But if you are married to a jerk, there are other problems, regardless of whether you are bending to keep the other person happy. The bending isn’t then a problem but a symptom of a problem.
That’s precisely what I was getting at, actually, although I’m not saying it well. If this is a one-time gripe from someone who is in a bad mood because he’s in pain or emotional discomfort, then big deal. If, however, she is constantly having to make concessions for a stubborn spouse who is unwilling to be instrospective about his own behavior, then there might be more problems on hand than what is immediately apparent, in which case, it might be wiser for her to start putting her foot down. I doubt that’s the case here, but it is why I felt like so much depended on whether or not this was a pattern with him.
Gotcha. Sorry. I thought you were saying that bending is bad in and of itself, which I don’t think it has to be.
It seems like he’s being whiny about it, and I find it quite odd. Sorry. As a male, I wouldn’t have cared if it were mentioned or not. Personally, I’d rather it not be if it wasn’t serious. It’s just one last person to ask me about my [insert health problem here] at a later time, ya know?