Dragongirl:
What a fine response to your survey.
Me? Well reading this thread has reminded me of the woman I have lived for for 32 years. She’s sitting in the other room watching some crappy movie, I think I’ll join her. No lingerie ripping, no PMT just comfort, admiration and gratitude.
Nite all.
Sometimes I try just listening–“Eek, there’s a huge ugly roach in the kitchen!” “Oh, that’s horrible, isn’t it?” 
OK, more seriously, I guess it depends on the subject matter. Some of the time I’m assuming I’m being asked if I can do something about it; other times it isn’t something that needs “fixing”, or the “fix” consists of holding her and making her feel understood. Or I’ll talk about my own experiences if they seem parallel or relevant.
Some lingerie is cute and sexy. Most of the best is somewhere in between great big granny briefs and silly-cut Victoria’s Secret stuff–something like bikinis from Jockey. An old t-shirt would be pretty sexy too. Or a button-front shirt, with the “tails” tied!
Yeah, sometimes Or a warm glow and a smile that won’t stop…
Well, change the blade cartridge when you’re done, so I don’t remove my cheek next time I go to shave. And don’t take the last blade. Other than that, no problem.
No, my first reaction, is “Oh shit, she’s pissed off. What’s the real issue here?” (Gee, did I do something?)
I like to be hugged and “affectionated”. I wish she’d do more of that.
We split. I cook and take garbage to the trash chute and mop the floors. She washes the pots 'n pans and loads/unloads the dishwasher. We take turns doing the bahtroom, and we take turns not dusting ;). We go grocery shopping together. She picks up (I don’t see clutter, I’m oblivious to it). I do the laundry, except for the sheets and towels which we send out.
::drool:: Mmm, tomboys!! ::sigh::
It’s nice to be needed (or at least to feel like you have areas of expertise) but I don’t think I have any that are gender-specific if you know what I mean. I like a good balance. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who made me feel incompetent at everything, nor would I want to spend time with someone who seemed unable to excel at anything.
Anyone attempting to perform oral sex on me will most likely get thrown up on. I dont’ know why but I really hate it and it grosses me out. I’m willing to provide it the other way but that doesn’t do anything for me either, in and of itself. (At least that doesn’t gross me out though, it just isn’t erotic for me).
- When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
I constantly have to fight my inclination to try to fix. Listening is a very tough skill for me.
- How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
I like both, everything: variety is the key. If the attitude is sexy, the outfit will be, too.
- If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
not exactly butterflies, but definitely something distinctive.
- How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
No problem. Even better if I am given the opportunity to help her with some of those hard to get to places.
- When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
yes. Often I’m right. But she hates it when I ask that, so I’ve learned not to mention it.
- When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance.
I love it when she initiates.
- If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ?
If she didn’t have an out of the house job, I guess I’d expect her to be responsible for more of the housework. Since she works, I try (but fail) to do about half. Honestly, it’s probably more like her 55-60%, me 40-45%.
- What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ?
I love tomboys, natural look (no makeup, regular clothes, etc), but I don’t care for a lot of vulgarity or profanity, in her or myself or anyone, really.
- How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
I like to be needed, to be thanked for doing things for her, but I also wouldn’t like it if she were needy or clingy or dependent. I think there’s a nice balance of mutual dependence that’s possible.
- How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO.
Possible TMI: I’m probably a fairly rare guy, in that I am not too wild about receiving oral sex–I’d much rather engage in intercourse or get a hand job than oral. On the other hand, performing oral sex on her is one of my VERY favorite activities and usually that immediately precedes our “making the beast with two backs.”
*1. When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of
ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ? *
It depends on the situation. Sometimes, I try to make suggestions, sometimes, it’s better just to listen.
Hard to describe the difference, but sometimes listening is all you can do. But if I come up with any ideas, I’ll
usually share them. And yes, I do feel responsible for some problems. I cause some problems. But not the rest of them, no.
2. How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or
would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
Lingerie is certainly a turn-on. And while I have, on occasion, felt like ripping it off, I don’t generally
succumb to that temptation. 
