Questions about different sexual positions (TMI, obviously)

[cowgirl]

I third the nomination of this as the best thread ever.

The next question has to do with the position where the woman is on top, but facing away from the man.

CanvasShoes said:

This one is just for show. But, I could be wrong, maybe there are some who reallly like it.

It’s my husband’s absolute favourite. (Don’t tell him I said so !) I like it too: partly because he loves it so much, and partly because of the interesting angle. With a pillow under his hips it’s really easy for me to move around in all kinds of ways. I think I even like it better than facing the other way. Mmm.

But I’m thinking that for that one to work, the man would have to have a really small penis.

nope … no worries there ! And I love that irishgirl called it

the reverse cowgirl position.

Heh, heh.

Also, what Cranky said:

Make an effort to let her know you find her beautiful and attractive from every angle. Let me tell you, if a guy told me my ass looked fabulous when I was on my hands and knees, he’d be seeing me like that often. Tell her you love the curves of her back, the way her neck looks.

SHOUT IT TO THE ROOFTOPS ! Print this out and put it on your fridge, bulletin board at work, etc etc. I find that men are often amazed at how much women are plagued by insecurity. Of course you think she’s beautiful/hot/amazing/the most attractive person you’ve ever imagined. But she often still thinks her butt is too big and her chin is too small and her stretch marks look terrible, and that if you’ve said otherwise you’re only trying to make her feel better. Tell her she’s fabulous and make sure she knows how much you mean it. This is the best possible aphrodesiac !

[cowgirl]

On second thought, maybe not your bulletin board at work.

[lachesis]

*Originally posted by Rashak Mani *
**I’m a man… but I will give me “input” on this matter:
My suggestion is stop asking and start doing things in order to get your wife into “doggie” position. When your alone and in the kitchen for example… approach her from behind, hug her and fondle her until she is ready… then bend her over and voila ! She will get used to at least being “handled” from behind.
**

ummm, word of caution here. timing is everything (as with most of life). if the wife is in the middle of preparing dinner or otherwise engaged in culinary matters, the grab-and-grope mode could just as easily result in you getting a frying pan to the noggin as getting any hope of action. i know few things infuriate me more than my husband deciding to try and get frisky when i’m trying to get everything off the stove and onto the table in a reasonably coordinated fashion.

also has a likelihood of backfiring if your wife is on the shy side, fondling-wise. and i’m admittedly reading into this that she may well be, in this still-early point of your marriage.
and while i don’t do graphic details regarding my sex life, my husband’s explanation for the appeal of the “woman on top with back to him” position is that it tends to move the penis into a pointing-down position, as opposed to the usual pointing-up one. apparently this provides a quite different level of sensation.

[norinew]

Hubby and I also do the “scissors grip”, and love it! It also allows (way too much TMI ahead, but, hey, Godzilla started it!) to slide a well-lubed finger inside of him, guaranteeing automatic climax for him (whcih is great for me, if we’ve gone for an hour or more and I’m getting tired!

Spoon style: the advantages of this are 1) no one has to work too hard. 2) so easy for him to wrap his arms around me and touch anything on the front part of my body (this position does work well for anal sex, btw).

Doggy-style: we like it, it does offer deeper penetration (and he’s not that well-endowed), but we’ve found a variation thereon that we like even better: I assume typical doggy style position, but on the very edge of the foot of the bed. He stands behind me, and penetrates like that. This position has a number of advantages: 1) he says the view is great! 2) I can squeeze his thighs with me legs, which for some reason drives him crazy! 3) his knees don’t get tired like they do with traditional doggy-style 4) he can reach all sorts of fun-to-fondle parts!

If you sense that your wife is a little hesitant to try different positions, you might try telling her that you love her, you don’t intend to ever have sex with anyone else, but you’d like to figure out all the different ways the two of you can enjoy one another! IMHO, married sex with someone you’ve been with for some time and know very well kicks the shit out of sex with someone less familiar!

Good luck!

[godzillatemple]

Thanks for all the comments so far! I really was just looking to satisfy my curiosity, not ask for advice on how to convince my wife to try new things. I will admit, though, that this thread has started to inspire me a bit…

As I mentioned before, my wife and I were both virgins when we got married. And you don’t get to be 37 (or 34, for her) and still remain a virgin without being seriously boring people, believe me. Fortunately, being boring is like eating garlic – as long as you both do it, it’s fine…

My “decision” to remain a virgin was largely a product of a strict religious upbringing, which continued to influence my feelings of what was “right” or “comfortable” long after I abandoned religion. For her, it’s purely a matter of culture; where she grew up, people just do not have sex before marriage, period. She tells me that this attitude is changing as China belatedly enters the 20th century, but for her, like me, it became a deeply ingrained attitude.

