I didn’t want to highjack the female masturbation thread so here it goes…
The point is kind of moot now that I’m not seeing this girl anymore but I’ll ask anyway. Fighting ignorance and all.
So I had a girl. When we were both sober sex was great. I got mine, she got hers.
Sometimes tho’ we would like to have a few drinks before our love making. When I say a few drinks I don’t mean falling down drunk but tipsy.
When ever we did this she could never achieve orgasm no matter how long we tried.
I’m wondering in retrospect if I had brought a vibrator into the mix; do you ladies think that might of helped?
Also is it creepy for a guy to have one of these things tucked away in his drawer for just such an occassion?
Well, sometimes it just ain’t gonna happen, no matter what you do. Pressing the issue only makes things worse in those cases.
And some women just plain don’t like vibrators. Too harsh and intense a sensation. Other women love 'em. Whether or not it would have helped your ex, I dunno. Only one way to find out.
Whether or not it’s creepy for a guy to have one tucked away is totally dependent on the situation. If we’d bought it together, great. If it was just there, but new in the box, fine. If it was there and without packaging so I had no idea who else it might have been used on…ewwww.
I think many girls would be squicked out if you bring out The Communal Vibrator. It’s like offering her the toothbrush all the girls who stay over at your house use, but worse.
One time I was with a guy who brought out a vibrator. I don’t think I used it directly on my girly bits, or maybe it had been sterilized, but I wasn’t freaked out. I still couldn’t come (I guess I’m used to my own vibrator and sometimes even alone it doesn’t happen, as CCL points out).
Why am I having flashbacks to that Dan Savage column about the sterilization of dildos now…
