Word.
And I think ‘Seriously?’ is a perfect reaction to oblivious rudeness. Because really, you’re not so much annoyed as you are utterly stupefied. Amy Poehler and Seth Meyers even have a segment called ‘Seriously???’ on Weekend Update.
If she set it on my lap, which seems unlikely: I’d start rifling through it until she noticed and snatched it back. After five minutes, I’d hand it to the bartender.
If it was just hanging down and occupying the space above my lap: I’d shove it out of the way and say “excuse me”. Repeat until it’s not happening anymore or until after the fifth time, which is when I take sterner measures.
“Get your damned purse off my lap!”
And msmith537 is out of line.
Kudos to purse-bitch’s boyfriend for not acting like a lunkhead. That’s rare, especially in a bar setting.
srsly wtf?!
Not having been there, I can’t be sure. But what I imagine happened is that these two are sitting at the crowded bar, some woman, probably a bit drunk, pushes up to it and is completely oblivious to the fact that her bag is in this guys face. You make it sound like she dumped her bag in his lap.
Asking a patron in a crowded bar to move their bag because it they are oblivious to it wandering into your personal space is fine. Yelling “Seriously?” at some unsuspecting stranger in a crowded bar while you monopolize a bar stool makes someone a jerk.
Well, you need to understand that if you post something in IMHO, people are going to express their opinions and they might not agree with yours.
I was simply pointing out how it’s a bit hypocritical for you to criticize this woman for bringing up the incident 3 hours later on a message board several days after the fact. Clearly it is of consequence to you as well since you haven’t let it drop since leaving the bar.
Also, I find a certain similarity between you taking pleasure in your boyfriends rudeness (since you are now using it as a catchphrase as if you were Amy Poehler & Seth Meyers) and this woman trying to goad her boyfriend into a fight. Both of you suffer from “did you hear what they said to US!-itis”.
Did you think Audrey Levins’s boyfriend just came up with that out of nowhere?
sure I am :rolleyes:
A handbag?!
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from the OP:
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That’s not “in his face,” that’s sitting on his body. He was holding this woman’s purse for her without his consent (and without her knowledge). How is this okay?
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How, exactly, does one monopolize a bar stool? Either he’s sitting in it, or he isn’t. It’s not something that can be shared.
Are you implying that he didn’t have a right to sit where he was sitting? Or that he didn’t have a right not to have his lap used as a storage facility? Sure, maybe he could’ve been more polite about it, even though the “yelling,” as you phrased it, was probably so that he could be heard–after all, if the bar wasn’t crowded (and presumably noisy), she wouldn’t have been using him as an endtable. But as Audrey Levins pointed out, he was aware of that, and apologized.
So what does it mean that you, who wasn’t even there, are criticizing Audrey? Clearly it is of consequence to you, since you haven’t let it drop since entering the thread.
I think he should have bought a drink; a cheap $1 draft beer in her honor. And if the purse still wasn’t off his person within 60 seconds of the bartender delivering that drink, he should have “ooops” knocked the glass over into the purse.
I never understood the theory that occasionally crops up on SDMB that posting about something means it’s terribly, terribly important. Like, if I were to post about a rude salesclerk, there always seems to be somebody who feels the need to say something like, “And you’re still thinking about this? And posting about it? What’s wrong with you?”
One could argue that there’s virtually nothing on either IMHO or MPSIMS that’s particularly important, in the scheme of things. That’s what these forums are for, for Pete’s sake. Griping about everyday crap. Swapping stories about stuff that isn’t life-changing.
I’m not saying to msmith537 that I expect everyone to agree with my opinion. That’s why I posted it. But this whole “you haven’t let it drop since leaving the bar” business is just silly. Like I’m somehow obsessed with this incident because I posted on a forum about it? Get real. It’s fine for some random girl to try to start a bar fight over a silly incident, but if I write a post about it I’m being hypocritical? That’s the goofiest logic I’ve ever heard.
