Performance anxiety. Poll? Suggestions?

The situation:

My ‘soon-to-be, I-hope’ boyfriend has invited me to spend the night. Of course, I am looking forward to it, but I’ve started getting some performance anxiety. We haven’t been seeing each other for very long and I’m not sure exactly what he likes. I am not very experienced and am afraid that this might turn out to be some sort of test.

We have been to bed once before, for a couple of hours, and think we both enjoyed it (I sure did). I suppose that he wouldn’t have invited me again if he hadn’t enjoyed that session (no sex, BTW, but much fun anyway).

My questions:

  1. Is performance anxiety common, and how do others deal with it?
  2. Without a lot of questioning, how can I tell what he wants me to do? For instance, I think he would be interested in some mild bondage, but, I not into that (right now).
  3. Hi, O… (no, I won’t go there).

Any suggestions others can offer would be appreciated. We are both males if that makes any difference (I don’t think it should).

Well, the mods might determine that this isn’t a poll after all, but
move it if you so desire.

Thanks,

Bob

Maybe I should mention that while I have little experience, he has lots, including several past relationships, some of which have not been pleasant, so he certainly knows what he likes.

Bob