In this thread, the OP requested information on possible cultural differences that might be relevant when dating a Thai woman. Perciful posted the following:
I don’t know what to say to this. I really don’t.
In this thread, the OP was concerned because her boyfriend had lost interest in sex and she was feeling pretty bad about it. She explained that he was going through a stressful period and thought that might be a factor. In the very second reply, Perciful said:
Fortunately, the suggestion that the boyfriend was a pedophilic alcoholic bisexual cheater didn’t completely derail the thread.
As it continued, many men confessed that they themselves had gone through periods of low libido due to stress factors. Perciful’s response?
So she just said that practically every guy in the thread isn’t a real man. Charming.
Later, Alice the Goon tries to take up for her a little, saying “You guys need to give **Perciful **a break. She’s old- she comes from a time when men were men, and if he wasn’t fucking you, he was fucking somebody” I have to respectfully disagree with that. Being old is no excuse for being an insensitive moron.
It’s not like we have a shortage of insensitive morons on this board, but at least with most of them, you can see that their idiocy is based on on a consistent set of deeply held convictions, such as religion or raging narcissism. But Perciful’s moronic insensitivity doesn’t seem to have any basis other than her own random delusions. And worse than that, she has no hesitation about saying such hurtful things!
Perciful is worse than useless and just flat-out disgusting.
The comments about Thai people are clearly xenophobic and silly and tendentious.
The stuff about guys that aren’t putting out is not a big deal, and she was raising some plausible, legitimate questions. If a guy isn’t doing his girlfriend anymore, it very often IS because he’s getting it somewhere else, or because he’s not really into women.
That’s not the case 100% of the time, of course, but both scenarios happen with enough frequency that it isn’t ridiculous to consider them.
Yeah, Dio, but you were one of the few that AGREED with her stupid ass. It’s not ridiculous to consider it as an option, but it’s ridiculous to state it as a fact.
Wait just a minute…you said the following in the above thread:
And in this thread you said that it might not always be true:
Holy crap! Dio just conceded that he’s not always right!! Sticky this thread folks and save it for posterity.
Well I don’t know why you had to bring me into this- in the quoted thread I was only trying to point out that she* is* old, and back in her day, that was the general thought process. Some folks get trapped back in time, back when they were relevant, and they don’t grow and change like others do. I didn’t have anything to do with her Thai thread remarks- that’s clearly off the deep end, right there.
While I agree that it’s a legitimate concern, I think there’s better ways to bring up the possibility that giving two pretty extreme anecdotes and making no mention of any possible signs. When it’s patently clear that the OP is under stress (SO possibly losing his job, lump in her breast, lack of initimacy in the relationship), I think it could have been done more tactfully. I think it was apparent that the OP was already aware of that possibility and was giving some of the context of the situation so people could say “sure, stress sounds reasonable” or “no, sounds fishy to me”, and not “he might be gay or a pedophile”.
And, again, while it may be a legitimate concern, given the level of stress, I don’t think it’s unreasonable that stress is the problem. But moreover, I don’t think that post alone is enough reason for Green Bean here to have pitted Perciful, but the fact that she later came in and basically asserted that he was definitely cheating with that last comment. So, quite honestly, it seems a little misandristic to me.
I’m not sure it’s misandristic, but she does seem to extropolate a lot from personal, anecdotal experience, and it sounds like she’s had some bad luck with men.
But also to his credit, he also admitted in that thread that he has never been clinically depressed, so has no experience with the effects of that condition.
I thought Perciful WAS Sarah Palin as she would be on the Dope.
Sorry about that Alice. You were just part of the story. And besides, I do disagree that people should get a pass for being old. I’ll give them a partial pass for believing some stupid stuff, but not for saying it. If they’re old enough to be old, they’re old enough to know better.
I don’t have a cite handy at the moment, but I’m fairly certain that there are legitimate, physiological reasons why the elderly are more likely to say things that the rest of us would consider less than tactful. Call it a loss of filter.
I endorse this Pitting. I didn’t to derail the other thread so I kept my response short and to the point, but you said pretty much everything I would have, Green Bean.
She isn’t that old. I just looked at some of her old posts and she mentions growing up in the 60s and 70s. That would put her somewhere in her early to mid 50s at the oldest. I would describe myself as growing up in the 60s and 70s, and I’m not quite 50 yet.
