Well, dang! I still have a roll of undeveloped infrared film, and they were the only place in town that had a chance of processing it once Columbia Photo closed. Shoulda taken it in earlier. . . Oh, and sorry about your personal situation, too
Oh, the camera store is still going, might just want to avoid mentioning my name. 
Now they’re only open to the public on Saturdays, though.
If he has the same attitude towards working with business partners that he does towards making his relationship better (counseling once = ‘that sucks, not going again, but don’t leave me, fix your problem with this relationship’), then I’m not surprised they’re breaking off the business relationship.
I’m curious, what did you say after he refused to return to counseling?
“GAAAH counseling was your idea!” mostly. He said he just didn’t feel he could open up and talk about anything important with the counselor, and that it didn’t do anything for him, which I suppose is fair but then you have to do something else. Not that this is all his fault or anything, mind you. Some of it is him refusing to man up and take on adult responsibilities and some of it is that I just don’t have any real chemistry with him and some of it is that sometimes I’m a nagging bitch.
ETA - and the reason the friend he really needs is leaving the business is that running a startup is exhausting and pays peanuts. I mean, working with him can be stressful, believe you me, but I really think the money and the constant, unceasing small business crisis is why she’s leaving. She’s actually leaving to clean pools because the money is so much better.
I know I’m going against the grain here, but what would the impact be of waiting a couple of weeks whilst he gets the chance to deal with the business?
I’m with this. It seems like kicking the guy when he’s down and it’s not like he’s abusing you or anything. He needs support from his best friend right now.
That said, I recently dumped a live-in BF the day after he lost his job. But he was a narcissistic douchebag, so he had it comin’.
Yeah. Wait until he gets back on his feet, and then cut the legs out from under him.
Well, that’s the thing - I can’t decide if getting it off my chest is selfish or responsible. I mean, is it fair to him to sit next to him on the couch with it weighing on my thoughts and affecting the way I treat him? Or is that the kinder thing to do?
Sounds like his friends in his business beat you to it. This guy must generally suck if no one wants to stay with him.
You know, that’s kind of uncalled for.
Your thread. Your boyfriend. Your dumping.
Believe me, after the dumpage, the whole “she dumped me when my business partners left me” will merely be something to wail in extremis - it won’t actually matter in the long run.
I was suggesting to my wife that we split up beforehand but she delayed it until after Christmas. The timing was no big deal in the grand scheme of things. I wish she’d have confronted the issue/my suggestion much earlier.
Oh, for chrissakes. There’s very little similarity between a business relationship and a romantic relationship. From the OP’s words, it sounds like she has a sound reason for wanting to leave, and the biz partners have sound reasons for wanting to leave, and none of them have anything to do with each other. (OP is not, for example, leaving the relationship to go clean pools.)
The OP raised the issue of her boyfriends business partners bailing on him, just as she is about to bail on him as well. She’s hesitating from breaking up with right now, because she doesn’t want to kick him when he’s down. If the business partner’s hadn’t left, it sounds like she wouldn’t be hesitating to leave. egro: They beat her to it.
Regardless of the difference in the reasons for leaving. The OP’s boyfriend is going to feel like everyone is dumping him.
Of course, there’s no denying that the constant small business crisis has had an effect on our relationship as well as on his relationship with his business partners.
I don’t think that’s the part of your reply that’s at issue…
Anyhow, Zsofia, that really sucks, but it does sound like you’re doing the right thing, and that you did give it an honest effort, given what you’ve said in this thread and in other threads about you two. All I could say is good luck and hang in there.
If everyone started bailing on you, you don’t think that you might see a pattern there? And wonder what hell is wrong with you.
Honestly Zsofia you’re going to feel bad no matter when you do it. You’re either kicking him when he’s down or kicking him back down just as he gets his feet under him or something else will come up and you’ll be kicking when he’s down again.
You need to pick the time that works for you (now!) and get on with your life. You’ve got a lot going on in your life too and if you’re faking support because you’re agonizing over the fact that you’ve already made a decision that you haven’t acted on it’s not good for either of you.
FWIW, I think Zsofia should go ahead and act now as well. Best way to remove that band-aid is to just rip it out.
And most likely, 6 months from now, the boyfriend will be thanking you. He’ll will have moved on and realize that he was just as unhappy as she is. It’s just hard to see the dyanmics when you’re in the middle of it.
Sorry to hear it, Zsofia, although it sounds like you’re doing the right thing. The two of you live together, right? How’s that going to work, are you kicking him out or leaving? I think if you’re leaving, it’s OK to go ahead and go, but if it’s your apartment, maybe give him some time? Asking him to move in the midst of all this seems somehow harsher than being left. But I could be way off base. Good luck either way, breaking up with someone is so miserable.