One difference between us is that I have been exposed to the wonderful world of pornography and have always wondered about what it would be like to have sex in various positions, whereas she has NEVER been exposed to pornography and thinks that the Missionary position is the only “normal” way to have sex. I don’t complain, since I enjoy having sex with her any way we do it, but I do worry that she may not be getting as much out of it as she could, and I have to admit I still wonder what it would be like to try other positions (especially “doggy-style.” for reasons I don’t quite understand)

Anyway, after having read the comments so far, I decided to try talking to my wife about it. I told her that I had been doing some research on how to have more enjoyable sex, especially when the man is not particularly well endowed. When I first mentioned that maybe we could try doing it with me behind her, she was horrified because she thought I was referring to anal sex. I assured her that wasn’t what I meant, and then she was worried that I wanted to have sex standing up (which I certainly wouldn’t mind trying, but not what I was talking about). I told her that I didn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable, and if we tried something that she didn’t like, we wouldn’t have to do it again. She agreed, but she was a bit tentative and I didn’t push her on it right away.

We don’t have a lot of time for sex during the week due to the fact that we both work crazy hours and I have to get up a lot earlier than she does in the morning. Which is to say we do have sex during the week, but it’s often a bit on the rushed side and not conducive to experimentation because we’re both exhausted and she worries that I’ll be too tired in the morning. But we don’t have any plans for this weekend…

Barry

[NajaNivea]

My two cents:
Doggy style is nice, although I’m terribly insecure in that position, so what tends to happen is after we get into position, I end up with my chest on the bed, butt in the air, arms either under my head or holding onto his knees behind. I think it sort of increases the stimulation for him as well, something like pulling your knees up to your chest in missionary position.
Another one that we like a lot which may work for shy/self-concious/non-adventurous types is me lying on my belly and him lying on top of me–this is a penetration from behind sort of position which doesn’t require a lot of work on my part, and directly stimulates my g-spot with every thrust
I should probably note that I’m not, erm, terribly athletic, and Mr. Armadillo is not terribly adventurous, so our repertoir is fairly limited in the sexual positions department, and we use the missionary position about 65% of the time. But that’s okay for us because we both enjoy the face-to-face aspect, and it’s a position that’s satisfying for both of us, whereas doggy style and a few of the other positions we use seem mostly designed to stimulate him and can become somewhat ho-hum for me unless there are hands and/or toys involved.
We recently discovered the spooning-sex thing and hoooo-boy will we be doing that again! I am fairly well-endowed in the (ahem) buttockal area, so I had to arch my back a bit to get the angle right, but it wasn’t really difficult at all. My top leg was sort of cocked back over his legs and he could easily play with my breasts and nipples and various other sensitive bits while kissing and biting along my neck and shoulders which in and of itself is sometimes enough to do me in, heh.

Ahem. Off to find Mr. Armadillo.

Good luck, godzilla!

[Askance]

Another one that we like a lot which may work for shy/self-concious/non-adventurous types is me lying on my belly and him lying on top of me–this is a penetration from behind sort of position which doesn’t require a lot of work on my part, and directly stimulates my g-spot with every thrust

Oooh, yeah, we love that one too, in fact it’s our regular "finisher’. She likes my weight on her, but still has some freedom to wriggle round and can still reach lots of me with her hands … gotta go now!

[Silentgoldfish]

The only real time me and the gf tried doggy she hurt for a few days after. Missionary has no problems, so any guesses as to why it didn’t work?

[GSV_Consolation_of_Dreams]

Mrs. GSV loves it doggy. But I have trouble balancing on my knees while in motion due to the difference in heights of our upper legs.

I’ve found that I can solve this by kneeling with my legs outside hers. This makes it possible for me to bend over and kiss her neck and back while thrusting without putting all my weight on her.

This position is a good one for lightly biting your lady between the shoulder and neck and just below her hair… think “Discovery channel lions” but make sure you’re not biting too hard for her.

[Askance]

*Originally posted by Silentgoldfish *
**The only real time me and the gf tried doggy she hurt for a few days after. Missionary has no problems, so any guesses as to why it didn’t work? **

Where did it hurt her? If deep inside, you must have been going in too deep for her, probably hitting the cervix.

[CanvasShoes]

It’s my husband’s absolute favourite. (Don’t tell him I said so !) I like it too: partly because he loves it so much, and partly because of the interesting angle. With a pillow under his hips it’s really easy for me to move around in all kinds of ways. I think I even like it better than facing the other way. Mmm.

So how do you do it so that it doesn’t hurt???

[Napier]

In my now many years old experience, having the woman on top of me (and facing me) gives her more control and allows her to move her soft nether parts too and fro, alternately toward my head and my toes. She does this rythmically by arching her back in alternate directions, I think, and gets a sort of resonance going. I read somewhere that this gets more friction working on the clitoris. What my first gf said, though, was that it felt good to get the head of my penis flipping back and forth over her cervix (which felt good to me too). Unfortunately, this is a pretty dim memory at this point - I never discussed it online at the time because PCs and the Internet didn’t exist yet…