I’m sorry. I’ve got a brother who is all of those things (and a gun nut), but I don’t have to live with him. And for him, becoming a Trumpist isn’t a conversion, Trump just came along and fit in with beliefs my brother already had. So nobody in the family was really surprised.
Back when I would talk to him about this kind of stuff, conversations were pretty much as you describe, but without the personal betrayal stuff, since we’ve always known each other. No surprises, so no betrayal.
My sister and BIL (or at least my sister, and my BIL is an old-fashioned conservative who will go along with my sister just to keep the peace, which, knowing my sister, is a good strategy), too, but they’re much less confrontational than my brother. And also, they live very far away, so there really aren’t the complications that come from regular contact.
They all do, don’t they? Or at least it looks like that to me. That seems to be such a huge part of the Trumpist/anti-vaxx thing. I really have to try to understand this better. They all really want to be Christians in the catacombs or something (without, of course, having to suffer any actual persecution).
To each their own. I’m not going to cut off my brother. Or my sister, who’s actually better at keeping it to herself when necessary. I mean, you can hang with her all day, family gatherings, whatever, and it won’t come up unless someone else injects something into the conversation. Whereas, with my brother, it will come up. And by “it,” I mean all the Trumpist craziness.
The big problem is that our 88-year old father resides in a “memory care” facility. And in addition to severe dementia, he is unable to walk and has various other physical ailments.
And I’d like my brother to visit my father. And my sister. And time is running out. Fast.
But they won’t get vaxxed. Which they’d have to do to enter the facility.
This is a really sad situation.