Ahhhh…the old “Shitboy takes a job under the table to avoid paying support trick”…
My sister knows this dance well. She started getting friends to frequent his hangouts (they were all dive bars), and snooped that way. And I don’t know about Canada, but in the states we can find out through family court where he’s working by SS#. (although if he’s working under the table, as in off the books, that won’t work).
Kelli, if you want some advice, here’s mine. Cut your losses and move on. I have watched my sister spend more negative energy and time (that she could have been spending enjoying her kids) hunting down her shitboy. It breaks my heart. It’s been years, and still it’s on again, off again payments. Constant family court. Seems like for that kind of effort and pain the money isn’t worth it, unless it is the absolute only way to support yourself and your family. What a nightmare for you…I hope it works out-
I hope I don’t get lectures about how “it’s his responsibility” blah, blah, blah- I understand all of that. But the reality is, you can’t get blood from a stone, you can’t count on Shitboy money, and sometimes you just have to say “*uck you then” and move on. Otherwise you’re in for years and years of this shit.
Hope you feel better Kelli, and I hope I haven’t depressed you
Some mornings it just doesn’t seem worth it to gnaw through the leather straps.