That can get expensive rather quickly. As for the old t-shirt, hey, that’s fine, too.
Nothing at all is just as good. I think mood and attitude matter a whole lot more than what she’s wearing.
3. If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see
her ?
This one’s a little tougher to answer, as I’m just recently out of a three year rel-p. But yes, it did still happen. Hell, still does for
that matter. Just doesn’t have the same conclusion.
*4. How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ? *
chuckle It doesn’t bother me, really. As long as I know it’s been done, so I can change the blade when it needs it.
Otherwise, I’ll just tear myself up using it. But from a theoretical standpoint, why should I care? If I’m willing to be
intimate with her, then why should it matter that she’s using my razor?
*5. When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”? *
Nope. That thought doesn’t cross my mind. It’s usually more along the lines of “She had a bad day” or “Something is wrong”…
IMHO, attributing a bad mood to PMS is stupid…there’s usually something else causing a bad mood, even if PMS is involved.
Find out what’s really wrong, and fix it.
6. When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as
much as romance.
Not sure where you’re going with this one…but: I certainly don’t have a problem with her initiating it. Not a chance.
Romance/ fun / new things to do should come from both of you.
*7. If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What
percentage do you do ? *
Technically N/A, but we both tried to split it up evenly, especially in regard to one of us doing the things that the other really
didn’t like to do. But it is a job for both, if you’re both working.
*8. What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about
it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of
women like that ? If yes, Why ? *
I don’t have a bad opinion of them at all. I think a lot of women wear more makeup than they really need…and most of my female friends can cuss with the best of them. General grooming is certainly important. But I don’t expect a woman to put on makeup, do her hair, etc, to go out to a movie, or run to the grocery store, etc. Dressing up has its place. But it doesn’t have to happen just to leave the house.
9. How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about
everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
At this point I expect a relatively high level of independence, actually. I neither need nor want someone who is seriously dependent on me for a lot of things. So, no, it doesn’t hurt my self-esteem any. If there is something I can help with, or do for her, great. But I know perfectly well that she can probably take care of it on her own.
*10. How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem
? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO. *
laugh Overall, not important at all. Intimacy in general is important. Sex itself, of any variety, is rather important. But specifically receiving oral sex? Not a big deal. If I do, hey, great. But I enjoy giving more than receiving anyway.
- When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
I generally think of ways to fix them, then either shut up or put my MS in counseling skills to work. I only felt responsible when I was in fact responsible.
- How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
I like it. It is a turn-on. I once had an SO who would sometimes stop on her way out the door and say, “I’m wearing ______. Do you want to meet me at home for lunch?” Made work awful difficult.
- If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
I did, until she left.
- How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
Never happened. I’d probably just put in a new blade and buy her a razor.
- When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
Uh, actually let slip to my last SO that I tracked her periods on the calendar. “Why is there a little red heart on the calendar?” "Uh, um, er . . . " I did it because she would get real emotional 4-5 days before her period and I just wanted to know when it was hormones and when it wasn’t.
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When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ?
It’s cool, though I’m not much on PDA. -
What percentage do you do ?
With my last SO I did about 80% of the housework. It was a problem between us. -
What do you think of tomboys ?
Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot.
I like a woman that dresses like a woman at least some of the time. The lack of make-up and fairly natural hair are pluses to me.
- How independant do you like women to be ?
As much as she wants to be.
Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ?
Nope.
Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
Nope. I grew up around independent women, so I consider a lack of independence a drawback.
- How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ?
My last SO didn’t do it, and I was dissapointed. I had NEVER been with a woman who didn’t do oral sex.
If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? Nope. It’s not a self-esteem issue. But it did make me less interested in sex.
1. Listener or fixer?
I usually try more to listen, because that’s what she wants most of the time. I’ll try to help too, if I can.
**2. Lingerie ? **
Not a major turn-on. Sometimes nice.
3. butterflys?
[sub]not really[/sub] Happiness, affection, joy. Warm fuzzies is a nice way to put it.
