My current SO has been contacted by some freak who wil not take no for an answer. Tonight he called and asked her if she wanted company. Well, Shitbag, no she doesn’t, and has told you twice now, not to bother her again.
Has any one else had this problem?
Anyway, monkey fuck, if you are reading this, (which I doubt) GO AWAY! You are making her nervous, which in turn, really pisses me off. I don’t know if you think you are being cute, or charming, or whatever.
I am going to warn you once, here and now. You are messing with the wrong people.
I will find out what you look like, and if I catch you within 500 meters of this house I will hurt you. The gloves are off, we have caller ID now, and I will find out who and where you are. You want to be a stalker? You want to hunt? Well, you just upgraded yourself from just another bag of flesh to prey. The next time that phone rings, and she gives me the OK, I will come after you.
So do yourself a favor and leave us alone.
I don’t find this amusing in any way, shape, or form. You are threating MY family, Our security, and our peace of mind. I don’t like having to wonder if My family is safe in our home.
Find my shape by the moonlight, why my thoughts aren’t so clear.
Kvallulf, how did this guy get your phone #? Did he meet your SO somewhere? You have my sympathies, man. I know that is would piss me off to no end, just knowing this guy is out there.
Hopefully this guy is harmless and will go away when you confront him (on the phone?). Good luck.
The most rewarding part was when I got my money!
-Dr. Nick Riviera
Make sure your SO is bieng brutall clear, then call the cops.
As much as you manly rage appeals to me ( hey, I never claimed to be modern !) if you do anything to this guy, and the cops dont have a big file on his stalking…they are gonna come after YOU!
You have to protect yourself…picture this:
You arent over-reacting, this guy is a nut job, he calls, you go to his place, pound him, the cops take you away(they have no proof that he did anything, and you were caught pounding him). HE is left alone with HER. Be careful, and tell her some girl on the internet thinks she has quite a fella in you.
(Sigh) all right, all right … (takes out list on pad of legal paper) Which one is your SO? Is it Michelle, the hottie waitress? Lisa, that petite fox who walks her little rat-dog in my neighborhood? Sara, the unbelieveable cutie who came to where I work lookin’ to use the terlet? … You have to give me something to work with here.
I emphathize with you and your SO but wonder why you bother blowing steam here? You’ve already made clear you doubt the idiot will ever see your posting; I empathize with your need to vent – I just think you coul expend your energies more efficiently . . .
First, start logging all calls – the time, number-called-from, and note that the caller was warned not to call again. That’s point A.
Second, when he calls again, make the log entry, and report the creep to the phone company security office as well as the police. That’s point B, which defines a line.
Third, if the creep calls a third time – that crosses the line defined by points a & b, that’s point C, and that describes a triangle, which is a pattern. A pattern of harassing behavior is generally what the phone company will want to see in order to protect themselves against a civil suit in the event they pursue and prosecute the jerk. It’s also something the police will want, to provide the context for investigation and/or arrest.
Dammit! That’s just a bit too reasonable. Do not suppress the overwhelming urge to beat the crap of this guy! If more people got their heads kicked in, you would see a lot less of this sort of behavior.
Of course, then you would see a lot more people’s heads getting kicked in, at least for a while…
Kvalluf: Please immediately go out and purchase “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin deBecker. Your SO should read it first and then yourself. Please do this. No joke, I think in your current situation you will find this book invaluable.
Well, he has not called back. Hopefully he has gotten the point. Glitch is that a book I can find in a Waldens or Borders? Also, can you recomend a decent sword? I am looking for one that can put with use, not something to hang on the wall.
Find my shape by the moonlight, why my thoughts aren’t so clear.
I would imagine you could find that book at most any decent book store. It is in the “Self Improvement” section.
There are lots of good books on the subject, but deBecker’s is quite simply the best at making it all understandable, while also being an enjoyable read. If you want more books after reading that I would be more than happen to recommend them.
As to a sword:
I won’t provide the link directly, because I believe that is against board policy (being a commercial site). Take a look for “Sword from Spain”, click on oriental swords, than fighting swords. Those weapons are very finely made. The entire sword is very solid, and the blades are one solid piece.
kvallulf-
You have my respect for Wanting to protect your SO. But can I advise you on something. No court in the world will go lenient on you if you go around to the freaks house and cut him up. It’s Damn appealing… extremely appealing. But I recommend this cource of action. See if you can get hold of a rubber baton, something like what the French police use. No bruises, no evidence, and unless he can Identify you, or you get seen doing it, then …well, you knopw what I mean.
But please, let the police deal with this first. keep the offensive if he comes to your property.
John Larrigan
“82.35% of all statistics are made up on the spot”–Vic Reeves
Kvalluf: I would like to second what John said. I do not recommend taking the law into your own hands. It is perfectly reasonable to seek some means of self protection (a sword may not be the best means, but if you cannot get a gun. You may wish to consider pepper spray or a tazer. Again, depending on what is legal where you live. A baton is better, legally, as a self defense weapon than a sword). Seeking out your assailant and chopping him into limburger would be very foolish legally, even if it feels justified ethically. It is vital to get the police involved, but I also encourage you not to rely on the police for protection. Read “The Gift of Fear”.
By all means, buy the book. But a couple of things to do right away. 1) Tell you SO NOT to tell the stalker she’s not interested because she’s already married, involved, etc. He may take this as a cue that if he just got rid of you, his way would be clear. 2) Do not let her talk to him at all anymore, no matter how tempting it would be to yell at him, if he does call back. Let it go to the answering machine. For some reason “NO!” just encourages them. It’s still contact with the object of his attentions, however negative that contact may be.
If he does start showing up, you can take a lesson from what one woman did. She, of course, never took his calls and she also let her neighbors know what was going on. She then carried an air horn with her wherever she went. When he showed up she would blow the air horn and her neighbors came running! He eventually got so frustrated that he gave up on her. No doubt he moved his attentions somewhere else, but with these jokers sometimes that’s all you can hope for.