Quoth Little Nemo:
Except that, thanks to the roommate’s actions, this does involve the OP. She’s told her about the affair, and she’s asked her to help facilitate it. Like it or not, the OP is now involved. If the roommate had been discreet about it, then yes, you could say that lehkz should keep her nose to herself. But if it’s acceptable for the roommate to drag her into the mess, then it’s acceptable for lehkz to point out that it is a mess.
I wouldn’t go, and not because of the money. I wouldn’t go because it would lead to feeling like you weren’t wanted there, whenever he was there, implicitly and subtly. If they have their own room, ( I assume), they can suck it up, if they need more privacy, they need to make other arrangements. And I’d say I’ve already invited a friend over for tea, too.
Bottom line, this cheating man is too cheap to get a hotel, that’s what shouldn’t be accommodated at all costs, in my mind. He doesn’t want you around because he’ll feel judged. Insecure, and cheap. Lovely. The sooner she faces the truth about sneaking around the better. It ain’t weekends at the Ritz, especially with Sneaky Cheap Guy!
I’d make every possible reason why it doesn’t work for you, so sorry, maybe some other time. But, to be truthful, I’d always make an excuse. And if he grew the stones to brave it with me home, I make damn sure I was underfoot. If anyone deserves to feel out of place and uncomfortable it’s the cheapass cheater, to my mind.
Interesting post. I want to know more. For instance, apart from this specific affair, do either of you have sexual relations in the domicile when the other is present? Or is this married guy coming over an exception? What are the ages of all parties? Is $55 a lot of money to you? It wouldn’t be nearly enough to get me out of the house, but when I was 20 it might have been. Why is their getting a hotel room not an attractive option for them? Are you expected to vacate for the whole 2 days or just not spend the night at your place? Inquiring minds want to know.
Does sleeping elsewhere for two nights also mean not going to the apartment during the day? If they are off from work during this visit they might be “active” any time – awkward for them if you come by, awkward for you to not have access to your clothes, toiletries, etc.
How is this guy going to explain NOT having a hotel bill to his wife?
So they don’t NEED you to do this, it’s just a way to pinch pennies? Screw 'em (har!). Really, it will cost them less to get a room like they’ve been doing than to compensate you properly for vacating the apartment. The applicable morality is that you shouldn’t accept a significant inconvenience and a bad deal to boot just so they can save a buck. Hell, they should be ashamed for asking.
this.
and ditto on the guy being cheap. your room mate is selling herself short in more ways than one.
Screw it, you live there so they’ll have to be content letting you listen to the sex show. It’s not like you couldn’t go see a movie or other activities as well.
This is exactly what I’m thinking. In what way will this save money? They will have to pay for you to be put up in a hotel, just like they’d have to pay for themselves. Either the house is better than the hotel, in which they should pay you more, or it’s worse, and having to pay you the hotel price is a waste.
Now, if you already had someone to stay with, and the four of you got together and decided to do this, it would not be so weird, although I agree that doing anything for the express purpose of making the affair easier is participating in it. (Based on what the OP described, the paramours are having trouble affording their affair.)
I agree with the suggestions that they should pony up for a hotel room if they want privacy.
Nothing wrong with asking nicely if the roommate can make scarce for an evening or afternoon. But 2 days? That’s overreaching. And $55 is laughable.
Here’s an important point. If they’re asking you to leave the entire apartment than that means they could be bumping uglies anywhere, including the dining table. Especially the dining table.
And you would never know if they used the tv remote for a sex toy, or if the stain in the sofa was there before.
Further even your bed would have time to dry before you came back.
Know if you’re not that up tight and okay with that then good, but if not it’s something you should know before you pimp out your apartment for $55.
I agree that $55 for two days is laughable.
It sounds like your roommie expects you to find some friend to sleep over at. In which case she isn’t only asking you for a favor, she is willing to ask you to inconvience a friend of yours.
They don’t want to go to a hotel because you can’t cook romantic dinners, light a thousand candles, have the music up loud, and smoke joints there. Also, your apartment has late check-out.
If for fifty-five bucks lehkz, you leave your home for two days, everybody gets screwed.
Oh, I think the “affair with married man” adds insult, but really doesn’t change the situation. MAYBE if this were her boyfriend/husband on a short leave before being deployed to Afghanistan, this request would be reasonable. But anything short of “my sweetie is about to go off an risk life and limb for his country, and we’d like to have the apartment to ourselves before he leaves” is an imposition.
Say she gets a boyfriend who is not married, not dating anyone other than her - are you going to be expected to vacate your own home every Friday night so they can get it on without you around?
if the roommate has a substantial amount of items to include in play, built-ins in walls or ceiling or just wanting to do the wild thing in every room at any time then the request might be very justified.
i would expect them to cover your costs and a good amount for the disruption it would cause to you.
I wonder if they have a wii with a game that has a lot of vibration feedback?
Is there any reason that your roommate would think you would go along with this? Have you put her out of the apartment for similar reasons?
I don’t think him being married has anything to do with it - I mean, I don’t approve but I don’t think that’s really your issue. The issue is if your roommate wants to be able to have a 48 hour sex-a-thon with her beau she needs to either move somewhere with no roommate or pony up for a hotel either for herself or for you.
Personally I would be so disgusted by the request I would agree to leave in exchange for my hotel bill paid, food for meals, and some services at the hotel spa. Remember, roommate is not only getting the entire apartment to herself for the weekend - she’s also getting your silence regarding her affair.
I think that’s worth a spa day, personally.
For me, $55 would barely cover what I pay for rent for two days (on average for a 30 day month). It would not cover the addition of what I would pay in utilities (assuming your figure of $110 per month). That doesn’t say anything about the inconvenience of finding another place to stay and not having access to my things/food/home, etc.
That sum (ignoring the moral issues) would be way too small to get me out for two days. They would, at the very least, need to pay that amount plus the cost of a hotel room and food. Even then, I am not sure it would be worth being kicked out of my home. The only exception would be if I was hoping the roommate would return the favor at some future date.
Anybody else thinking of of the movie “The Apartment”?
It seems to me that the easiest thing to do is for the OP to go stay with the man’s wife for those two days.
Problem solved! 
Something about this story doesn’t sound right to me. They can have sex anywhere. Why the OP’s apartment? They’d have more freedom in a hotel. If they want to play house, what’s wrong with a Residence Inn? I have a feeling the room mate is not telling the OP something.