Yeah, that explains why the men usually have the interesting hobbies and women like to do… Wait, what exactly?
well, we have interesting hobbies as well you know our only interest, despite to what men tend to believe, is not only boyfriends or (my god!!) ‘fashion’. yep, there are women like that but not all of us. sorry for the hijack on the thread
No, I don’t believe there are… let me check though. No, there aren’t, they’re all sold out. You might want to come back on Monday though, we’re getting a whole new batch delivered, fresh from the factory!
Don’t expect much from him. That will please him greatly.
Well, I suppose you’d cover him in the leaves, attaching them with a suitable adhesive.
Oh sorry, I thought you said ‘salisfy’.
WHAT??! in THAT Order??!
Heres some advice from someone not so young. If you wanna satisfy a man (of which sex, I am a member of) nothing quite turns on a man than to make him believe that you are willing to do anything for them just to make them happy. Now, chances are that any man would instantly think of the freakiest thing that pops in his dirty little mind just to call your bluff, so you cant just outrightly say “today is your day and you can do whatever you want with me!” I’m thinking a less overt approach.
Make him feel relaxed. Anything he is anxious about or doesnt feel too confident about, tell him it doesnt matter to you or you can work with him to make it better.
Let him know of what he does that really blow your mind. A lot of men really get off knowing they can satisfy their woman. Its a man thing. Kinda like workmans pride…
And all thruout, from foreplay (…?) to orgasm to the glow afterwards, let him know, without a doubt, that youre there because you love him, only him and it will always be him. Once you fake all of that, the guy will be totally satisfied.
Hey, now, MeanOldLady! Quit the man bashing! Men are wonderful, wonderful creatures when properly trained.
Okay, you win. throws Meanie a life preserver Try not to drown in your own bitterness.
Woof!
Okay, I’ve been reading this thread as it has progressed, and I’m a little disappointed with the responses from my side of the gender pool. I don’t think we need to sink to mud-slinging. Yes, there are worthwhile men! In control of their hormones, even.
Natalia, in response to your question: there is a lost art. It is called “playing hard to get.” This is not, repeat NOT the same as being a tease. Men love to chase. There is nothing more satisfying than the conquest, especially if they have to work at that conquest. Screen your calls. Don’t pick up the second you hear his voice. Let HIM wait on YOU for a change. don’t be so available…tell him you’re out with friends on Friday night, even if it means you stay home with a book and a glass of wine instead. Yes to the seductive looks and ONE kiss goodnight. No to throwing your legs open the second you get him alone. If he really wants you, and you want him to stick around for a while, make him chase you. (not to say a one-night stand isn’t great, but you seem to be going for long term, here).
And don’t stop with the chase thing as soon as you’ve got him. Keep challenging. Find out what he likes, and if you like to do it too, challenge him to that. I found out a couple of years ago that my husband loves air hockey, but hadn’t played in years. I challenged him to a game. Winner gets 1/2 hour of whatever they like best. Cheating rat bastard.
To quote “Clerks” (I am a real loser, aren’t I? -oh well…):
“Insert somewhere warm, preferably moist, thrust…and repeat”.
Don’t listen to Maureen. That’s the old “the rules” deal that’s been force-fed to girls since the time of Moses. So to get a long-term relationship, you pretend to be someone you’re not… and then keep up that pretense throughout said long-term relationship. Pardon me while my eyes roll.
Be yourself instead. If it doesn’t work, he wasn’t right for you.
My, I’ve missed quite a bit while I’ve been gone. Hm.
How do I satisfy a man? Well, let me first state that it has never been an issue ahem, so I’ll get into the “clean” specifics (much to DaveBears disappointment )
Cooking is one of my passions, and it’s one of the things I’m very good at. I love to cook for, and create an incredible atmosphere for those I’m trying to impress, or love. A simple meal, candle light and music works wonders. That is universal, whether you live in the south, north, east or west.
One of the best “dinner” dates I ever had, was after dinner, while he helped to carry the dishes over, he grabbed me, and we started to do the tango in the kitchen. That was one of the most incredibly romantic evening’s of my life. And then came the mint julips
I guess my philosophy is, if you give a little, you get much in return.
I don’t know if this helped or not, but it’s how I look at things.
Scratching my back for a really long time frequently and without my asking will probably get you farther than anything else.
Personally, if a girl is doing some of the things that Maureen suggests then I just assume she’s not interested. You don’t have to offer sex all the time, but at least afford me the respect you afford anyone else if you’re interested in me. There’s little that I find more frustrating than a distant woman. If she wants to play hard to get, she needs to be prepared to not be gotten, or to realize that not all men want to be part of some game and would prefer to be a part of something genuine.
I guess I just feel like a romantic relationship should be between two people who grow together and natually bond, as opposed to one where a genuine sense of closeness is replaced with some front of aloofness.
Ah! I knew the board had been a little less interesting, lately. Now I know why. You weren’t here!
But, actually, it was Natalia who asked for specifics. Not that I wouldn’t have been interested.
As for playing hard to get, or following “The Rules”, I think it often backfires, as some of the other guys have indicated. If you’re going to do it, you have to be sure that the man is interested in you for something other than sex, and that he knows you are interested in him. Otherwise, there’s no tantalizing going on. You’re just sitting home waiting for a call from a guy who’s given up on you.
well, he was flirting me for a long time and then one day he asked me if i have feelings for him. i was so shocked that i said no, and he said ‘oh, thank god, i’ve never show you that way blah blah’ and then i said ‘ok, i have to be honest, yes i have feeling for you’. however, after going on and on convincing me that he never liked me it was too late to take all these back! STUPID me! 8 months have passed and we met again several times but half of these times was good to me and half was very distant. fair enough but i proved him that i really like him and i cannot understand, since he is still interested, why he doesn’t do anything! any ideas what to do? i asked the question because i am the one who was asking to meet the last few months, he was always happy to hear from me and he was flirting in some of the meatings. i know that maybe is too late to play ‘hard to get’ but maybe is my last chance. btw i see him almost every day.
I can’t agree completely with this. I don’t think “Playing” head games is a good role to take. Don’t “play” hard to get BE hard to get. If he won’t wait, keep walking…there will be someone who will. That doesn’t mean that you should be inflexible, just have a lot of self respect.
Mmmm…well, yes, I’d say it’s way too late to play hard to get with this guy. You’ve been chasing him for months, from what you say. I’d say, cut your losses, and stop chasing him. He’d have let you catch him, if he was interested. And, maybe…it’s a slim chance, but maybe…if you show you’re not going to pursue him, he’ll realize he really is interested in you. And, then he can chase you.
SOunds sketchy to me. I’d just go on with my life. Be friedns and maybe something will change somewhere down theline but I wouldn’t count on it. Sometimes when a guy sees you have your own life and you aren’t sitting around waiting to ask him to lunch, then he will get a clue. If he doesn’t then it probably wouldn’t have happened n matter what y ou do. And if you catch him, do you really want to be involved with someone that you aren’t really sure likes you? OR that you like twice as much as he likes you? Maybe even giving him a break will take some of the pressure off and let things develop naturally.
EEK!! Just got back. Is that what I sounded like? “The Rules?” I’ve never even read the damn thing. And most especially do not endorse it. I’m just going from past experience. Men do like to chase.
However: Natalia, I apologize. I was under the impression we were discussing men in general, not how to get one man in particular. It does sound like you may want to back off a bit, like Mipiace says, and see how it goes from there.