I’ve got a queen pillow-top with a beautiful wrought-iron head-and-footboard, which would be perfect for tying someone to, if I ever shared the damn thing with anybody but my cats.
I’m a sucker for jersey sheets, and I have a couple sets I bought at Bed Bath and Beyond that are heavenly. They’re not like a t-shirt, they’re like that t-shirt you’ve had since the dawn of time that’s so soft you want to just wrap yourself up in it and snuggle. I love these sheets. I’ve experimented with satin, flannel, and all sorts of other kinds, but I keep comin’ back to the jersey.
I have several different comforters/quilts/duvets/coverlets. I recommend those ones from Ikea where you buy the comforter (which they have so many varieties of it’s frightening) and then the cover that goes over it–it’s like getting a new comforter every time you change it.
The most important thing is this: don’t skimp on your pillows. Whether you like thin or fat, one or two, feather or foam, your pillows are your friends. I can handle an uncomfortable bed when I’m sleeping in a strange place for the night, but gods forbid I get a crappy pillow.