Is another woman not as much of a “threat” to your hypothetical relationship, then? Because that may not be the case…
Edit: I’m female so I can’t answer the first, but the second sounds like your average kink to me. As long as everyone’s respectful, communicating, and emotionally healthy, then go for it.
Yup, this is bang on for me.
(Everyone else seems to be able to say what I’m about to far more concisely today. I just had a meeting where I spent the majoraty of the time saying “well yes, exactly!” 
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I admit that I’m a little surprised people are as freaked out by this as they seem to be. With all the stuff that’s out there that people get off on, this is what freaks you out??! 
Pretty run of the mill as sexual fetishes go. Relationships often end between people who indulge in this, either through jealousy and a decline in trust. Most sexual fantasies, especially those that include third or more parties, are usually best left as fantasies.
I am amused by the number of people, mostly men, who assume they have the right to dictate their SO’s behavior. That’s another good way to kill a relationship.
T Square’s observation is pretty much on the money and many who engage in “kinky” sexual behavior will never admit it.
A. Do I want to see my SO with another guy? I’ve been trying to talk him in to it for years. That would be so hot. Him with another woman, well we already did that.
B. Obviously not. (although as post 2 points out, it can be done for sicko reasons)
I want this on a tee shirt.
A: It would probably turn me on a bit, but it’s not something I’d want to do - I’d rather be the one doing than the one watching, plus it would be bound to bring out both mine and my partner’s insecurities.
B: On the scale of all things kinky, this barely registers a 2 (where, say, 0 is monogamous missionary and 10 is copropaedonecrophilia on a surfboard. Naked. With a hat on. Anything up to 9 is probably socially acceptable, IMHO - YMMV).
Yes/No. The idea of my finacee being pounded by another man does have certain erotic sentiments for me. However, I am far too jealous. Even if I was allowed to engage with another female at the same time, in the end I don’t think I’d allow it.
There is nothing abnormal about it at all. Either way, if you are for or against, nothing weird about it at all.
A: I can’t say I wouldn’t let her - if it’s what she really wanted to do (it really isn’t, I’m certain), then I couldn’t stop her, but it would be a big deal and I wouldn’t like it one bit.
B: It’s certainly ‘not normal’, but so are a lot of things. As some of the others have said, I think it might indicate some kind of issues, in some cases, but my position is that it’s none of my business really.
A. I would find it a turn on to watch my wife with someone else. I’m totally not jealous and completely secure in our relationship, and I know that if we ever engaged in it (which we never would, she isn’t interested so I’ll never ask) it would be only for the erotic/sexual gratification factor. Like anything else that couples try in the name of having fun in the sack.
B. Absolutely not sick. Have you seen some of the stuff that people do to get themselves or others off? This is nuthin’.
Personally, not my thing – I find monogamy to be incredibly sexy, it’s just how I’m wired. My husband would not in a million years want this to happen, either. He’s pretty jealous, but in a playful, non-threatening way that I find incredibly attractive.
But from an objective standpoint, it’s just one of a vast variety of kinks out there, and as long as both partners are consenting and into it and nobody’s getting hurt physically or emotionally, I say why the hell not? I agree that anybody who thinks this fantasy is abnormal has to have a pretty vanilla outlook on things and would probably bore the shit out of me in bed.
I could see how this might be a turn-on in your head, but for me personally it’s not worth the risk. There’s too many potential landmines. No matter how cool and prepared for it you may think you are, you could end up feeling totally different while it’s happening, or it might bring out some ugly issues between you and your SO after it’s over.
Ditto for me (except the “Portal of Evil” part)
It isn’t normal and most people would agree that it isn’t normal. You probably sense this already, but there is nothing inherently bad about being different from the norm. Assuming of course your SO feels NO pressure WHATSOEVER to indulge your interest.
Calling it ‘sick’ is unfair and judgmental, but this is the term most people are going to gravitate to in order to describe their repulsion to the concept. It won’t be enough for the average person to just say, “it isn’t for me.”
In what way is it not normal? Do you mean it isn’t typical or common, or does “not normal” imply that couples who do participate in the behavior have a screw loose?
Not spoiling for a fight, just curious about your comment.
Have some experience in it and don’t find anything wrong with it if everyone involved is doing it for the same reason.
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It can be hot as long as everyone’s on the same page and the trust is there.
It’s not sick nor disgusting, but can be dangerous for a relationship if jealousy gets involved.
Maybe. It is arousing to see my fiance aroused, so it might work. But there might also be jealousy. I’m not against it, but have never tried it either.
I find it rather silly and petty to declare anything “sick” that consenting adults do in privacy. Declaring other people " sick" or “abnormal” doesn’t make you appear "normal & healthy"to me; it makes you appear like someone who sees benefits in condemning others. Which won’t earn you sympathy points with me.
Now, if your would be worried that any sexual behavior might cause harm (in the broadest sense) to anyone involved, that question I would sympathize with. In the case of “I’m going to encourage my gf to have sex with other men” I do see opportunity for hurt, but also for fun. It’s just a (big) risk that only the people involved can decide about.
In the case of: “I like fantasizing about my GF with other men” now that, as long as you keep it to yourself, can’t harm anyone, can it?
1 Maybe, it would depend on the girlfriend and the guy and loads of other vairables.
2 The level of sick and disgusting is only relative to other acts. While it isn’t vanilla, it’s not that horrible, as long as all parties are fine with it.
I suspect Waverly is talking about ‘normal’ in the statistical sense (as was I when I gave my answer). Putting black pepper on your ice cream isn’t normal - it isn’t what people commonly do - but doing so doesn’t make you a monster.
(Actually, you should try it - it’s rather good).
I’ve always considered myself a pretty NON-jealous person.
In fact, when I was younger, I had a GF who used to love to go “clubbing” and dancing. She knew I hated it, so to spare me she would go alone with her friends and I would go out with mine. (or not)
She dressed like a total slut (as did her friends) and did god knows what on the dance floor. It never bothered me in the least. But then again I didn’t actually have to SEE her with other guys.
I don’t know if I could have been so apathetic about it if I were to actually witness it myself.
So yeah, the situation in the OP is not for me.
And no there’s nothing wrong with you.