I didn’t get that from his post.
Maybe I’m secretly threatened by these women, too! :eek:
I don’t get it, why would I be mad about this? I mean surely this could only benefit me? Every girl I’ve ever been involved with has been my age or younger. I’m sure that when I was 17 my girlfriend at the time thought it was so cool that I had a car and a license. And I’m sure that plenty of people just connect better with someone who happens to be a different age than they are. That’s why I didn’t say anything negative about dating people older or younger than you are.
Sparky? I don’t get this either. I mean, I know you are insulting me, but I fear I’ve been whooshed. Is it because it’s often a dog’s name?
Quite frankly, the OP and all his friends all sound a bit immature. As long as said Peruvian boyfriend isn’t pressuring Anna to be a drug mule or anything like that, I’m sure it’s a harmless delusion. Remember that what we men often call “insane self delusion”, women call “romantic”.
I mean if those Twilight movies are any indication, look at the two “dream guys” Bella is trying to choose between - a broody, mopey, unemployed older parasite who still hangs out around the high school and lives at home with his parents (Edward) and a violent, quick-tempered meathead (Jacob).
The age difference thing really isn’t that big of a deal. Recent college grads are often still in “school mentality” where they think everyone marches lock-step together through life a semester at a time. A year is a much bigger difference in college than it is once you are in your 20s and 30s. Can you say there is really that much difference bewteen a 25 year old, a 28 year old and a 32 year old?
Also, you kids give us 30-somethings too much credit for being “mature”. Most of the time we’re just a bit older with more money.
Personally I think you and Ann and Becca may have different definitions of the word mature. You are judging mature by job/diet/finances and she is probably judging mature as being someone who doesn’t sniff-test their underpants for cleanliness.
Yeah, that’s a good point. In fact, if I were having a conversation with Anne, that’s probably the point I would bring up. Just because someone has been around longer doesn’t mean they’ve got life any more figured out. We’re all just muddling through, really. Sometimes I look at kids 18, 19 years old, and I think, ‘‘Shit. When I was that age, I was supposed to have it all together by now.’’
I’m still afraid of the dark for chrissake.
(Fidgets uncomfortably) well, you know, um, empirically the sniff test, would you know work, and just because I might have, er, um done that the day before yesterday doesn’t mean I’m immature, I mean it was a t-shirt, not underwear, that makes all the difference right?
The “I’m VERY mature for my age” line just screams self-deluding immaturity to me. The only way to make it worse would be to utter it while wearing footie pajamas.
But the only known cure is time and experience. And life has a way of rubbing people’s noses in their own puddles of inanity. SecretaryofEvil, you can try to educate and edify “Ann” and “Becca”, but you may be better off spending your time trying to teach a pig to sing. Your choice.
Hmmm… “Puddles of Inanity”… band name? Does anyone collect these band name suggestions? And does it count if I suggest my own?
Could a pig be the lead singer of Puddles of Insanity? That’d be a hell of a gimmick.
Johari’s Window
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Things about ourselves we know and which are also apparent to others.
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Things about ourselves we don’t know but others have noticed.
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Things about ourselves we know but others don’t
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Things about ourselves yet to be discovered by ourselves and others.
Why is it so easy to see the delusions of others and so difficult to see our own?
Because knowing ourselves so well is madness-inducing.
Typically when a 22 year old girl says she is “mature”, she means one of two things:
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She wants to settle down, get married and raise a family.
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She thinks buying Prada bags and Manolo Blahnik shoes, spending her afternoons gossiping and bickering with three hobags she can barely stand, getting wasted on cosmos and banging every guy who looks like he has money like a character from Sex and the City or Real Housewives of New York is the height of “maturity”.
Or she does her laundry more than on a seasonal basis.
Uh, excuse me? I think we know just a little bit more about women than you do. Thank you very much.
Sheesh, all it takes is one pitting and you get all inflated in your opinion about yourself and uppity and all!
Bolding mine.
And just what the hell is wrong with footie pajamas? Sometimes my feet get cold.
(Says the 31 year old male eating Peanut Butter Cap’n Crunch straight out of the box while playing Super Mario Bros Wii.)
Yes, but I’m a man, so it’s OK.
Tahssa, it’s time to grow up and get sensible footwear - maybe the Tasmanian Devil slippers.
Got a spare box? I’m hungry.
I still feel pretty damn immature, but I think there is something to be said for appreciating just how little you actually know and how confused you are. That realization of “Oh my God, we’re all just making this up as we go along!” is surely a part of growing up - one that most 22 year olds haven’t fully grasped.
Also, I’ve never heard someone over the age of 25 or so claim to be “mature for their age”.
Struts into the room, leans up on the counter
“Yup, we older men are better” nodding head and smilin’ at the ladies
slips off bar and breaks hip “Oh fuck”
This is a weird and fucking confusing thread. It totally turned into a vaguely sexist men are immature and…sexist thread. Or you can’t rant on this forum. Or the relationships-I-have-with-my-friends-are-way-more-mature-than-yours-OP thread. Or something. Fuck I don’t know.
The scumbag Peruvian engineer must be banging the lowly gringa whore on the side. But to assume Ann and Becca really are delusional for thinking they are somehow better than men their age is totally Not Cool. If it makes any difference OP I get where you’re coming from. It was an amusing story about annoying self-deluded friends and a request that we relate some of our own. I can’t think of any right now or I’d contribute.