SDMB lies about my kids?... you FUCKS!!!!!!!!!

The BBQ Pit
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I’ll add my voice to those who think the offenders will never 'fess up.

A female work colleague of mine hates it when she is out on the town, and people ask her who is looking after her kids, and yet no-one asks her husband this when he is out! She always replies, “Their father, of course. Who did you think?”

There is obviously a background to your story that would suggest that it isn’t just this type of retarded thinking gone overboard. You clearly have a number of friends who know you and have been quick to tell the truth - don’t give the rumour-spreading bastards the satisfaction of making you upset .

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Maybe people aren’t being completely malicious.
Doper1: Did you here TM brought her kids to the Dopefest? I never saw them, They were in the hotel room the whole time with TB.
Doper2: ReallY? Interesting. (To Doper3) Did you here TM brought her kids to the Dopefest? They stayed in the hotel the whole time, I think TB was with them.
Doper3 to Doper4: TM brought her kids to the Dopefest. They stayed in the hotel room, maybe her husband was there.
Doper4 to Doper5: TM brought her kids to the Dopefest. They were in the hotel room the whole time while she was having fun!
And now here we are. People really shouldn’t gossip, however, maybe they were innocently discussing the Dopefest and the story was passed through so many “mouths” that pretty soon it did turn into a vicious rumor, and here we are today.
Or not, maybe someone was just being a bitch/bastard…

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I’d heard a few folks venting on the the topic that you were bringing the kids along… before the gathering, but nothing since… or afterwards.

Like haj said, you’re gonna get soap operas here and misunderstandings as well. And lord knows - I’ve been at the end of a few interesting false rumors too. It sucks… but… shit happens. :shrug: I know a number of the people fairly well that went along to Spiffled and I would be surprised if it was any one of them. Anyhow, hopefully you can just see this for what it is and brush it off.

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I read the thread about Spiffled, and it was completely clear to me that your children were with their father.

Don’t let the jerks get you down, Tequila Mockingbird and Turbo Dog. There are always going to be people in any community who feel the need to be unkind. I am so sorry that this seems to be true here, too. I would have liked to believe that the people here were above all that, but once again I have been proven wrong.

Please don’t hold it against the rest of us, okay?

And by the way, I saw your kidlet’s pictures, and they are ADORABLE!

I know it doesn’t help much, if at all, but I am sending ScottiHugs to your family.

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pepper, I dunno, as an experienced player of the “Telephone” game, I think something like “TM brought her kids to the Dopefest” would get turned into something along the lines of “Tangerine Monkeys beat the shit out of the Pope.”

But seriously, spreading something like that is beyond low. I really hate gossip, which is not helped by the fact that my Mom is quick to tell me all the secret goings-on at MY school, which she hears from her friend who has nothing to do with it. Whoever started this one was really low.

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Brush it off? This is no ordinary rumor. This is not “she left her husband in the room alone.” The sort of vile rumor this is has ruined the lives of innocent people. It is beneath contempt.

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Also For The Record:

I was there and met you as well. I admit prior to the meeting I had reservations about bringing kids to a “formal” dopefest (whatever that means…ususally an overnighter I guess), BUT:
You were right upfront about Turbo being there and there was no indication that they were alone at ANY time.
I am an eternal optimist and would love to believe that this was a simple misunderstanding. I’m sorry you had to experience the ugliness that can arise in these situations.

Hell, if I had an SO, I would have done the exact same thing, don’t let jealous/immature/petty rumourmongers get to you.

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TM and TurboDog:
Sorry for the crap that’s goin’ around about y’all and your kiddies. You both seem like caring parents, and this kinda rumour is pretty low. I know that when I was younger my mum dealt with some of the same crap. Seems like some folx love to get all worked up and righteous. :rolleyes:

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Well, it’s already been said, but as a Spiffled attendee, I had every indication that the little Mockingbirds were in good hands the whole night through. Really, for as long ago as Spiffled occured, why on earth are people even tlaking about this now, much less lying about it?

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THAT is beyond sucky! Who would say such a thing?

:mad:

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Can I ask where this rumor is being spread?

I don’t know what Spiffled was (other than a Dopefest) but have certainly heard no rumors about TM and TD or their kids.

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Just out of curiosity, do you know who said these things? Have you gone to them directly and asked them why and have them explain themselves?

I wondered the same thing. Where are these rumors being spread?

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Will this is fucked. Anyone who has an ounce of sense, or who perhaps maybe, I don’t know, read the Spiffle II Check-In thread would have read that the little cherubs were with their father, watching Rugrats.

But, since it’s Saturday afternoon and I’ve got some time on my hands…

So…what do we have? We’ve got the childrens father thanking a few of us for stopping by, we’ve got two Dopers mentioning that we stopped by and saw the Tequila shots and father and we’ve got pictures (#s 20 & 21, IIRC).

