It sort of goes without saying, but inate personality and friends/family play a big part in how a “super hot” woman sees herself. I’ve know 9’s and 10’s who absolutely knew it and used it–quite effectively, I might add–to get what they wanted in life, and I’ve known 9’s and 10’s who were sweet, down-to-earth and avoided attention at all costs. The ones I knew from early in life didn’t change much between kindergarten and adulthood; maybe there was a slight noticable self-esteem boost when teh hotness took over for the down-to-earth types, but they remained approachable.
In terms of self-awareness, I’d be willing to bet that most super hot females know they’re super hot by the time they’re leaving high school, what with homecoming court and prom queen and constant obvious stares from not-so-subtle HS boys, one would have to be incredibly oblivious to make it to adulthood unaware. The question is, do they consider themselves elite beauties deserving of worship, or do they focus on all the flaws or perceived flaws they have?
All things being equal, I think the advantages of being super hot (better range of options for SO, more, better paying job opportunities, discounts and preferential treatment as a consumer) would outweigh the disadvantages (two-faced, backstabbing friends, sexual harrassment and catcalls, constant attention and the pressure to look beautiful at all times or be the victim of cattiness).
I have a friend who used to get really upset when people teased her about her looks. They kept calling her beautiful when clearly she was not. It was like nominating the fat chick for prom queen just to have a laugh at her. My friend was getting this all the time, and getting really sick of it.
She really got confused when she would travel abroad and get the same treament. How far did this conspiracy go? How cruel could people be, all over the world?
It finally dawned on her a few years ago (just before I met her) that she is, in fact, really beautiful. Now she accepts it with good grace, and without a hint of arrogance or being defined by it.
I’ve gradually reached the point I think I may have some relevant inside info here.
Disclaimer: they aren’t all identical people, hence their experiences are not identical; generalizations may not apply in all cases, etc
a) She feels entitled to certain types of good outcomes. A good boyfriend, a good relationship, good things coming her way as a consequence of whatever relationships she chooses to be a part of.
b) As a consequence of a) above, she tends towards low tolerance of non-ideal behavior from boyfriends, friction and issues and things that need to be worked on in a relationship, and as a consequence of THAT is somewhat more inclined than the average person to say “nope, not working out. NEXXXXT!” and discard boyfriend and/or relationship.
c) Also as a consequence of a) above, she tends to expect to get more out of it than she puts into it. Hey, the boy’s lucky here, he’s got me. Now what am I getting in return, is it sufficient?
d) As a consequence of all of the above, she is therefore dissatisfied a great deal of the time; sometimes she is innvolved with quite good fellows and sometimes with jerks, but she doesn’t become adept at recognizing which situations are worth putting more time and energy into and trying to make them better and which ones are best walked away from. She’s rarely ALONE, uninvolved and looking without having someone picked out or being auditioned. She’s no doormat and in contrast to women who let guys treat them in ways they would never reciprocate, or stay with awful guys who mistreat women badly, she doesn’t WORRY about being alone and having no one. Her vulnerability is at the other end of the spectrum, of not recognizing a good thing when she does have it (because there is a flaw or an annoying issue or a problem) so she discards not only the awful guys but a lot of pretty good guys and now and then someone who could have been really special, out of a sense that she deserves perfect and owes it to herself to keep looking until she finds it.
I have a first cousin who falls into this category. She has never had a difficulty in life and has always taken to having men faun over her. She’s still very young and in her 20s. I wonder how she’ll find her life 20 years from now when she’s past her ‘expiration date’ for all the equivalent hot guys who she dates.
I was the +1 at a wedding a few years ago where the groom was kind of a regular guy, but the bride was, by far, the most beautiful person I have ever seen - a 10 for sure.
At the reception, her ‘best friend’ stood up to do the toast to the bride - it was basically 20 minutes of him:
It started off sort of nice, but then quickly became really, really uncomfortable. Like, a whole room full of people squirming in their seats while this fellow went on and on about her unsurpassed beauty, and her new husband got madder, and madder, and madder.
The hilarious part was that the bride didn’t find anything odd about the dude’s speech. Like someone going on for that long, at her wedding about how hot she was and how much he wanted to get with her was a perfectly normal thing.
After the fact she actually commented how sweet his toast was.
It was…odd. Nothing like that has ever happened to me, but I think I might feel a bit self-conscious if it did - she didn’t - just took it in stride like it was a usual sort of thing.
as for the OP… it depends. Mostly yes. Sometimes no. Cite? Look at facebook (or probably myspace circa 2005). Loaded with absurdly hot women with pictures taken in “flattering” poses and in “flattering” outfits. Then, there are also very beautiful women who aren’t flaunting their bodies on facebook. Then there are the absurdly hot women who aren’t even on facebook.
It’s a distribution, although yes… it does skew on the “I’m sexy and I know it (and I take great lengths to maintain/publicize it)” side.
I had two girls working for me at the same time. Both were 10+. One girl was an angel, she dressed down and played down the looks thing with conservative hairstyles, makeup and clothes. Her father is a well known comedian so she was well aquainted with the beautiful people thing. She chose to see her inner beauty as oppsed to her outer beauty.
The other girl was the opposite, she couldn’t walk down the street with out causing accidents, where ever she was all activity was disrupted. She played up the hair, the body, the clothes, the shoes etc. and opened any door she chose to open it seemed. All her good looks eneded up getting her into the wrong end of the movie business and hooked on drugs. Not sure how the story turned out.
I haven’t taught high school for the last couple years, but I did spend the bulk of my career there. The 10/10 girls in that cohort become, as a group, accustomed to the skids being greased for them in many (most?) aspects of their lives due to their looks. I used to take great amusement in their puzzled frustration when I refused to accommodate them because, for one bullshit reason or another, they didn’t wish to comply with the requirements in my class. Interestingly, they all seemed to get this identical expression that radiated a “Damn your eyes! You don’t seem to understand! I’m the pretty one!” vibe. There also seemed to be a general delusion that their career futures involved modeling and fashion design.
In fairness, I am teaching their children now in some cases, and many of them apparently discard the idea that all they had to do to get through life was be the pretty one.
I used to work with a girl that I thought was beautiful. Tall, slender, perfect skin, lovely features. I always feel dowdy and plain next to her.
I think she definitely knows she is pretty, but she likes to pretend that she doesn’t. She does the thing on facebook where she posts pics of herself saying things like “no makeup!” or “I look awful today.” She is a gorgeous girl but she constantly needs people to tell her just how beautiful she is.
Huh? I’m 31 with squinty eyes and a crooked nose. At my age, slim and reasonably maintained will get you surprising far, but nobody is gonna single me out as a looker.
Diamonds02 and Bob Ducca, if you want to talk crap about other posters and assign unpleasant personality traits to them, we have a forum for that, and this isn’t it.
Who cares about super hot chicks. Most of them use their powers for evil. Plus looks fade (sagging breast, unless they go all fake on you then you’re stuck with fake fun bags)
I honestly have never read anything posted by her that wasn’t about how hot she is or how she doesn’t eat carbs.