no, i’m not advertising a porn site! sickos! throws water in the face of all you perverts
anyway, at 19 i felt too sexually naive for my own good so i bought a vibrator. it’s not one of those phallic-shaped ones, it’s just this little waterproof thing with rubber bumpy things on it. here’s what i’m wondering:
what’s it supposed to feel like? for me it just feels strange. so either masturbation is overrated or i’m just doing it wrong. well what am i supposed to do? i didn’t even realize i HAD a clitoris until a few months ago, and it doesn’t seem to like me. i’m trying to get to know my body more, but it seems like my body wants to be left alone. so how long does it take to get an orgasm with a vibrator anyway? i know stuff varies for people, but i’m impatient. ahhh… i feel so naive. like a 3-year-old looking down and asking “what’s this?”
have i succeeded in grossing everyone out with TMI yet? oh, and cj, if you come across this post, sorry, and at least i’m not getting leg cramps this way! :eek:
It sounds like you’re trying too hard to achieve the “Big O”.
You should just start checking things out with your body. Try lots of different things just to see how they feel and get comfortable with what your body responds to. If what you’re doing with the vibrator now isn’t working, try something else. For some women, direct clitoral stimulation is too much and you can “short things out” if you focus there too much - try moving the vibrator around a bit and see what happens.
There’s not really a pre set list of items that you can check off in order to achieve orgasm - you kinda just let the orgasm find you.
Personally, I had no idea what I was doing, oh so many years ago, and I was fooling around with my man. All of a sudden I was like "HOLLY FRIKIN’ CRAP WHAT DID YOU JUST DO, MAN?!?!?! It was a happy, happy day.
I’ve heard running water works wonders for some women. Those detachable shower heads with the variety of pulsating water choices seem to be just great for reaching those out of the way places.
Good luck, and remember, when you do get the Big-O, you only get 10 of them. After that you’ve used up your allocation. Use them wisely!
I seriously thought this thread might be an attempt to get the largest-ever post:view ratio…
Seriously, relax and have fun. Orgasm is different for every human being. Worrying about it is probably the single thing most likely to delay/prevent it.
awright! now i have advice from everyone! hehe i was talking to an online friend and was kind of surprised that this 14-year-old knew more about it than me… oh well.
anyway, i guess i need to relax, basically. just see what works. i’m sure i’ll get the hang of it eventually. thanks anyway…
You also may not be able to feel that well with the clit. My girlfreind doesn’t get anything out of clitoral stimulation, but if I even touch her “A-Spot” she goes crazy.
My advice is to start out in an at least “semi-interested” state. If you are not already feeling sexual when you use the vibrator it will most likely feel like a whole lot of nothing – or numb the whole area rendering the excercise pointless.
May I suggest some of the racier romance novels for non-threatening getting-in-the-mood? “Too Much Temptation” by Lori Foster has a really stylish, non-lurid cover and mucho sex.
I’m waiting for some brave (male) soul to start a “Virgins and Vaseline” thread. Imagine the advice that will pour in![ul]
[li]Perhaps you’re whacking too hard, or using too much vaseline. Remember that gentle friction is the key.[/li][li]Some men have difficulty achieving orgasm by directly beating their meat. For them, humping a large piece of fruit (like a watermelon) is much more satisfying.[/li][li]I’ve heard that the appropriate vacuum cleaner attachments do wonders for some men, as well as belt sanders. Those multiple speed household appliances seem to be just great for tickling your whang in all the right places.[/li][li]May I suggest some of the racier skin magazines for non-threatening getting-in-the-mood? “Oriental Ass Hounds” by Larry Flint has a really stylish, non-lurid cover and mucho Asian ass action.[/li][/ul]
I’m not a woman, agentfroot, but I’d recommend doing some exploring without the vibrator first. The other posters are right – get to know your body before you go attacking it with power tools. Ideally, masturbation with your hand should feel good all by itself, and using a vibrator may enhance the pleasure. Doing it the other way 'round will deprive you of a valuable learning experience.
If your clitoris is too sensitive, don’t go right at it. Work with the hood and the tissue around it instead. If you’re in the mood before you start, you’ll figure out what you like soon enough.
[hijack]It’s just occurred to me how many “topics for women” threads I post to. Either I’m really in touch with my feminine side, really horny, or really smart.
Wait a minute – why do I need to be either/or? Sign me up for all three! [/hijack]
hehe humping fruit… ohh my… i don’t even want to picture that… snicker
as for the hand thing, it just doesn’t do anything for me. that’s why i pulled out the “power tools.” however, i have quite the imagination, and fantasizing or reading/writing erotica pretty much gets me in the mood. i think i might be too sensitive though, sometimes things tend to hurt a bit. ah well, i’ll just play around and see what happens…
oh, and waves hi to all you guys who popped in! uhm… giggle i’m glad i can talk about this on the internet, i’m too embarrassed to even mention it to my “real” friends…
Strange.
I would have thought that there would have been several “I’d be more than happy help you check this out…” and so forth sort of replies by now.
Aside from seconding(or thirding, fourthing…??) what everybody else here has said, minus the offer of help, I’ll add the suggestion of an absolutely terrific book, called, “Sex for one” by Betty Dodson.
Don’t feel pressured, it takes time to get to know yourself, trust me, I know all about it. It took me years to get to where I could orgasm. I was, at one point, starting to think that I was one of those rare women who can’t. Lo and behold, what a surprise to find that I am actually easily orgasmic, and prone to multiples!
It was a happy, happy day. 
I don’t see the guys