Straight guy checking. You need to relax about this whole thing. If he likes you there is no way that you could ask him out that he will not say yes to, unless you ask him to a KKK rally. The question isn’t how you ask him out, it is whether he likes you are not. The only way you are going to find out if he likes you is to make a real move, which is more than e-mailing him. Next time you see him ask him to d anything, it does not matter what you ask him to do. Think of it this way - you like him, if he asked you in awkward way to do something you really didn’t think sounded like that much fun would you still say yes since you like him? IF he likes you he will say yes or suggest something else. Go for it.
I don’t think asking for e-mail a cop out at all. Movement is movement, Rome wasn’t built in a day and all that. I think proceeding to send him an e-mail is the right move also, otherwise it might be a bit awkward when you meet again.
I really admire you for asking the guy. I always read these thread (**js_africanus ** had something similar going on a while ago) in the vain hope that I will eventually get brave enough to ask someone out. I’m one of these diminutives spirit, I guess. :rolleyes:
But enough about me, back to you. Any replies yet?
It is now Thursday evening, and no reply yet. Normally by this point I probably would have made plans to go tomorrow night to be able to chat with him at work. However, I think I’d feel a might bit weird going if he still hasn’t replied yet. I’m really not over-thinking this. Well okay, a little bit. Like I didn’t really leave a hanging question or something for him to reply to, except for the standard “what’s up?” Meh. I’m thinking, though, that since he doesn’t have a screen name, that he’s not online much and doesn’t check email that often.
In all fairness, I a) can’t write him another email before he’s written one back and b) can’t approach him about it if I stop by the coffeehouse tomorrow or Sunday night if I haven’t heard from him by either day. I admit that if I were to write another email before he replies first, it’d be a balls-out “look, I’d like to see you outside of your job b/c I’d really like to get to know you. how’s Saturday?”
That’d be kinda scary, no? Yeah I thought so. Grumble, harumph. Calm the hell down.
i went tonight with my friend and sat at the bar. as i write this im a lil drunk. anyway i thought i’d come on to him and just ask him out, but there’s no vibes so i throw in the towel fro now. i think i was tryin too hard. and still no email reply so meh. maybe in good time. bleh.
I hate to be the party-pooper here, but…
You made this statement to him and he heard it: " I said something like “I didn’t get to talk to you tonight…and I could visit you at your other job but that might make me a stalker.” (said with a smirk)"
You asked for his email address, got it from him, sent him an email and got no response.
You asked his co-worker about him. 99% of the time, the co-worker would pass this bit of information along. Guys do like to discuss girls. 
Believe me, you are All OVER this guy’s radar screen. There’s something else going on with him that makes this bad timing. I have friends that check their email maybe once every two months, but if a woman they were interested in asked for and got their email address they’d be checking their email about every two hours!
You’ve done all you can do and now you’ve put the ball squarely in his court. As I see it, the next move has to come from him. If he doesn’t respond very soon, there’s something going on with him that you are not aware of.
Good luck, however it works out.
I think the martian’s got it right. Even I would have gotten those hints by now.
I have to admit, it doesn’t look good at this moment.
I’d hang out somewhere else for a week or ten days so you don’t feel too weird, then go back to the coffeehouse and go on as if nothing happened. No point in losing a perfectly good hangout over an aborted flirtation.
OTOH, if you do happen to hear from him, may I suggest that you give the suggestion to lure him over with a request for household assistance a miss? I’ve known guys who absolutely HATE being approached that way, as it makes them feel used. Can’t blame them, really.
Since you are from Long Island, if the situation should ever progress, what’s wrong with going to the beach with him? As long as you are not overly neurotic about either your own appearance in a bathing suit or guys’ natural tendency to look at women at the beach.
He’s not keeping me from hanging out there. Yes, I’ve been going specifically on the nights he works the last few weeks but I’ll still go regardless. I don’t feel weird about it, I just can’t help but wonder if he got the email and ignored it? Not like I’m going to confront him on it, lol.
No offense to the person that suggested it, but I thought that idea was dumb and never considered it.
Well for one thing I’m not much of a beach person. I don’t get the impression that he is, either. Also, a big no thanks to seeing me in a bathing suit. 
And yeah, John Carter’s right, I’ve done all I can do. I’m just confused b/c two weeks ago I really thought I got signals. I should have acted on them then, but alas.
Got any other words of wisdom?
He gave you his e-mail address. He obviously knew you weren’t asking for the hell of it. I can also guarantee your e-mail did not get lost along the way. So this leaves two options, either he hasn’t checked his e-mail (which wouldn’t be the case were he interested) or he just flat-out isn’t interested.
So I suggest you simply stop thinking about him and just get him out of your mind. If he’s interested, he’d do something about it, whether it be e-mail you back or talk to you further at the restaurant.