So, to whomever was passing this bullshit around (and I’ll second the "Spiffled was kinda’ a while ago, WTF?!), check your easily found facts, jackass.

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I’m not sure I’d go that far, but it surely is a shitty thing for someone to say. Especially if said by one of the attendees. …as this implies:

Well that actually seems to imply more than one person if not all of us.

:confused:

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Just remember the source. These are pathetic losers with nothing better to do but to try and bring others down to the same subhuman level that they are at.

Unfortunatily, I had a rumor campaign leveled at me too. The insinuations made against me were serious, but they were too chicken shit to mention me by name, because they knew they were lying, and that there would be repercusions.

Just ignore the punks. Eventually, they go away.

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{{{TM, TD and the tykes}}}

I have borne the brunt of malicious gossip in the past and never fail to be absolutely floored by it. It always raises the same questions.

Why in the hell do people act this way?
Easy to make them feel better about themselves. After seeing your very lovely pics, sweet(and also very lovely) hubby and witty writing style they were probably overcome with jealosy.

Who said it?
Probably someone who wasn’t even there.

What can you do about it?
Nothing. Don’t waste another second of your precious time, energy or tears. Anybody who has read anything about or by you knows those comments are huge fucking lies and never believed it for a minute.

So I speak from experience when I say Fuck them. Fuck them hard In the ass Gang rape style, no vaseline.

Let’s worry no more about this. You’re much too classy for such drivel.

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I appreciate the words of encouragement from everyone. Thank you.

The main purpose of this was to dispel those rumors that were being passed.

Basic rumors I let slide. “I swim after troopships” Yeah whatever. “I’m a slut”… of course I am. blah blah blah… This however was not just a rumor. The original offenders of this, were at the dopefest and fully knew the truth but instead chose to create and spread a lie, apparently to discredit me or whatever. That I could not let pass. I could even understand it had I brought the family to the dopefest dinner, but they were not in any way involved in a dopefest. They just happened to be in the same town going to the movies with dad.

I’m done venting, just wanted to clear up a few things. I’m still pretty new here, so people tend not to come and ask me about things directly but choose to take a long-timers words as gospel. Like me or not, I really don’t care. But Christ almighty, at least leave my kids out of it.

Silo… relax, I know who my friends were there. But this is the pit and I was on a roll! :slight_smile:

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I’ve found that in this world, there are unhappy people who, instead of trying to better themselves and improve their own situations, instead expend their efforts trying to bring other people down.

I don’t have enough words to express my contempt for such people.

I myself wish I were happier. I sometimes get jealous and frustrated seeing other people with SOs, as I truly believe in my heart that I’m just as deserving of someone who will love and cherish me, and who I will love and cherish in return. Sometimes, yes, it’s difficult to read about happy couples either here, or in real life.

That said, it’s never made a lot of sense for me to try to bring others down by spreading nasty rumors, or whatnot. Such a course of action is not going to improve my life or make me any happier. It’s a sick and twisted mind that wants to equalize things by making other people unhappy because the person in question is unhappy. Better to improve your own position.

Tequila Mockingbird, I’m sorry this happened to you. Sorry that someone decided to try to assuage their own pain and bitterness by denigrating people clearly happier than themselves.

If it’s any consolation, I personally hadn’t heard this rumor, and I’m reasonably well informed about such things (though my lack of participation in #sdmb chat, or whatever it’s called, keeps me from hearing a lot of stuff).

In any event, my take on this is, the people who like you, respect you, and care about you, will ignore this as the meaningless drivel that it is. Anyone who already dislikes you will continue to do so, and such persons are not worth wasting your time over.

In my humble opinion, you rock.

On a different note, any news on that flight assistant position? :slight_smile:

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It’s terrible what happened, and I can only repeat what I’ve posted here in the Pit before.

Confront. Post who said it, and what they said. Otherwise, they just keep on doing it.

This happens again and again, and it probably is the same people. Why do we insist on letting them get away with it, to laugh at us behind our backs? Post their names here and what they said, or else there really isn’t anything that will be changed or fixed as a result. This scenario will keep happening again and again.

There are some things you shouldn’t let slide. People will post multi-page flames in here about how someone looked at them the wrong way in traffic, or how they hate UPS. Why won’t we talk about something that can actually be fixed? Expose them, let them explain themselves, let them be flamed if their explanation is lacking, and let them be labeled and shunned.

This does actually work.

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:: stands and applauds Anthracite ::

I’ve been trying to say something similar since yesterday evening and haven’t been able to say it the way I wanted. I agree with Anthracite 100%.

The sort of rumors spread were unforgivable. It’s important to step on the people who started them. I think shunning is the exact, correct idea.

Thanks, Anth for saying what needed to be said, and (even though I rarely do this) {{{Tequila, Turbo and kids}}}

Fenris