Should A Person Lower Their Standards?

[Modern_Master]

I always get confused when people talk about standards. When dating, I just went for people who seemed attractive and interesting.

If you’re talking about standards in terms of attractiveness, you should be going for someone who is around the same level of attractiveness as you. If you’re talking about personality, go for someone who doesn’t bore you within the first 5 minutes. This is what worked for me. However, what works for you will most likely be completely different.

The best advice I can give you is that dating is pretty much trial and error. There will be some girls that you click well with and some that you don’t. You’re the only person that knows what your standards are. You’re the only person that knows whether to have high standards, low standards or standards that are somewhere in-between.

A good quote to keep in mind when on the dating scene: *“You win some and you lose some; that’s why they call it gambling.” *

[voguevixen]

@LurkerInNJ

There are things that are are negotiable and there are things that are not. The key is being realistic about your must-haves while also making sure that your priorities are in the right place. A lot of people don’t have the insight to be able to tell their wants from their needs when it comes to successful relationships.

This is what I wanted to say, but better, lol. Essentially if the standard is something shallow like looks or money yes you should lower them. Things I would never lower my standards about are things like racism, homophobia, are they rude to the waitress to make themselves feel more important or whatever. I wouldn’t put up with that no matter how out-of-my-league or rich someone was. If I was on a date with George Clooney and saw him slash somebody’s tires I would maybe only sleep with him a few times but then maybe put my foot down.