Small Penis Problems

In My Humble Opinion
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I’m posting to this thread as a wee bit of GirlWisdom[sup]TM[/sup], in the hope that you can think this through kinda logically, Jaytini…

  • Size is entirely a mental issue. If I can feel a tongue or a finger, four inches of dick ought to do just fine. (While I’m here, I don’t think the problem is the width/depth of her vagina either and that’s starting to get on my nerves…)

  • Sex, as Fenris pointed out, is much more than in and out. There are a lot more areas of sex that he could be faulty at or unenthusiastic about that could be “turn offs” for your friend.

  • I like sex a lot. It is, you’re right, a huge part of how I relate to my SO. I am not saying that I’m fulfilled by only the emotional side of our relationship. But sex is a lot of things and fulfillment is reached in a lot of different ways. If I was in a relationship and the first rounds of sex weren’t all I had hoped for, I’d want to try some other things out before calling it quits. Unless I was just after sex.

Yes. But she’s gonna have to keep it mum about her small penis theories. And I’m certain sharing this with friends, like you, isn’t going to help her in this endeavour.

Blert.

No. Nor would I want someone to say that we were breaking up 'cos the sex sucked. Obviously, I can’t fix or won’t be given the opportunity to work on these things, so I don’t want to hear it. Most of the guys I know have measured their equipment at one time or another, so they know where they fall on the spectrum. Also, really, why give him a complex that some other, more willing and sexually adventurous woman is going to have to drag him out of?

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Make that 5’ tall. Otherwise it would be like having sex with a deep puddle.

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Someday I want wife just like her!

(btw- size is at least average, probably more, and I’m not 5’ I’m 6’1 and under 359 lbs… And I’ve known many female painters and found them all to be very sexy and attractive. as if you care… hahahahaha) :-p schlurp!

Seriously though, if this woman was so turned off by a smaller then average penis, then why did she have sex with him in the first place? Can’t a woman usually tell during making out and touching that his wasn’t exactly John Holmes? If she has a preference for big ‘uns, then that’s cool. I have preferences too, certain looks and attitudes turn me on. What can I say? It’s just the human nature to develop tastes for certain traits. My preferences tend to be less of the physical nature, but I can concur with Carina, there are some physical traits that just don’t turn me on and in fact turn me very off. Like someone that doesn’t take care of their teeth! And skinny women turn me off too. Just doesn’t seem natural. But I guess I’ve always loved a woman with good child bearin’ hips. :wink:

Anyway, I’ve always thought mine to be at best average, but I’ve been told it’s bigger then that (who knows, women like to stroke our fragile ego’s, so I might be well below average… hahahaha). One women told me “you do it so good, it seems much bigger”. That may be true because she never seemed to have any problem getting her groove on, and even though I’ve been told many times that I have superb oral skills, most women, even the ones that really love oral pleasure, love a good old fashioned ####… well I think you know what I mean… even more then the tongue. Although, I have known a couple of women that can’t get off through, uh, penetration, even if it was someone like Long Dong Silver. Who knows… All I know, is if a woman ever told me she didn’t want to see me because of my “short-comings” then I know I’d be hurt. But hey, who am I to judge her preferences? She could of told me beforehand.

Moi makes a good point too about a womans width/depth, my second wife could accomodate my whole fist, but she still never had any problems with my little pecker (well, compared to my fist I guess you could call it a little pecker… gotta throw that in there lest you think I’m miniscule… gawd, what a bunch of egomaniacs we are.) The point is, sometimes it really isn’t the size of the boat, it’s the motion… yadda yadda yadda.

It is true because of my own perceived short-comings, that I try really hard to please a woman (but not in the annoying “and do you like that? how about that? is that good for you too?” way). I like to read about the female body and what women say about their sexuality to see what turns them on. If I try it and it works, then great! If I try it and it doesn’t seem to do anything special for her, then, I move on to something else.

All things being equal, I bet women still prefer larger then average ones. God bless the ones that make concessions for us not-so-well-endowed-fellas. We do try harder!
:smiley:

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funny… I thought it was brilliant. She is shallow.

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Forgot to add the standard IMHO

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this quote here gets to the issue…

thanks jalepeno on a stick…
i am definately sick of the vagina too wide commentary too. when i started this post, it was mainly in the form of interest, as well as trying to garnish some advice for my friend, as she is upset that this guy that she does like doesn’t have what it takes to get her off, to please her in a very important way. AND, a toungue has a lot more flexability then a penis…as does a digit (finger) so yeah, she could feel those, cause they were moving around a lot more than his penis.
he does have other skills…everything else about the sex was good…but here is my question…how many guys out there would be happy just getting a blowjob for the rest of there lives…would you want to stay with a woman whose vagina was too small/unable to accomadate the size of your penis? never have sex (not clinton sex, but the sweaty pounding deep kind of sex?) ever again? if EVERY man out there can tell me yes, then i am in the wrong, as is she.
i also get the feeling that this debate wouldn’t be happening if his penis WAS to big. everyone would be saying…oh don’t worry, he will find someone that can love him for his enormous penis, sure tell him it is too big, who cares.
also, she hasn’t told all of her friends, just me…and i am not the kind of person to judge ssomeone by his size…unless it comes down to not doing the job. but on a good friend basis, who the hell cares. and when i say i am a sex guru…for the love of god people, sarcasm is a beautiful thing, and the only way to learn more is to ask questions…don’t attack me for that.
and…one last thing (for now)(and i probably should have said this before) but this isn’t some snap judgement…she had sex with him 6 times…SIX. she was all about making sure it wasn’t just her. She tried different positions, and once, ONLY ONCE, could she really feel it.
i am ready for more…

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and then later …

Excuse me while I decide whether to fall off the chair laughing or barf.

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Any guy i ever hooked up with that had a small penis, well i never saw him again…they were random hook-ups so it didn’t matter

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i wasn’t looking for friendship…

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…and i am not the kind of person to judge ssomeone by his size…unless it comes down to not doing the job. but on a good friend basis, who the hell cares.

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did you miss the end part of that?

and from you…

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Excuse me while I decide whether to fall off the chair laughing or barf.

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ahhh…back in the third grade…how i miss those days.

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oops, too many quotes…forgot the slashes

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some reading material

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I disagree. Obviously, she’s not shallow enough.

Runs away

Sheepishly turns around and comes back

Look, if there is one thing I know about people and sex, it’s that they fall all over the spectrum. Why can’t size be one of your key preferences? Sure, that upsets me, personally, 'cause that’s one stadium I’ll never come up to bat in, but hey? If that’s how it is, then that’s how it is.

That having been said, jaytini2, I think your friend would be well served to explore some of the suggestions above. To my mind, there’s a better than even chance that its your pal who is no good in the rack. This is a true quote, from a good female friend of mine, who explained the epiphany she experienced after she taught herself how to have an orgasm:

“I’ve yet to meet the guy who sucks in bed. No guy sucks in bed because I’m damned good in bed.”

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*is there anyway to stop the sex, but keep the friendship? *

No, there is not. This is a common female POV, incidentally: the sex isn’t important, the friendship
is. I’m not arguing with her on this point, but from
his POV, the sex is very important. Important enough
to make or break the relationship. Hate him for this if
it makes you feel better, but this is how most men are.

She needs to understand that there is NO WAY out of
this situation without hurting him. There simply is not.
She needs to dump him, and the sooner the better. She
doesn’t have to tell him why she’s doing it, but she has
to do it.

It’s the only choice. The other alternative is to string
him along with the “just want to be friends” line, which
will hurt them both very badly in the long run. Ask any
guy - what does it make you feel like when a girls says “I just want to be friends” - especially just after you’ve
had sex with them. “It makes me feel like putting
a gun to my head and pulling the trigger.” is the
reply you’ll get. She CANNOT remain friends with this
guy. Period. End of story.

Cut him loose and he’ll have a chance again. Keep him
around and he’ll be miserable for as long as he knows her.

*are there any excercises that REALLY would make it bigger (short of a pump) *

Nope, not any more than there are exercises that will
make your arms or legs longer. And the pump will not make
his dick bigger either - it will only bruise the skin and
make it swell up temporarily, appearing thicker until it
heals. And it won’t increase length in any case.

The only possible way to increase length is to have
a special surgical procedure that involves cutting
the tendon that connects it to the body, and then
stretching it… but that’s not pleasant to contemplate.
And if he does that, even when he’s hard, it won’t stand
up - the tendon is responsible for that.

*would you want someone to tell you if you had a small penis? *

You’re assuming he doesn’t know already…

Yes, I would want to be told. It would piss me off really
bad, but I would want to know. But that’s just me. I can’t
speak for this guy.
That’s my opinion.
-Ben

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Maybe her vagina is too big?? huh? Did ya ask her? I bet not.