**4. Share razors? **
I prefer not to. I get a better shave from a fresh razor. But I’ve switched to electric anyway.
**5. When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”? **
No, it doesn’t occur to me. But PMS does affect her moods.
**6. SO initiating romance? **
I like it a lot.
**7. If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job… ? **
She works, and we try to share it. But we’re both equally good at avoiding housework.
**8. What do you think of tomboys ? **
I’m more attracted to tomboys. Women who spend too much time on hair and makeup (and shoes and clothes) make me uncomfortable. I like people who are down to earth.
9. How independant do you like women to be ?
I like independent women. The helpless female bit is a big turn-off. It really doesn’t make me feel any better about myself if my partner is unable or unwilling to handle simple tasks. Don’t get me wrong - I like to help her and I like working on things together. But I don’t believe in old-fashioned ideas of ‘men’s work’ and ‘women’s work’.
Also, I’m an introvert and as much as I love my wife, I need time to be by myself. If she’s were so emotionally dependent that she couldn’t deal with that, we’d be in trouble.
**10. How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? **
A little important, but not for self-esteem reasons.
This thread reminds me how lucky I am to have such a wonderful woman in my life. She is so much better than I deserve. Thanks for that, dragongirl!
I dunno whether my opinion will be helpful or not. I mean, I’m still a guy, right? Well, theoretically. Anyway, here goes:
>1. When your SO talks about their problems, do you find
>yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them?
>And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
I try to figure out whether he wants to commiserate or brainstorm or both, and respond appropriately. Something like “I had a miserable day” is more likely to get commiseration - something like “I’m having a problem with such-and-such” will get some commiseration and some gentle attempts at problem-solving.
>2. How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or
>does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather
>see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
Well, not lingerie… but sexy underwear is a plus.
>3. If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get
>butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
The boyfriend I was with the longest - I did, and still do to some extent. (Well, not in my stomach. :o )
>4. How do you feel about women using your razor to shave
>their legs or anything else ?
This is unsafe. It can transmit blood-borne infections.
>6. When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO
>initating it ?
It depends on whether I’m responsive or not. (Yes, I can be a pain sometimes.)
>7. What percentage do you do ?
>With my last SO I did about 80% of the housework. It was a
>problem between us.
I’ve only lived with one of my SOs. Both of us felt we did too much of the housework. He probably did somewhat more than I did, but then, he had somewhat more time.
>8. What do you think of tomboys ?
I love tomboys! There was this character in an animé I just finished watching (Gundam Wing) called Lucrezia Noin, and she was what we call a bi-phonen - a girl who could practically be a really beautiful guy (bishounen).
To be isomorphic, femme guys are my favourite type.
>9. How independant do you like women to be ?
I like women to be as independent as men. And I expect my SOs to be independent too.
>Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about
>everything ?
Certainly not. If he can’t, I get worried.
>Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
When a SO relies on me for the fulfilment of his emotional needs, disaster is ahead.
>10. How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ?
I love receiving oral sex.
- I try to think of things,ussually unsucesfully though and of course I feel responsible sometimes because sometimes I AM responsible.
- I’m indifferent I guess, its nice to see and it gets me “going”, but I’m a guy, it dont take much to get me “going”.
- Sometimes, say maybe 75% of the time.
- That shit better never happen.
- No
- I’d rather she initiated it.
- I feel its split evenly. ~50%
- I like tomboys. My SO has a worse mouth than I do. She dresses nicer than I do. She wears more makeup than me.
- I like my women independant. I’m not much of a people person so she does most of the talking to people that need to be talked to. I dont know if that fits in here or not.
- Not super important. I almost never ask for one. I’m greatful when I do get one. It does no damage to my ego if I dont(why would it???).
dead0man
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When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
I’m a guy. I always think in terms of solutions. I have learned, however, than sometimes the lady might not be looking for one, so I’ll keep it to myself.
