You can’t go wrong being honest with an honest woman. At all points it’s the right thing to do. Before I met Mrs Chance I used to come clean with the girls I dated, “Look, I’d really like to get laid tonight but if you’re not into it that’s fine too. Maybe some other time.” If they say yes at least you know you’re there. If they say no you can still enjoy yourself with their company.
And, I know I’ve said it before, and I don’t want to be seen as making light of magdalene’s encounter (because it’s a completely wrong thing to do) but…
Thank GOD I met Mrs Chance when I was 19 and we’ve been together for the last 15 years. Every time she and I discuss the experiences our single friends relate we both just cling to each other.
…, “geekiness, sexual inexperience, need for kindness, or “sexual pariah” " in NO WAY allow that type of behavior.
Or do you think that it is all right to pin a woman down and sexually assault her after TWO very strongly worded and physical rebuffs? Is that excusable due to any of the “modifiers” you have brought up? And that is exactly what happened. Perhaps this may enlighten things a bit:
In this corner: Magdalene: girl, 5’4”, not a bodybuilder/prowrestler
In the other corner: BritTwit: guy, 6’6", pretty well built,
Now imagine BritTwit pinning you down on the couch and laughing at your attempts to free yourself while trying to stick his tongue down your throat- and this is after you have already made it pretty fucking clear you did not welcome any more advances.
Nope, your defense falls on its face. This is pure, out and out, sexual agression with no regard for the partners wishes or desires. There may have been an excuse for the wandering hands the first time, but after that, it was kneecapping time. (smiley intentionally left out)
And the IRL beating offer still stands if there is any more contact.
Oh, and on a lighter note, mag? I looooove Passion its one of my favorite albums actually!
Mmm, I don’t remember all those details from the original post, but I’ll take your word for the accuracy of the scenario. I’m sleepy and would have never posted in the Pit had I noticed where I was; too much like work. My fault entirely. Anyway, it’s been a good workout. And if I ever need some really classic flames for a sig…anyway, I’m outta here right now, and if anybody wants to defame my character further, I’ll drop by tomorrow.
(Wow! porcupine(!)…it would be almost a pleasure to get kicked in the nuts by porcupine!)
I’m both amused and mildly alarmed to hear that some consider the performance of oral sex to be “a little kindness.” To me a little kindness is holding a door open or thanking the coat-check girl.
I think the guy received a little kindess when Mags decided not to knee his balls through the roof of his mouth. I also think he was very lucky it was only his ego that was wounded.
magdalene, I think you handled things great! I’ve been there and it can get really scary, really fast if you don’t take control of the situation. SuaSponte, You know that no one would ever kick you out! alonicist… I don’t even have the words…
Well, magdalene, all I can say is that I admire you. When I was but a wee freshman in college, I got myself into a similar situation, only because of my general naivete --and to some degree, spinelessness-- I didn’t kick the guy out and wound up joylessly acquiescing to his sexual aggression. I haven’t stopped regretting that. I guess the one good thing to come of that was that post-asshole, I learned many ways to protect myself, but still… remembering that night brings back that horrible trapped feeling all over again. I don’t know you, but I am proud of you all the same.
And alonicist, I don’t care how old you are, it should be pretty damn clear that the role of women in this world is not to descend from upon high and relieve inexcusably clueless males of their blue balls. Clueless is always a bad thing, and in this case, it’s scary and disgusting.
Alonicist,
May you only get an erection in the presence of a) your grandmother or b) farm animals.
Although in your case…maybe b) is your only hope in finally having a non solo orgasm.
Mags…more power to you and beter luck w/ the next guy-I personally would have given that loser a bloody nose and pretended not to hear the words ‘stop’ or ‘no’ as I beat his ass WWF style. After all I’m the grrl who pucnhed my then boyfriend in the throat-bastard slapped for saying I was tired and wanted to go home.SOB never hit another woman again…or got to see me naked.
I feel sorrier for Mr. Cranky than anyone else. If I have added to the poor man’s burden, I richly deserve my punishment! (I hate to bump this, and will not do so again- if anyone needs to dialogue about my real or imagined behavior, please take it to my e-mail. Thanks.)
Perhaps there are other things for which you should be beaten with a massive clue stick.
Be that as it may. Cranky’s got girl bits, you dolt.
Okay, you know what? Your mentality is grossly ignorant. Suggesting a blowjob to get rid of the guy? Why don’t you just ask her to spread her legs and shut up while you’re at it?
alonicist, I want you to repeat this five times when you get up in the morning, before starting your day: “Women are also people, just with different plumbing.” It will help you when you have to interact with them in situations which do not involve the words “streaming video” or “low monthly charge.”
I said I wasn’t going to bump this again, but I just want to share that I think the phrase “streaming video” is one of the loveliest in our language. Second only to the phrase “low monthly charge”.
“Read the whole thread before jumping to conclusions” is another.
**
Like I’d miss a party where “undeserved blowjobs” might even possibly, uh, come up, in a conversation involving myself and two lovely ladies.
Lux and Diane - You guys are funny. alonicist - I’m hoping you’re a troll. Or you’ve got a lot to learn. And save for the canola oil next to your computer, you’re not going to be learning the hard way.
it was worth a try…