In ‘Everything you wanted to know about sex, but were afraid to ask’ he said a man’s pee pee should be long enough to get into the vagina & deposit semen without spilling. Fair enough.

So, ask your friend about her vagina size & see what she has to say & let us know.

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thank you modern ronin 2…one of the best answers so far, finally a man who can get past all the insecurity, and answer a question without being petty and insulting.

and handy…

so no, her vagina isn’t too big, and why are you reading that outdated book which also said homosexuals are all VERY unhappy with there lives, would love to change, and only have sex in public restrooms? quote me something else please…that book made think i was a freak from the time i was 10 until i was 19.

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… and that when we took over.

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WARNING: Long reply

There is only one way out of this, and he’ll have to be a pretty big man (so to speak) for it to work.

<straightening and smoothing those well-blackened wing feathers for one more trip into evil bastard land>

She needs to lie like the proverbial rug. My advice would be the following:

"Thumbdick (NHRN), I need to tell you something. This is really awkward; so please don’t interrupt. (NOTE: At this point she should turn away from him. 2 reasons: It makes it easier to do with a straight face and adds to the impression that this is difficult for her)

The other night, when we made love, was wonderful. You are such a giving lover. But, as much as I enjoyed it, it just didn’t feel right. I mean, I realized how much I care about you, but it wasn’t until we were together like that, that I realized you mean too much to me to lose.

We’ve been through so much together, and you’ve helped me with so many things (at this point, she should bring up a few). Being lovers is different than being friends, though. Things change really quickly. It’s easy to take each other for granted and just think about the sex and the boyfriend /girlfriend stuff that the friendship dies. Then, before too long, we end up not even liking each other anymore. We’ve both seen that happen before, and I don’t want to be one of those people.

I’m not looking for forever at this point in my life, but for lovers to stay friends they need have that level of commitment, and I’m just not ready to do it.

I realize that I may be risking everything, having you as a lover and a friend, by saying this, by you mean too much to me to sleep with you anymore. Trust me, it’s not that I don’t want to, I mean, you’re incredible in bed and part of me just wants to say, “The hell with it. I’ll take my chances.”

But then I think of what I know all the way to my bones that we’d lose if we went this way. There are so many more things we’ll go through together, that I want you to be there for, but I know it won’t happen if we keep sleeping together.

I’m sorry, Thumbdick (again NHRN). I know you’re probably upset and angry, and you have a right to be. I never meant to lead you on, but I’m just not ready, and I don’t want our friendship to end. Please take some time and deal with how I know I’ve just made you feel. After, if you think we can still be friends, you know how to find me."

If he says he knows it would be different for TEM, she just has to come back with “I know it wouldn’t, and even if you’re right, I’m so certain that it would probably turn out to be a self-fulfilling prophesy.”

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WOW…fallen angel, that’s all i can say is WOW. Good advice though

now Eutychus55, i don’t get what you are saying…i have read your post a couple of times, and i just don’t get it…if you could clear it up, that would be great.

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  1. If it doesn’t work for her, she isn’t shallow.

  2. If he was pleasing her in other ways than with his inadquate penis, I doubt she would be complaining.

  3. If she is not satisfied with things he can do other than giving her the type of dick and action she wants, it doesn’t make her a bad person.

I’d like to know where people get off judging this woman, calling her shallow, and attacking her character because she isn’t happy with her lover’s dick size. I’m sure there is someone out there for the less endowed man who would appreciate him more, and would leave him feeling good as he provided mutual satisfaction.

This woman would probably end up breaking through the facade she has constructed, have to admit he wasn’t doing it for her, and would have MORE trauma when he found out he was being strung along to save his feelings.

Better she remain his friend, he find someone who is sexually compatible with him, and she finds the same thing with a more equipped lover.

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two good responses in a row…i need to pay more attention to the night folk.

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[quote]
.how many guys out there would be happy just getting a blowjob for the rest of there lives…would you want to stay with a woman whose vagina was too small/unable to accomadate the size of your penis?[/qoute]

Lots and lots of relationships servive one partner becoming permanantly sexually disfunctional. Were I to be in a a car wreck and lose all sensation below the waste, then yes, I would expect my husband to be content with what I still could provide. Ditto for me were he in a car wreck. Sex can be an important part of a relationship, but it is not the difference between being friends and being a couple. (Looking at it from the other directions, you can have two good friends who have sex every day but whom still are not a couple–in the end, whether or not you are “doing it” dosn’t define oyur relationship).