I don’t feel responsible for anyone’s problems but my own - I may feel concerned, though. -
How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
I think my SO would look fine wearing a garbage bag, but I’d be lying if I said lingerie doesn’t turn me on. Rip it off? Sometimes. -
If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
Been with her for 6 months, but it’s a long distance thing. I’m seeing her again tomorrow night, and I’ve had butterflies in my stomach for the past 3 days. -
How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
Don’t touch my razor. -
When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
No. -
When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance.
Fine. It should be evenly split, IMHO. -
If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ?
We don’t live together, but if we would be, I’d be taking on 50% of the work unless there were circumstances dictating another percentage. -
What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ?
Not a bad opinion at all, but I do prefer girls to be a little, well, mroe girly. -
How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
As independant as possible. It’s good to know that there are things you can help your SO with: it’s not a good thing to know she couldn’t do without you for half of her daily tasks. -
How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO.
Damage my self esteem? No. It’s not unimportant, though.
Does that help?
1. When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
Most of her problems are job-stress related, so I mainly just listen while she vents about the day’s stupidity. Sometimes I have a suggestion on how to handle a situation, but mostly I’m there as moral support. Unless the problem is my fault, I don’t feel responsible for them. If it is my fault, I try to fix it.
2. How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
I like lingerie, but an old T-shirt looks fine on her as well. The T-shirt, however, is much easier to remove. 
3. If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
I’ve been with her for 10 years. Like some of the other posters, the butterflys have turned into warm fuzzies over the years, but there still moments when I look at her and say: “Damn, I’m lucky to have her.”
4. How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
I hate when she does this. She doesn’t do it very often, but when she does, she almost always forgets to replace the blade. Nothing like grabbing a razor I know I’ve only used once and finding out (too late) that she used it the night before. Might as well be shaving with a cheese grater.
5. When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
Nah, actually more like: “Oh, shit. What did I do this time.” Then I remember and the apologizing begins.
6. When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance.
I’m all for it.
7. If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ?
She is not a homemaker, but I feel like it should be split evenly. In practice, however, I generally do a much smaller percentage than she does due to my being a lazy ass. I know, I know, I’m working on it. I actually like doing the laundry, for what that’s worth.
8. What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ?
No real opinion on tomboys. Whatever makes you happy, I say go with it.
9. How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
My wife is very independent. She doesn’t need my approval to make decisions about going shopping or spending time with her friends or whatever. Major decisions like large purchases and job changes are discussed jointly, of course.
10. How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO.
It’s nice when I get it, but I don’t expect it all the time and whether or not I get any has no bearing on our relationship.
Hope this helps you.
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I definitely want to listen to their problems. I wouldn’t ask “So, how was your day?” if I didn’t want to hear about it. Plus, I’ve taken it upon myself to make people smile/happy, so hearing about their problems is a good one for 1) them to relax, 2) me to know what’s going on with them, and 3) gague a way to help make them feel better.
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Lingerie is nice, I try to show respect for a nice set of bra and panties, but honestly, the old T-shirt thing is cute as hell and much more a turn on. Lingerie is good, and it feels nice if she wants to dress up and do something sexy for you, but I’ll find her sexy pretty much no matter what she wears, and I like it when there’s no clothes on whatsoever, so although it’s nice and appreciated, I like to get it off, so there’s not much point.
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If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ? Butterlies, queesiness, anxiety, joy, happiness…yeup!
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Smooth legs are nice. Also, I LOVE to perform, but hair does get in the way. I don’t like them completely shaved down there, but I appreciate it kept clean so I’m not treking through a jungle. And I think a razor is much more humane than one of those lady norelco spring loaded torture devices.
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My first reaction is to put my arms around her and try and calm her down with compassion. That doesn’t always work, so I try and talk things through. That often causes more problems, so then I just try and be there, be nice, and let her work things out. But PMS never really pops into my had as an excuse.
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It’s nice to have the woman suggest something other than “Whatever you want to do, I don’t mind,” because you know they do. It would be nice to have a girl suggest “Hey, I’ve got a great plan for this evening. Pick me up at eight and dress nice.”
