It seems some (or possibly most) people are misreading my first post. It’s not a snuff fantasy. Go back and take a look. I mention one round in a revolver. I mention ‘spinning the cylinders’. It’s an erotic game of Russian roulette. In my fantasies, the outcome is always a positive one. The hammer falls on an empty chamber and sexy woman lives another day.
That is why the fantasy is left a fantasy. In real life, I can’t guarantee a safe and happy ending. I have zero desire to see a woman shoot herself in the uterus. Zero. I cannot stress that strongly enough.
That’s the weird and interesting thing about sex fantasies for a lot of people. They’re not something you secretly wish you could do, they are in fact often things you’d never even come close to wanting to do IRL. They’re literally exactly and only what they’re called: fantasies.
“When I said I fantasised about a woman masturbating with a revolver and then pulling the trigger, obviously I didn’t mean that the gun would actually go off. It’s not a violent fantasy.”
Apparently, masturbating with guns is, while not common, not so very rare. It is advised to have the front sight filed smooth. The really fastidious block the barrel to make the gun unfireable. The use of a noise-making toy, such as a cap gun, could add to the illusion of danger.
This is a fantasy I wouldn’t object to carrying out in real life.
However, DocCathode, the 16 and 2/3 per cent chance of a tragic outcome is much too high, in your scenario!
(P.S. I remember to this day with great joy and admiration your response, some years ago, to – ah – a member of these boards, regarding souls and out-of-body experiences. You got my vote for Mad Scientist of the Year for that.)
I admit to being quietly amused at what my brain finds sexually arousing sometimes.
If you’re browsing the porn, and you come across nopunintended something you never even conceived of people doing, and then you’re like, what the hell, I gotta see what the hell is so appealing… then you watch it and you’re saying to yourself, damn… that actually is hot.
I’m okay with my brain having an active fantasy life, and I’m not very judgmental towards my brain, but at the same time, the stuff it finds appealing comes out of left field.
My fantasy involves going to a key party, and everything goes alright.
Milquetoast, I know, but I take what I can get. I actually went to a key party once, but the girl who got my keys had cold feet at the last minute, and nothing came of it.
This was actually a fairly common story I heard from female bottoms/subs on erotic spanking forums. Usually, these were women who were adults when they realized and acknowledged their own desire to be spanked/tied/dominated, and unfortunately by that time they’d already married or were in a long-term relationship with a “vanilla” man who just couldn’t/wouldn’t do it. One of the saddest stories was a woman who finally persuaded her partner to spank her; he had a go at it after she wore him down with begging for it. But he simply couldn’t mentally and emotionally separate “consensual erotic spanking” from “abuse”, and he ended up crying the whole time he was halfheartedly swatting her butt because he thought there was something terribly, terribly wrong with her, emotionally. That was one of the more “extreme” stories, though. Most were just stories of frustration with being in a monogamous relationship with a partner who can’t or won’t accommodate this one aspect of their personality.
Exactly. The young ladies in my spanking fiction have leather butts. Even if I had a consensual spanking partner in real-life, I’m pretty sure none of the spankings would go on as long and as hard as the ones I write
On the other side of my “I can’t think of any fantasy I wouldn’t carry out” philosophy is my SO. We have done a wide variety of things together but he has some fairly extreme fantasies that he wouldn’t really want to engage in. I sort of understand but still get a bit frustrated when we talk out his fantasies but I know we’ll never actually do them. At the same time he gets annoyed with me for not clearly understanding when he crosses from “let’s do this” into “this is fantasy only”.
This is so common (I think?) that I’m not even sure it counts, but I have various ones about sex with the wrong person. Not famous ones, just people I know. I don’t particularly mean people where I would but can’t (taken, not into me, professional relationship) though there are definitely those as well, but I don’t think that counts for this thread. But I’m talking about people I really wouldn’t do in reality, even if I had the chance, because they’re actually kind of icky, maybe they’re trashy, maybe they’re miles off my usual type, they’re just wrong, and I know that if I really actually went there it would probably be a turn off, but they can be kind of sexy in their wrongness. In fact the very wrongness makes the fantasy as long as it’s kept as a fantasy. Know what I mean?
Yeah, you do sound a lot like my husband. And that’s the thing, I wouldn’t want him to even pretend to be someone other than what he is, because I find compassion incredibly sexy in a man. I don’t feel like I’m being oppressed because I’m with a vanilla dude. In fact, he may be the only type of guy I would want to have sex with.
Rape fantasy for me, usually on the giving end but occasionally receiving (always with a woman though). Bondage is another one, but I would actually do that in real life. I might would do a rape roleplay in real life with a consenting person, but certainly not the real thing. I guess I like to imagine myself in control but I’m not the type to go against someone’s consent.
So I’m curious if some woman did this in front of you in real life (but unbeknownst to you the bullet isn’t real), would you actually be into it or would the thought that she might actually die (which would never happen in your fantasy) ruin it? Would it turn you on if you did know it was fake?
Too often the story is, a woman only finds a guy to be sexy if he’s a bad boy, if he’s dangerous, if he can’t keep his life together and is always on the verge of being drunk and surly, if there’s a threat of abuse lingering in the air.
I get that there is a middle ground, where you can be a totally loving guy, but have no qualms throwing yourself into the role of a dom that will carry out a rape fantasy, because you can separate the two things emotionally and can enjoy yourself anyway. It’s just a balancing act I can’t do, and I can’t enjoy it.
There are other things I’d be willing to do, in the role of a dom, which involve a loss of control and put someone in a submissive or subservient or exposed and vulnerable position. But those games I recognize as games, and I feel I can play those games in a loving and caring manner.
It’s just too big a departure to play a rapist. Can’t do it, won’t.
Well…too bad I can’t edit posts because I can check one more fantasy off the list, having played domme last night with my friend, with full and enthusiastic permission of my spouse.
