I am starting this thread in an attempt not to hijack this thread.
As mentioned in this post, straight guys tend to have a very strong attitude against anything entering their anus.
So, I’m asking: is this a physically-based fear of pain or discomfort -OR- is it solely a fear of being viewed as “less of a man”?
For the record, I’m a gay guy who has no questions about his own masculinity.
I never analyzed the reason why, but I’m uncomfortable with anything being popped into any of my orifices by anyone. The doctor doing the prostate exam, or even just checking my tonsils or ears.
It seems more of a physical discomfort issue than anything else, though pain isn’t really it, since none of those things are actually painful.
I’m just a big chicken when it comes to being invaded.
Getting fucked by a woman wearing a strap-on has been a long time goal of mine. My ex and I did some experiments in this direction (fingers, butt plugs, dildos), but it never quite worked out before we broke up. My feeling is that it’s kind of an acquired taste(you can’t help but feel you’re taking a big poop in reverse), but the male prostrate is an erogenous zone thrilling millions, and goddamnit, I want a piece of that.
I apologize for hijacking your thread, but I think you’re overgeneralizing. Perhaps some straight guys feel that way, but I certainly don’t have any objection to it in principle. I can’t say that I’ve ever been with a woman who was interested in doing that, though. I wouldn’t imagine it as being like a prostrate exam, because one generally is not aroused when undergoing a prostrate exam. I’ve read that your threshold of pain increases when you are aroused.
Anyway, I’ll let you get back to having the question answered, but I didn’t want you to think this was some universal “straight guy” thing.
prostrate/prostate :smack:
Feydeau, since you’re from Southern California, I don’t know if you’re familiar with Ralph from KROQ’s morning show, but I recall that he used to talk about the fact that he would let his girlfriend use dildos and other such devices on him, and that this was an enhancement to their sexual relationship. I also recall that most of the males who called in to the show, and the other male DJs, seemed to think this was impossible to even contemplate.
As a straight male, I can tell you that the idea generally doesn’t appeal to me, but I don’t know that there’s any threat to my masculinity involved. I’ve let me wife experiment a bit with me in that fashion, and I found it fairly stimulating at the time to go along with other activities we were involved in. It isn’t something I crave, but I don’t object to it.
I assume that for most straight men, there is some crude sense of machismo that evokes the “Exit only!” mentality. I imagine these same men could be talked into doing a lot of things they wouldn’t ordinarily contemplate should they meet the right woman who approaches the subject carefully, but they still probably wouldn’t discuss it with anyone else. :rolleyes:
Oops, double typo. I meant prostate, of course.
It isn’t for nothing that I once started a thread called The Prostate - Joy of Man’s Desiring .
Don’t knock it if you haven’t tried it.
Asimovian - I don’t know that you’re getting a true random sampling of men among the audience for “shock jock” radio shows, and even less so when you’re only hearing the ones who got past the screener.
It just doesn’t seem very appealing to me at all. I would have the same reaction if you asked if I would like to have a woman stick a dildo down my throat. It doesn’t sound erotic and it probably won’t feel all that good to me. I don’t consider my ass to be an erogenous zone at all. There is not a lot of deep psychological processes involved.
Heh, that’s how I feel about oral and anal and I’m a woman. 
Well, I’m bisexual, but nothing is going into my anus. The idea holds precisely zero attraction for me, and it would be uncomfortable and possibly painful. It just isn’t something I have any reason to do, and I have plenty of reason not to do it.
The idea of recieving anal is totally icky to me, but I regularly use a strap-on on my boyfriend. It took a while for us both to get used to the idea, but it was natural evolution of our (decidely kinky) relationship. He seems to enjoy it quite a bit, to judge from the sounds he makes.
I’d be open to it.
You’d have to be.
I wonder, is there anything Freudian about the multi-poster misspellings of “prostate” as “prostrate”? Or are you all just NYPD Blue fans?
Granted, but the general levels of immaturity that I hear from these callers reflects that same levels of immaturity I tend to hear from many guys in person (at least in the 18-34 demographic).
It’s a stretch, but not a huge one, to assume that many men in real life have a high “ick” factor for no good reason when it comes to the idea presented in the OP.
Pun intended?
Men who rule it out completely, saying “there’s no way anything down there can feel good”, are quite simply missing out. There is very specific stimulation that can come from the anus, including through penetration, which while not anything great by itself can add a great deal to more ‘typical’ activities. And to tackle some of the misconceptions that I think are already floating around, I don’t mean a twelve-inch dildo…a finger can do the trick.
Ow. And I wish I’d thought of it first. :smack:
I don’t generally talk about my sex life on the boards. But I’ll relent just this once. My wife showed me where my G-spot was. I had no idea. Once you’ve had a G-spot orgasm, you will always want to have them, or at least fairly often. I admit to having a huge “ick” factor about it, and have no desire to experience a penis up there. But omigod, there is nothing else like it. I enjoy my life better knowing that my body has this super-erogenous zone. Why did it have to be up my ass??