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It should be divided up.
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It depends on how much a boy they are, I guess. Not a big fan of butch girls, but I like a girl who can swear like a sailor.
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I like independent women. My idea of a good relationship is one where the two of you want to spend every waking minute with one another, but don’t NEED to spend every waking moment with one another. Codependant relationships sicken me.
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Oral sex is important, yes. Swallowing is also important, because of the whole acceptance thing. It really makes you question things if as soon as she’s done, she feels the need to immediately wash her mouth out. Not the best feeling in the world. On the other hand, some girls just hate to give head. THe fact that they’re willing to perform up to the point of climax is enough to feel satisfied and happy enough to get over the fact she doesn’t swallow. But personally, if it comes to giving vs. receiving, I prefer to give.
**More questions for the guys in my endless quest to understand the way men think.
- When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ? *** I used to try to fix the problem, now I usually just listen. And it’s pretty rare that I feel responsible for her problems.*
2. How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ? *** T-shirt please.*
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If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ? *** Cant say as I do. ***
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How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ? *** I don’t care.***
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When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?*** Never crosses my mind.
- When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance. *** In theory, I like her initiating. In practice, I don’t.
- If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ? *** Seperate living. I do all my housework. When we lived together, I didn’t do much of it aside from my own laundry.
- What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ? *** I love tomboys. I’ve never gone out with a woman who uses makeup more than rarely or at all. Dressing up would be strange, as I never do it, so we’d be mismatched.
- How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ? *** Very independant! I like spending time with someone, not fulfilling their life for them.
- How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO. ***Both getting and giving very important. I’ve had girlfriends who didn’t like giving, but that wasn’t as bad as the one’s who didn’t like getting it. Both are a huge stimulant to me.
This list of questions comes from conversations I’ve had with some of my friends, Their husbands don’t really feel comfortable being asked these things and make don’t take the questions seriously. So, we ask for your opinions. *** I can’t imagine why somone would feel uncomfortable answering these questions, unless their desired answers conflict with their actions.*
Right.
So, if I care only about my own needs I’m selfish and inconsiderate, but if I derive satisfaction from putting my wife’s needs first I’m “co-opting her orgasm”? WTF is up with that?
Also, how long have you been in a stable and caring relationship>
- When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
Usually, I try to think of solutions. Somtimes I share these solutions, other times I just try to listen. Do I feel responsible? Depends on the problem – is it work, her family & friends, etc.? Then no. If it’s about our relationship, or our home, then sometimes I recognize my responsbility.
- How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
I find lingerie overrated. It’s useful as a “ready to pay” signal, but nothing about lingerie in and of itself is titillating.
- If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
Not anymore. The “butterflies” period only lasted about a month. Personally, I’d find getting butterflies over a long-time spouse or SO pretty unusual.
- How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
Shaving legs with a man’s facial razor dull the razor quickly. Try to avoid doing it, but if you must, tell your SO so that he can replace the blade
- When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
No. That’s the response of a Neanderthal
- When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance.
I love it and appreciate it deeply.
- If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ?
Not applicable. We both work 8-5, but I do 90% of the housework – go figure.
- What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ?
No problem with tomboys here. Tomboyishness, IMO, does not diminish a woman’s attractiveness at all – if she is, indeed, attractive at a visceral level. Incessant cursing is rather annoying, however.
- How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
I like women to be super-duper independent. The alternative is clinginess and a bit too much emotional maintenance/
- How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO.
Oral sex is fantastic and easily rivals intercourse. No, not getting it does not ruin my self-esteem.
1. When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
I listen, because she has told me in no uncertain terms that she does not want suggestions until she asks for them.
As for responsibility, only for those that I contribute to.
2. How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
Depends. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s superfluous.
3. If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
On occasion, and for no consistent reason.
4. How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
Considering the abuse my facial hair inflicts on my razor, she’d be a fool to use it, but I wouldn’t mind as long as she washed it off afterward.
5. When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
Only on those rare occasions I’m actively looking to get smacked around.
