Best advice in the thread.
So, 1 mile?
Dating is so damned complicated. If it weren’t for pity I’d probably still be alone. Standing on the high ground, but alone. 
Well, it *is *a New York one.
I want an update! I want an update!
Update! Update!
I want an update!
Straight up? She’s getting from him what she cannot get from you. She is having an emotional affair. She’d be sleeping with him if he were geographically closer. She eventually will sleep with him. You are not her guy anymore, if you were, she wouldn’t be having an emotional affair.
Tough, harsh words, but to candy coat anything or try and see it from some other psychobabble gobbledeegook perspective is horsecrap. Ask her how she would feel if you were chatting 2-4 hours a night on skype with another woman you thought was attractive and that you were texting and sending pics back and forth with. Watch her face carefully when you do…
Time to move on…heartbreak sucks big time, I feel for you. Good luck. 
Here’s the thing, OP. When the person you’re with has never been with anyone else and finds themselves constantly wondering about what else is out there, that’s not fixable. She’s not going to be happy staying with you for the rest of her life. And honestly, while it may not feel that way right this second, odds are you’re going to find yourself in the same boat at some point. Do both of you a favor and break up completely, no more contact.
Also, if you want to have better relationships, stop putting all the power on the other person. You keep reporting on conversations where you tell your GF your feelings but then say “it’s all up to you, I’ll do whatever you decide”. I know you feel like you’re being loving and nice and considerate, but it’s actually just cowardly. You’re so afraid of being the bad guy and hurting the other person’s feelings that you are abdicating all final say to them. That sucks. Have the courage to be the one who pulls the fire alarm when the room is full of smoke, don’t just tug on your GF’s sleeve and say “hey, I think there’s some smoke over there so if you want to pull the fire alarm I’d be OK with that…”
Is one allowed to ask for updates in this forum?
Lot’s of folks followed this thread, as evidenced by the 9000+. It had all the elements of an entertaining, attention grabbing read: real-time, ongoing problem, desperately sought advice, smart, cogent responses and the well meaning, if naive, protagonist about to get his heart broken. An update would indeed be nice.
At one time it was obvious why someone in a committed relationship would not do this. I think we’ve lost common sense. Interestingly, it is more acceptable for women to do this type of thing because of historical oppression. All they need to do is state it is innocent and that their BF is a controlling jerk, and everyone in Oprah’s audience will nod their head like obedient zombies.
I think you are justified in finding this irksome.
When she gets dumped, you can say “It hurts doesn’t it?”
She probably won’t get the irony.
But what HH and Giraffe have said.
Maybe you should quit watching Oprah re-runs because it’s skewing your perspective.
zombie or no
obedient zombies is right.
I’m 47 now, but had a similar thing happen to me when I was 23. Not Skype of course, but my girlfriend of 6 years started "talking"to a make co-worker. She assured me they were just friends. Long story short, they’ve been married for twenty years now. I’m not trying to be negative, but I have to agree with the others here and break the bad news to you. She’s done with you, but she hasn’t told you yet. She may truly care about you and doesn’t want to hurt you. But the writing us on the wall. 2-4 hours a night is NOT friendship. It is an emotional connection.
Get yourself mentally prepared for the hammer to fall. It’s going to be hard and you will feel as if you’re never going to love again and all is over. But you will survive and you will love again. I am terribly sorry you have to go through this, but you aren’t the first and you won’t be the last.
Good luck to you and remember, no matter how bad it gets it WILL get better. That much I promise you. Stay strong.