not by more than one or two points.
An antidote to this “she’s above me” thing…a good friend of mine once said that no matter how gorgeous a woman is, somebody somewhere is sick of her shit.
He was going through a divorce at the time, from a very good-looking and incredibly annoying self-centered woman. But his statement is valid. I am happily married…and still get sick of my wife’s shit sometimes.
As a 43yo lifelong bachelor (and trust me, you’d know the moment you saw me), everybody is out of my league. I’ve dated twice in the past year, both women who had been married before, so I guess I’m doing pretty well, considering.
I dated out of my league once. I was in college and went out with one of the football players, and he was smokin’ hot. (I looked for somebody who looks like he did. Adam Rodriguez is close - this guy had a thinner face and lips, but you get the idea.) I look alright, and at the time I wasn’t fat (though I thought so), but I’ve never even approached that level of hot. When he asked me out, you could have knocked me over with a feather.
As it turned out, I was also way out of his league. He was a shining testament to the power of dumb. I just couldn’t bear it, no matter how stunning he was. (And he was. Sigh.)
Thirded.