Actually, sounds like some uncaring and ill-informed drone of a county clerk. Before she dated me, my girlfriend was dating a judge. She’s considering giving him a call for advice, but needless to say, she feels a little icky about that as well. And from what she’s told me before, he sounds like a bit of a tool. He once put a little girl back into custody of her pedophile father “because I said so and that’s my ruling and there will be no more discussion about it.”
From the state of the best football team in the world, the best baseball team in the world, the state of legal gay marriage, and hopefully the state of the next president.
I love living here, but I guess sometimes being in such a liberal place has its drawbacks.
You know, it just occurred to me, this woman has had to put up with more shit than any human should be asked to.
You might remember my Pit thread of a month or two ago about the nursing home “care” her mother is receiving. You probably don’t remember the Pit thread from last Xmas eve when her car was broken into and then vandalized, and her own sister couldn’t be bothered to give her a ride to the airport. Other than that, I never Pitted the sister, who so richly deserves it. I never Pitted her alcoholic abusive father or alcoholic abusive ex-husband (who is now runing for office in a small European country). Nor did I Pit her sister’s Mob boss control freak father in law. I could have written an extensive rant on her job, for which she still has no contract. And I barely even responded to the doper who blasted her, by name, for her liberal views.
God, if you exist, give her a fucking pass already, huh?
Like I said, I think your GF needs a lawyer. Not advice. Not words of encouragement. Not counseling. Not a trip to the County Clerk for an RO.
Remember, this has been mishandled for 15 years now. It is time to start handling the case properly. Properly would include a lawyer, and a hearing(which she clearly did NOT have, hell I’d doubt it if she actually sent in the application), and outing all of the nasty icky, creepy thing this guy has done over the past 15 years. Otherwise, this will escalate sooner or later and somebody will get hurt.
I have this feeling your GF has a pride problem. I know there’s a fair amount of shame that goes along with this kind of behavior, but she needs to get past it and get help. Not advice. If she doesn’t get that, you need to impress that upon her. Otherwise, you’re just as much the problem as she is.
Christ.
Sam
Excellent idea. I’ll bring it up to her.
Trust me on this, I deal with similar stuff every day. I hate to see people who don’t deserve restraining orders get them, and I hate to see those who need them not get them.
Sam
P.S.- IANAL, and this does not constitute any sort of advice.
Sadly, I find this to be very believable. I attempted to get a restraining order against an ex-boyfriend a few years ago. After we broke up, he went about systematically destroying my car. He started out by keying each side, taking the antennae, then egging it - all over a period of a couple of months. Unable to get the desired results from me, he then confessed to his actions on his AOL member profile and threatened me and my family in the process. A local cop suggested getting a restraining order against him. After running all over town, I was told that my only option would be a protection from abuse order (PFA). But since he hadn’t physically hit me within the past two weeks (never did actually, just threatened to) I couldn’t get even that.
She might want to talk to a rape crisis center or domestic violence center for a legal referral. Some organizations that deal in violence against women give legal referrals to lawyers who are skilled in this kind of law and who can represent the victim.
Robin