A nice young man in one of my classes has been chatting me up the last few class meetings. I would like to encourage him in this as he’s attractive and from our preliminary conversations we seem to have some things in common. At the very least, I’d like to find out more about him.
What should I do/say, or not do/say?
Would it be too forward to invite him over for dinner (pre-class) or drinks (post-class)?
Post-class coffee shop meeting to discuss that night’s lecture.
Aye - some place well lit and amenable to a conversation, and not in the primary business of selling alcohol.
Perhaps an Ice Cream shop, even, to imply that there’s more to your invitation than the business of education. Just a smidge more.
…and TALK, okay?
Not like crazy, but enough to hold up your end of the conversation. Too many women make the guy do all the work in situations like this, so it turns into an audition or job interview for him – one that he’s not likely to pass, frankly.
Talk. And don’t forget to smile. And good luck.
It depends how old the guy is. I use the old ‘lets study together’ trick often on the 20ish women in class. I don’t actually date people in the same class however, as I think thats a bit too risky.
I say definitely invite to a post-class activity, like drinks or coffee. Try to sit near him in class, and then walk out with him. As you’re walking out, you can casually ask if he’s busy and wants to go get a drink/cup of coffee. That way, even if he can’t make it, he (hopefully) knows that he can ask you out and you’ll say yes.
As for flirting in general, once you’re out, the best way to let him know that you’re romantically interested is casual touching. Touching his arm a few times during the course of a conversation is like a nice, subtle flashing neon sign for him to pick up on. Guys need you to be at least that obvious. We’re sort of dumb.