What as the old Sam Kinison line?
[paraphrase]If your girlfriend complains that you dick is too small, tell her to roll over.[/paraphrase]
I had a friend who was like your friend. She didn’t like a small dick, either. Except she didn’t go to her friendly neighborhood ‘sex guru’ with her problem. She would just laugh about the guy with her friends.
I think she should tell him why they can’t continue to have sex. He’s already aware that he is small. If she lets him know that to have satisfying sex she needs to be penetrated by a longer, thicker penis and that’s why she doesn’t want to fuck him anymore, he’ll know that it’s not necessarily a problem with his personality or technique. It may piss him off if he has issues, but if he is relatively well-adjusted it shouldn’t be a problem.
I don’t blame her at all, either. For a lot of women, size is very important. They may enjoy and appreciate manual and oral stimulation, but at some point they are going to want some of what my wife calls the ‘D.I.P. Action’ (Dick In Pussy) and for that they generally want something more substantial than a finger. I’ve always had more female than male friends, and all of them told me that size was important - a smaller penis cannot provide the same sensations as a big or even average one. Maybe it really isn’t important to some women, and this guy should be able to find a woman that, if he can’t satisfy completely, he can satisfy adequately.
“I do not, for one, think that the problem was that the band was down. I think that the problem may have
been that there was a Stonehenge monument on the stage that was in danger of being crushed by a dwarf.”
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I just have to say that I came perilously close to guffawing loudly in my open plan office after reading that.
There is an operation one can have to increase thickness, which involves IIRC injecting fat into the penis. I’ve seen this done (is there anything British television won’t show?), and given the risks and pain involved I’d have to be quite desperate to undertake such unpleasantness [sub]if I’d needed to, which of course I don’t <ahem>… [/sub]
The silly thing about this entire thread is that the size is completely irrelevant. The man didn’t satisfy the woman as a lover. This can occur no matter how well you’re hung.
So, the actual question should be, “what should I do if the guy is a lousy lover?” That simplifies matters.
If all you want is sex, then by all means, dump him. And the posters are right – that sort of response is very shallow and self-centered. It turns the start of any sexual relationship into an audition. (“Oops, you flunked. Next!”)
If you want more, then do what you can to work on the relationship, including guiding the guy into doing what feels good for you.
the fact of the matter is he didn’t satisfy her as a lover because his penis was to small, but i have been over that…i am almost to the point where if you have never had or wanted a penis inside you, then you have no foot to stand on…if that makes me a bad person, well, sorry.
anyway, the funniest thing being that today, in the mail, i got a pamphlet for an all natural penis extending formula, with the information that 67% of woman are unsatisfied with the length and girth of there mans penis…not that i take that to be a trustworthy source, although they said it came from a condom company, so who knows.
What turned me off to your OP right away was that you didn’t just say that he didn’t satisfy her, but you implied that it was physically impossible for a man with a small penis to satisfy her. Now, I don’t know what sort of sample size (no pun intended) your friend has had, but to make a generalization based upon a single example kinda goes against everything that Uncle Cecil stands for, so of COURSE you got an overwhelmingly negative reaction on this particular message board.
Now, the truth of the matter is that there are several things that a man with a small penis can do to compensate for it, from varying position (I doubt seriously that she’d be unable to feel ANY penis if it was put into her while her knees were together while bent up to her chest) to mechanical aids (while he might balk at the concept of putting on an 8" strap-on, he might perk up if that went in one hole and his went in another (again, where it probably wouldn’t feel ‘too small’)).
And if she felt that the relationship was “only” missing sex, she should be willing to work a bit and experiment to see if it WAS possible for this guy to satisfy her. But it just smells like she’s trying to find an excuse to dump him.
IMHO.
Lord Vor
Woohoo! LordVor, I think you have hit the nail on the head. Dankedankedanke. This thread has been drivin’ me batty…I couldn’t figure out what hadn’t been said to make jaytini understand the reaction of most posters to his OP.
Scylla has a thread in the Pit as to why it’s good to have a small penis. Just FYI.
I didn’t realize my fiance’s penis was on the low end of normal,size-wise,when I was 19: I hadn’t seen all that many of them close-up. We thought we were doing good! I expect a whole lot more now from a lover than I did at 19, but we were totally in love and I didn’t know it could be even better. IMHO j2’s friend should only share her concerns with her boy if she intends to work it out and stay with him. Should she decide to move on, then telling him he’s too small is not constructive----he can’t change his size! If it wasn’t a technique or knowledge deficit, why demote him from lover to friend? And why keep him close enough to witness her new lover?
<bows, tips hat, blushes>
My first Woohoo! as a poster. Hope it doesn’t go to my head.
LordVor