6. When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance.
I have no problem with it, as long as she doesn’t get mad if I’m not in the mood.
7. If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ?
Separate households. No help here.
8. What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ?
Nope. Don’t care. An excess of bad language can irritate me, but it doesn’t much depend on whether it’s a man or a woman saying it. As for make-up and hair and dress and the like, there are women whom I think look better dressed up and the like, but it’s hardly my place to say whether they should.
9. How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
Only if she assumes that I can’t handle things, or (and this is a HUGE issue between me and my wife) when she asks for help and then proceeds to do it herself.
10. How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO.
I enjoy it, but I don’t require it. If it’s been a while, I might ask, and if she doesn’t want to consistently, it may become a sticking point, but more because she’s rejecting a request generally than because she won’t do that particular thing.
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- When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
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We’ve gotten to the point in our relationship where mrs beagledave will cue me, either verbally or otherwise, as to what she’s looking for. I really try to offer a shoulder and open ear first…then wait to offer suggestions later…if warranted.
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2. How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
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Love lingerie
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3. If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
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Not everytime…different events will trigger it though. When I see her interact with our new baby…I’m puddy.
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4. How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
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Not happening. (She’s never asked to do it either…)
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5. When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
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Nope…it’s usually work related…or baby stress.
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6. When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance.
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I like it…she is usually the one to initiate it anyway…she picked me up afterall
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7. If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ?
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She’s not a homemaker…we try to split chores…I ed up doing most/all of the laundry while she gets groceries for example. I do the bathroom cleaning…she does the vacuuming. I’ve really tried hard to do the extra cleanups when she’s had a tough time with the baby.
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8. What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ?
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No strong opinion. Never really dated one…but have several as friends.
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9. How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
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I like teamwork. When I fix the washer…mrs beagledave is usually helping me…her talents complement mine…usually
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10. How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO.
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No comment. Gotta keep some things private.
You’re being wooshed here, although somewhat unfairly so. It’s a passing in-joke reference to a thread pertaining to the Ms. Magazine message board which had an active thread about men coopting women’s orgasms.
- When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems ?
Always listen but then I am a psychology honours student. I only feel responsible if there is a good reson why it was my fault or if I feel I could have been more helpful.
- How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
Lingerie does nothing gor me but some people do look damn good in it. Certain women do look much more sexy in a t-shirt tho…
- If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
Sorry havent been that lucky yet, my longest relationship was about 18 months and was kinda stale by the end (thats why it ended
- How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
I do not care in the least.
- When you SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
No because typically my SO and I are both aware of when her periods are and how bad her PMS is. I dont have to wonder. I know when it is and when it isnt.
- When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance.
I think that when one partner surprises the other then that is best kind of romance.
- If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ?
N/A
- What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ?
Not at all. I actually dig tomboys more than ‘ladylike’ women. I am a militant feminist and women who can’t stand up for themselves piss me off.
- How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
See above. However I must say that I am willing to do anything for my SO and giving in that way is, in it’s own way, a deep kind of intimacy. Knowing that you are needed, in a way that no-one else is, is a wonderful feeling. It may be a guy thing but it just feels good to have concrete evidence (for yourself) that you are contributing to your SO’s happiness. Guys try hard but it is difficult to know if you are doing the right things. When you are called upon to go out on a limb for your partner and you come through then you KNOW that you are doing the right things.
- How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO.
I have never had an SO who did not loooooove giving head so I dont know. If my partner was unwilling to experiment then tht would cause tension simply because it would mean that we are compeltley different people, sexually speaking. But if I loved her and she had a real objection then I think I would cope. I have no idea why it might hurt my self-esteem.
My pleasure.
cheers
I always feel instantly responsible for fixing them, and I always want to find ways to fix them. That’s my nature, of course; I like getting things fixed toute de suite.
Every now and then lingerie is nice, if it’s elegant and not slutty. A woman in a man’s dress shirt, however, THAT’S sexy.
