What do you think? If a spouse comes to a board where they know or find that their other half is posting, should they feel free to post as well? Or is it an invasion of the other’s territory? Technically, of course, it is not since the BB is open to the public. This is an ethical question and I’m curious about what all y’all think.
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This is really more of an opinion question than a factual one, so I’m shuffling it off to IMHO.
Veb
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We have many husband and wife posters. And SO posters. And fiancee posters.
Also, many posters have stated that they would absolutely hate it if their SO posted here.
So, in conclusion, it’s all relative.
My husband doesn’t have the time he feels would be required to really be involved here. He is a registered member but mostly I just tell or read him things I think he might be interested in. So far as I know, he has only ever posted once.
Of course. Although sense of personal space is important, this is a lively and vital community, in which many posters take an active interest. For many, it becomes a part of their daily life. Would you not share such a thing with your significant other?
One would hope of course, that your SO would have enough couth and tact though not to air all of your dirty laundry in public just because it is available. 
My SO and I both post here. I was the one who showed him the MB, although he started posting just a few days after I did.
I don’t find it an invasion of privacy at all. He likes the Pit and Great Debates, I like IMHO and MPSIMS. We rarely even post to the same thread. Even if we did post to the same threads, I don’t see how I could possibly post anything he doesn’t already know.
I’m not even sure how he could invade my privacy. Someone could invade OUR privacy, I suppose, but mine??
Mr. Del and I post to a few of the same BBs, although not this one. I read him a lot of the posts in here, but he feels he doesn’t have the time to really participate fully at the SDMB.
But I see your point. My book club has a BB, and I would think it was rather unusual if Mr. Del suddenly decided he wanted to start reading or posting to that (even though I do read amusing or interesting posts to him). It’s not that we’re discussing anything private, but it’s very much a “just the girls” atmosphere.
I think this issue is up to the individual couple – some people like to have a few activities that don’t involve their spouse. Just like some couples like to have some activities that don’t involve their children. It’s a way to revitalize your mental energy, if you will.
One more thought – if the BB is something that really does interest both of you, then why not both participate? If the BB doesn’t interest the spouse at all, but he/she is posting just to “keep an eye on” his/her partner, that’s a little strange. If I was looking for something to do on my own, without Mr. Del, I would look for something that only interested me, like my children’s literature book club. Likewise, Mr. Del posts on some crazy BB that discusses Italian horror films, which you couldn’t pay me to read, let alone post to.
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delphica, you don’t happen to have any info about that Italian horror film BB do you? My hubby would LOVE that!
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I can’t see the problem, exactly, but then I’m technically single. If my SO posted where I do, I might get better answers to my questions, truth be told.
Well, since I exposed my wife to the Straight Dope by sending her a thread that she knew a lot about, I say yes. She has actually posted more than I have.
But they need to be understanding of each other. Don’t air dirty laundry. Don’t say things like, “well, I don’t know but my wife does” expecting her to then post the answer.
I got my wife started here. She’s hasn’t broken the 100 barrier yet, but she’ll get there.
I have no problems with her posting here. Why should I? We don’t keep things from each other.
I’d say not after seeing Lamsai’s thread
We really don’t. I’m learning to like it here: I enjoy intellectual conversation. I’ve been posting at Parents Place, but I’m tired of being seen as “just a mother.” As much as I love our children, there is so much more to me than that, as my dear hubby will attest.
Amen!
I hope my hubby never joins this one, because he’d get really pissed at some of the stuff that I post here, just because sometimes I post stuff he considers personal and private. Never mind that probably only 2 people on the board know my full name, and only 1 of you actually knows my address (given privately by email) and the one who knows my address is not the only one I’ve ever met face to face! So what if I’m telling personal stuff? It’s not like I’m telling it to people who actually know who we are!
I feel privileged!
So I take it a mass mailing of your real name and address is out of the question? 