And as Swampwolf pointed out, yes, she DID in fact dump her purse in his lap. Read my OP. And if you are sitting on a barstool–or sitting anywhere, period, for Pete’s sake–you do have the monopoly on your seat, until you decide to get up. I find it virtually impossible to believe that this is news to you.
Common courtesy dictates that you don’t invade peoples’ personal space for longer than necessary. She camped out. While my boyfriend might have been more polite about it–and admitted that–she is the rude and oblivious person who was out of line.
Purse girl was being pretty stupid anyway to carry that size of a bag into a crowded location and not be aware of where it is all the time. Isn’t that a great way to get your wallet stolen?
If you care to read my posts, I did not indicate that this was “ok”. It was inconsiderate but I suspect unintentional. It was the boyfriends response that was completely inappropriate.
If you are going to plant yourself on a bar stool in a crowded bar, you need to expect that drunk people will occassionally be pushing against you to get at the bar.
It’s a mild diversion to me.
I’m not disagreeing with you. It is possible for many people to be out of line at the same time. The woman was rude and oblivious. Your boyfriend was obnoxious and lame (seriously? Why not “Wazzuuup!” or “I’m Rick James bitch!!”?). You should mind your own business. And the woman’s boyfriend was the only one who behaved appropriately. Which is lucky because the wrong guy might have seriously punched your man in the face.
And did you read the OP? She said that she knew people were going to push because they were sitting on the bar stools. From the OP
Getting at the bar to get drinks is one thing, shoving yourself in between two bar stools is another.
Yup
And if some dumps a purse in your lap, then saying “seriously” is not completely out of line. He even apologized, for christsakes.
:dubious: Please do explain how she wasn’t minding her own business?
The woman was the worst, the OP’s boyfriend was somewhat, but probably justifiably rude, the OP was minding her own business and had the woman’s boyfriend punched someone he could have gone to jail.
So now my boyfriend could’ve been punched in the face? seriously? And I should “mind my own business?” Whose business is it when some random woman plants her huge ridiculous purse in somebody else’s lap?
Perhaps you have never been to a bar, msmith537, but just FYI, the people who have seats at the bar are the ones who own the real estate at said bar. If you need a drink, by all means order one, but you don’t get to shove your way into somebody else’s lap and then park there. I am a bartender AND a bar patron, obviously; I didn’t invent the rules. Do whatever it takes to get a drink, and get the bartender’s attention…but you don’t wedge yourself and all your crap (aka your huge massive purse) into somebody else’s personal space, and then get pissed off when they call you on it.
And as far as her behavior being “unintentional” goes…how the hell do you know? I myself own a very large handbag, and I am always acutely aware of where it is. I’m slightly paranoid about it. My whole life is in that bag.
This woman plants her huge freakin’ bag in somebody else’s lap, wedging herself into a space that didn’t really exist, and then gets pissed off when my boyfriend is annoyed that he’s basically acting as storage?
Where on earth does her behavior become okay? Are you bananas?
Also, the sky is blue, fire is hot, etc. Get used to it, or ignore it. I suggest the latter. Nothing against you, just recognizing a pattern.
I thought that feature was called “Really?!” not “Seriously?!”
You’re right (making me the opposite of right). And here’s an example.
It’s been repeated several times that her behavior was not ok and was extremely rude. Even your boyfriend, however, admited that his behavior was inappropriate.
Clearly, you are intent on maintaining your righteous indignation that some woman would DARE to violate your man’s space or the bar patrons code or whatever. It seems you have a number of supporters who also feel that the way to deal with rudeness is to completely escalate the situation, so I don’t think you need my approval.
Well…you certainly put me in my place.
My thoughts exactly. ya, seriously.
I’ve always wondered what the hell women need those huge bags for. What’s in them? Apparently Audrey Levins’s boyfriend had an excellent chance to take a look and report back.
"An entire book of carpet samples? Seriously???
Why didn’t your boyfriend just pass some rotten gas? Nothing clears women out like that warm smell.
“Yeah, that was me. Sorry.”