No, because she doesn’t make me nervous anymore. Being around her relaxes me and makes me happy and comfortable. I feel at ease when Mrs. RickJay is with me.
Doesn’t bother me as long as there’s a few blades left. Like anything else, the person using the last bit should ensure more is available.
To be quite honest it never crossed my mind.
Wonderful.
My SO isn’t a homemaker.
My belief is that the work, in total, should be split evenly. If the husband is doing all the work outside the house, he should not be doing HALF the work inside the house, because then he’d be doing three quarters of the work, and what damn sense does that make? Either way, regardless of who’s working out or in, it should be 50-50.
I have expressed the desire before to be a homemaker. If Mrs. RickJay made enough to support us I’d LOVE to stay home. I hate working outside the house; I like working in it, even if it’s just keeping the house clean and taking care of the kids. If we were to have that arrangement I would never expect her to do any work at home. Why should anyone be asked to do one and a half jobs while the other does just half a job?
I like tomboys, although someone who swears a lot - especially to express anger or abuse others - is a lowlife. I don’t think swearing a lot is a “Tomboy” thing.
My expectation is that Mrs. RickJay will be an independent person. I shouldn’t have to support an adult. We’re equal partners.
I like blowjobs but it’s not that big a deal. I could live without them.
*1. When your SO talks about their problems, do you find yourself just listening or do you try to think of ways to fix them? And do you ever feel responsible for their problems *
I never feel responsible. Sometimes I just listen, sometimes I look for an answer. By my SO is at least as intelligent as I am and doesn’t really need me to provide a solution. If she asks for my opinion, I give it, else I just make “I understand” noises. (Actually, I wish she would stop trying to fix MY problems, it is very annoying and I usually know the answer myself.)
How do you feel about lingerie ? Does it turn you on ? Or does it just make you want to rip it off ? Or would you rather see your SO in an old T-shirt ?
Lingerie can be hot. However, wearing it is her option - other things about her turn me on.
If you have been with your SO for a long time, do you still get butterflys in your stomach when you see her ?
Sorry, this doesn’t apply to me.
How do you feel about women using your razor to shave their legs or anything else ?
LOL. It doesn’t bother me, but then, my beard is not that rough and is easy to shave. I have been known to use a razor for almost a year and so a dull blade doesn’t bother me.
5. When your SO is in a bad mood is your first reaction “Oh man, she has PMS”?
LOL. Nope. She is so rarely in a bad mood that if she is, I figure something is wrong.
6. When it comes to romance, How do you feel about your SO initating it ? I’m not talking about sex as much as romance.
I find it very attractive in a woman.
7. If your SO is a homemaker, do you feel that all of the housework is her job or is it split evenly ? What percentage do you do ?
Well … actually, neither of us is very keen on the housework. I guess we split ignoring it evenly.
8. What do you think of tomboys ? Women that can easily say a lot of bad words with out thinking about it, who don’t wear a lot of make-up or do their hair and don’t dress up a lot. Do you have a bad opinion of women like that ? If yes, Why ?
Some women pull this off, some don’t. I can’t give you a general answer on this. Women who swear don’t bother me.
9. How independant do you like women to be ? Does it hurt your self esteem if she can handle just about everything ? Do you like it when a woman needs you for a lot of things ?
I prefer VERY independant women. Also VERY smart women are sexy.
10. How important is it for you to recieve oral sex ? If you don’t get any, does it damage your self esteem ? I’m talking about only you getting anything from it, not returning it to your SO.
I LOVE oral sex. But it has nothing to do with my self esteem (where on earth did THAT question come from?) It just feels good. However, as I have told my SO many times - sex is supposed to be fun for BOTH parties. If a woman does not enjoy performing oral sex, then by god, I don’t want her to.
You didn’t ask this, but the biggest problem we run into is her insecurities. Her ex cheated on her almost from the day they were married and I’m paying for it. We once had a fight because my body language told her I was having a bad time… I am trying to be understanding, because I know the history - but on the other hand, I don’t like to be paying for someone else’s mistakes - I make enough of my one.