Wow - I didn’t think this topic was going to cause such a hubub. I was not expecting 2 pages of replies! Thank you to everyone that replied. I appreciate all the opinions, but I think some of the issues have been slightly misconstrued and that is my fault - I wasn’t really clear on some things. That’s what happens when you post before your 2nd cup pf coffee! 
So, just a few points of clarification:
-My friends are telling me I’m crazy. They have seen us together and think I’m acting all nutso for no good reason. I think they are probably right.
-They were never married. She got pregnant and he stayed because it was the right thing to do. According to accounts OTHER than GypsyBoy (his parents, mutual friends of theirs, etc.) she was a real nightmare to be in a relationship with. The underpants sniffing was witnessed by more than one person since she did publicly at one of his birthday parties - and made quite a drunken, drug-fueled production of it from what I hear. Anyway, she has custody, and he pays child support EVERY week, and sees the boy when he can. He is an amazing father, and loves his son very much.
-I made mention of her age for purposes of sheer sarcasm. One of the posters got it right on the money that I said it because “she acts like a teenager.” That’s exactly why.
-When he had her and the boy back in the apartment, he spent 99% of his time with me, simply because he cannot stand to be around her for any extended period of time. When she was evicted from her apartment for non-payment, her own family wouldn’t let her stay with ANY of them, so I think that says something as well. This last time around, SHE chose to move herself and the boy 3 hours away - she apparently couldn’t find a job here, but had no problem finding a job in a fast food chain that there are about 6 bajillion of here. I’m pretty sure, knowing what I do know about her, that was a ploy to use the child to get his attention. She is back with her mother and siblings and takes every opportunity to whine about it and complain about how miserable living with her mother really is.:rolleyes:
-I do NOT expect to be put ahead of his child, EVER, and I made a point of telling him that. I understand that they need to have contact because they have a son and will continue to do so until the kidlet turns 18. He calls to talk to his son, and for the most part he talks to the boy and hangs up - he talks to her when necessary - setting up visits and the like.
-He had shown me emails in the past that she sent him which basically spelled out the fact that she was intentionally trying to ruin our plans. For example, last New Year’s Eve, she called him and said she had to work a little late and would be home in an hour. Turns out she left work on time, went to a friend’s party and didn’t come home until the *next morning. * Obviously, he needed to stay home and watch his son. The jist of her email was basically, “this is what is going to happen. I will NOT make this easy for you.” Call me crazy, but I’m pretty sure that’s pretty straightforward. Yes, I got pissy, but not because of the fact that he has a child. I got angry at the fact that this woman, whom I had never met had taken it upon herself to dictate what we were going to do that evening out of sheer spite.
I think I sort of made it sound like HE’S the bad guy. He isn’t. When I say he tells me he loves me “100 times a day,” he doesn’t. It was exaggeration to make a point. I trust HIM 100%. I think the issue is that since I don’t know her at all, I find her unpredictable. I don’t know what she will try to pull next, and I think THAT is what bothers me more than anything. I think the silliness of it all is what aggravates me and gets me riled up. I could never imagine acting that way with ANY of my ex BFs, whether there was a child or not. I understand there will always be a “bond” of some kind. He is faithful on paying his support to her, even though he doesn’t get to see him as often as he should, in my opinion, for what he is paying a month. He supports ME, a full-time student, as well. He works hard so I won’t have to work and have it interfere with my schooling. he keeps a roof over our heads and food in the fridge. All in all, he does a damn good job balancing it all. I’m not sure if I would be able to do what he does.
Hopefully, all that filled in SOME holes from my post yesterday. Again, I thank you all for the honesty and candor that Dopers are known for.
And yes, no more MySpace for me - thanks for the slap of reality, all!
