exactly dj, it’s up to the individual posters whether their breaks were dramatic or not.
NOT YOU. All I was saying with my explanation is that while some people may think that some I quit messages are overly dramatic, you probably shouldn’t assume the motivations of a poster until you know the whole story.
I know you didn’t mention names, I was just sacrificing myself as an example.
J
Lets try who instead of how
I give up.
Carry on.
Well, I definately have an opinion on whether a post is overly dramatic or not once I have read it. When I say “It is up to the poster to decide” I’m just saying that I’m not going to dig up specific names and examples and point to them as overly dramatic. I’m simply saying I have percieved some “I quit” posts as being overly dramatic (cries for attention basically). Armed with that knowledge (that such perception exists), it will be up to the individual to decide if their “I quit” post fits that description. I have no intention of bringing up specific posters for intense scrutiny. All specific scrutiny will have to be self applied.
The way you capitalized the “not you” part makes it seem like you’re challenging my right to an opinion. That’s silly. I’ll have an opinion of every post I read, and if I feel it’s overly dramatic, it has little to do with knowing the “whole story” and more to do with how that poster presented themselves in that post. The issue I am adressing is the way such a situation gets handled, not whether the events in a specific posters life are legitamately difficult, tragic, or merit quitting the boards. Back story or no, I can’t stand an obvious attention whore. Especially if they are of the woe-is-me variety.
Again, this is me discussing a general phenomenon and not pointing the finger at anyone specific.
DaLovin’ Dj
Would you guys just quit it already? 
:rolleyes:
Brandishing around that list of important people again, huh? Do you keep a cork board around and move little pieces of paper with people’s names up and down in rank based on how often they side with you? That would probably make it easier to remember who to listen to and who to ignore. I guess in your case it’s more like “Love thy neighbor - but only if they agree with you. If they don’t - attack, belittle, and insult them whenever you get the chance.”
DaLovin’ Dj
Well, would we rather have people leave, and not tell us why?
There must be plenty who took a casual remark the wrong way, got involved in a shouting fest they didn’t intend, WERE DISAPPOINTED WITH SERVER PERFORMANCE, or who were hoping to get more / other replies which weren’t forthcoming…
What is your defination?
When you have nothing positive to say, have nothing of any value to add, & lack the ability to address issues in a constructive manner, then it’s time to attack people for their typos. A giant among men you are, Lib.
DaLovin’ Dj
Which is presumably why your quit post ended with an invitation for people to email you. 
I agree with DJ. The only information we have is what is posted on the board. How are we to know “the whole story?” All we have is your words on the screen on this board. You can’t assume that the members of this board are also users of whatever other means you use to communicate with some boardmembers and therefore know “the whole story?”
Exactly Green Bean, so perhaps DJ shouldn’t ASSUME that people are offering a quit post because they are ‘begging for attention’. Perhaps they are just letting friends know what’s going on.
And Nostradamus, I ended my post with an offer of people to email me, because you’re always free to email me, but I don’t want to type the same thing forty times.
Can anyone tell me what potential positive will come from this?
Yea, there’s been people who announced they were leaving. So what? Sometimes it’s been “gosh, I won’t have internet access for a while” , sometimes it’s been a ‘you’re all so mean’, and all sorts of shit in between. and lots have come back. again, so what?
From “this”? wring, do you mean from a Pit thread???
I mean, if you’re looking for a positive product to emanate from the bowels of this forum, think again. You should know better.
Perhaps both. Perhaps neither. Like wring says, all sorts of these type posts occur. One type strikes me as childish and foolish. Some others do not. I read the post to figure out which kind of “I quit” post the speaker is presenting.
If I shouldn’t assume that people are begging for attention, then you shouldn’t assume they are not. They may or may not be doing just that. We must base our opinions on the words presented in this context. Of course, we may end up being wrong - The person who seems like they are just letting friends know may be just looking for attention, and the person who seems as if they are looking for attention may have really just been trying to let friends know. But sometimes if it quacks, smells, and walks like a duck it really is a duck.
My overall point is that some of these posts come across as desperate pleas for attention. Maybe it’s poor communication skills sometimes, but not all the time. It’s something to be aware of if one ever finds themselves writing one of these posts. Consider not only how such a post may come across, but what are your real motivations for making such a post. It could mean the difference between getting “Don’t let the door hit you on the way out.” as a response as opposed to “Best of luck to you, hope you come back when you get all that stuff straightened out.”
DaLovin’ Dj
yea, I know dan. I’m just thinking - yes, if we’ve been around any length of time, we’ve noted a few folks swooping in and doing the dance of “I must leave”, (at whatever level). And while I may, in the comforts of my own chair mentally add the phrase “for at least 20 whole minutes”, I don’t generally post it.
Now, the folks who do this, know who they are, and have their reasons for their actions. Maybe they change their minds, maybe they’re going through something pretty deep, maybe they had tuna for lunch.
Certainly the point here wasn’t to have them wander in, see the ‘error’ of their ways (assuming that there is an error), and announce same?
The other alternative, of course, is to talk snipishly about people who are still here “isn’t it funny when loopyloo does her traditional fall swan song, it must be October 'cause there she goes again”. I find that pretty mean spirited.
Oh well.
Gotta go be ‘venomous’ in another thread.
Does this mean I can’t mention that I’m quite the broad, all the time?
Darn.
I’ve quietly taken several sabbaticals due to overtime requirements here at work. That was mainly before I got 'Net access at my desk and could only get to the board from home.
The purpose of this thread, wring, as I see it, was a simple question - Who has left and come back over and over? The thread wasn’t originally a Pit thread, anyway, although I’ve already forgotten which forum contained it. I’m not sure why it’s even here. There’s no rant. It sounds to me more like a MPSIMS or IMHO thread.
Like Jeff, I frequently will leave for a week or so*, and then come back and post four times a day for two weeks striaght. I never have any “I quit! To Hell with you all!” type meltdowns though, I just take time off because real life interferes with posting frequency. Hmmm, I wonder if instead of quitting the board, I could quit real life instead.
incidentally, I’ve just come back from one sabbatical, and am about to go on another one as the boss is sending me on a 4-day wetlands seminar. So, to Hell with you all! You’re all just a backstabbing clique licking the oppressive bootheel of the fascist moderators! A pox on you! You’re not going to have me to kick around no more! …at least until next Monday.