The other day, I was discussing oral sex with my mother and sister (we have a VERY open family). My mom claims that she doesn’t like to perform it, and NEVER swallows. On the other hand, my sister and I do it any chance we get (within reason), and ALWAYS swallow. So I started to wonder…
What’s the deal with the whole spit/swallow thing? I mean really, is this a big deal to most men? Why is it so important? Guys, help me out on this one.
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I would give you an honest answer, but it’s time for my cold shower.
I’m of the opinion that I’m lucky to be getting oral sex at all, so in my few moments of blissful dizziness that always follows, I don’t give a rat’s ass if she spits, swallows, or does backflips at the foot of the bed. I’m certainly not going to know the difference, so whatever she’d rather do is just dandy with me.
jay-c, how YOU doin’?
Consider this an open invitation for you and sis to visit me at the Spritle pad. 
Swallowing’s better. From my perspective, I can actually have a “bigger” or “more powerful” or just plain feels better orgasm if my partner swallows.
But I know that some women don’t like to, or actaully can be made physically ill by doing so (hey, I got texture issues with some things too) so that’s certainly not a “must have”.
-Doug
jay-c,
I’m speaking up as a female, not male, on this long-standing oral-sex issue. I have only ever given full head once, despite having 2 sexual partners and many others I have “fooled” around with. It took me a very long itme just to be able to give a little head, let alone go all the way to the end. When I did, I tried as hard as I could to swallow it all down, but was so revolted I ended up gagging and making my way to the bathroom to regurgitate as much as possible. I felt horrible about it. I am overwhelmed by guilt because he makes such a big deal about me not performing oral sex on him. He goes on and on about it, then claims it isn’t that important to him. Ugh.
Anyway, I too would like some input from the guys. I have a million and one guy pals and while they will share with me, in great detail, many of their sexual escapades - on this issue they hedge quite a bit.
we’re talking about gum right? Because I always spit it out before giving a blow job.
jarbaby
A vote here for “doesn’t matter at all”. The importance you speak of may be a power issue.
I am trying to think of the male corollary to ‘swallowing’: it may very well be “cuddling after second orgasm” rather than passing out.
I must say a bead of perspiration appeared on my brow upon reading your post. I try to limit midday wood to weekends but geez. Another resolution has bitten the dust.
Is this often a group effort?
Not often enough. Kidding, kidding. Leave it to a man to lead this nice discussion about blowjobs straight into the gutter…
Now, I’ve never given a blowjob (ahem though I have swallowed semen, so I am somewhat familiar with the substance), but it seems to me that spitting would be the more unpleasant of the two options. You’d have to manipulate it in your mouth, push it through a small mouth opening, thereby getting it on your lips, while if you swallow, down it goes, and you don’t have to deal with it anymore.
Good grief, jay-c. That really is an open relationship with your Mom. Very cool. My Mom and I are close, but I can’t imagine bringing that up in conversation. [although giving my youngest brother a stroke if he overheard the conversation would be worth it :D]
For the record, I swallow. It never occured to me not to and my partners have more than appreciated it. My ex even wrote a song about it 
I second mouthbreather’s eloquent words on this subject.
I never minded swallowing.
However, my last boyfriend didn’t WANT me to, for some arcane reason of his own.
Here’s the thing, though–I have fairly prominent and sharp canine teeth (call me Ms. Dracula) and he would, uh, fit between them.
Anyway, when the moment of truth would occur, he would pull back suddenly and without warning, more than once making himself bleed from scraping against my teeth. Just didn’t seem worth it to me, but it was his choice. Odd.
Speaking as a male I would have to say i don’t care. Personally, to be getting oral sex at all is an honor all in its own, so whatever she does after is her own business.
It’s not a big deal to me. Very few women have swallowed when doing me, but they were still great at it. Personally I’d rather see it shooting all over the place, making it unnecessary to even get it in one’s mouth. But that’s just me…
I always spit. If you swallow, it tastes chalky and overly minty, and besides, the dentist has that little basin right there…
What’s that?..
Talking about WHAT???
YOU PEOPLE ARE SICK, SICK, SICK!!!
FTR, Personally, I don’t care. At that point, I’m done with it, and you can do with it whatever you like.
My ex used to gag like a cat with a hairball when she tried to spit. It took years to even get her to try swallowing.
Once she tried it she found it much easier.
Your results may differ.
I always swallow. It’s easier, and he likes it. I don’t really mind the taste much. I actually find it quite erotic.
I’ve never given head, but actually my friends and I were talking about this recently. My cousin (26) is opposed to it on principle (“he goes to the BATHROOM out of that! You want to put it in your MOUTH?”), as is one of my friends; the other friend has experience and HAD to swallow because her family was in the next room. Me? Well, I’m certainly not adverse to the idea of blow-jobs or whatever other (relatively) harmless thing that would bring my partner pleasure, and the way I see it, if you’re having it in your mouth in the first place ya might as well swallow it. :shrug: