Sorry to bump the thread, but I just met a new guy from Match.com, and it’s too late to call any of my friends.
I could like him, possibly, in the future, at some point, and he could like me!! Squee! I haven’t had a good meeting in a long time, and I’m all giddy!
Okay, *now * this thread can sink on schedule.
No, it can’t sink. Because I totally made out with one of my match.com dates, and I had another date tonight with a totally, ridiculously cute girl who I’m supposed to go out with again soon. And another date tomorrow.
Who knew this would work out so well?
Good for both of youse! Meeting people and dating is a bit of a pain in the neck, sure, but when you click with someone, it’s all worth it.
I did. Way to go, dude!
And that goes double for when you make out with them. 
And now, less than 24 hours later, starts the crazy.
Dude keeps IMing me (he doesn’t have my phone number), and has committed himself to “doing anything for me” and calling me nauseating endearments and saying goofy things about our future together.
WTF? On the one hand, you can’t blame him. I am, after all, a paragon of womanly virtue and let’s face it, I am The Bomb, but this is over the top. So now I kill him. Or maybe I’ll just tell him to go away.
I don’t do smothering and boundary-less.
Let me apologize Misnomer. I didn’t mean to imply that’s what you (or anyone) were doing. I just wanted to convey that I’ve heard good things about it; but I’ve only heard those good things from someone who wasn’t trying to find a hookup. Damnit I’m not explaining myself properly. I’ve never used e-harmony, and I don’t know anything about their profile system. My wife’s sister uses e-harmony and has been happy with it.
Oy vey. Figures, eh? 
I too am currently dealing with a guy that may be a weirdo. Last month I emailed him and he seemed nice enough…but then, after just two emails had been exchanged, I let one of his emails go unanswered for just like 12 hours. He then wrote me again “Just to say hi”. I thought that was a little overly clingy (you can’t “Just say hi” someone when you’ve only known each other for like a day!), so I let the conversation drop after just a few more emails.
Now, here it’s been exactly a month since we last emailed, and he writes me to “say hello” again. We only talked a few times, so I am a bit weirded out that he is persisting.
In light of how so many people find it offensive when someone just ignores them, I wonder if I should actually him “Stop it” at this point or ignore the new email and hope that gives him the hint.
Well, on the plus side, Alice, you found out really early what he’s all about. I remember one guy I was talking to who said something about how all women were bad, because they got to know him and dumped him, or something like that. Um, chalk up another one, dude. Bad-mouthing women to a prospective date is never a turn-on. Talk about your self-fulfilling prophecies.
It’s not that I don’t want him to think I’m the most wonderful, gorgeous creature he’s ever seen, I just think he should get to know me before he thinks that. What’s with the desperate men, this is the second guy to get all weird like that out of two!
Next up, a firefighter of 17 years. A bit older than I’d like at 47 (I’m 38), but he is, after all, a fireman! And as every woman knows, that’s worth 3700 sexy points automatically.
Since the thread is for tips, I like to meet asap. I’ve found that a lot of emailing and chatting and you can build up this emotional “thing”, but then you can meet and have no chemistry, and someone’s feelings can get hurt, plus by then you’ve told this complete stranger whom you will never see again all kinds of stuff about yourself!
I didn’t chat or email more than once with this guy, so his attachment comes out of nowhere. The more I thought about him today, the more I realized that 15 years ago, I’d have been all over him. He has an air of badboy and a sexy voice and I was such a sucker for guys like him, and I liked to move fast. Now, so far from what I’m looking for- still pretty sexy, but belongs more in my fantasies than my real life.
When I first started online dating, I figured it would be easy, “Hey now, I’m goin’ man shopping!” And I would find my dream man within the first few months. I mean, how hard can it be? They’re men, I’m a woman, what’s the problem? Several years later, I’ve met a lot of people, developed a couple of relationships, and become rather jaded. But still I plug away, because it is a great way to meet a vast array of men, and obviously from anectodal evidence, it does work sometimes.
Of course, I meant the last two. There have been many more than two.