No, by Wayne Campbell and Garth Algar.
He should put in as much effort into his life. His posts would improve if he had some perspective.
It f course I make a lot of I statements.That’s the correct way of communicating anger, not blaming the other person.
And you have no right to say shit about my life. That’s the the thing. You guys act like there something’s wrong with me, but then you do these far worse things. At no point do I attack any of you for your personal lives. I deal with who you are here, and nothing else.
Why am I supposed to listen to you about how to should act when you keep crossing all these lines to shit on me? If you apparently already know and don’t need me telling you, then why were you intentionally crossing all those lines?
I begin to think my posts bother you not because of the tone but because you’re crappy people and don’t want to reminded of that. Someone telling me how I messed up doesn’t piss me off, because I want to get better. Why does it bother you so much?
And yet you try to portray that first part as abad thing. Then you throw in condescending moralizing. Except you have no basis for your morals, while I actually argue them every time.
If I’m wrong, you can prove me wrong. But you don’t. Which means to me that the only reason it upset you is that I pointed out how bad you were being.
All human beings have a duty to try and be good. If you don’t, then ido t give a shit if i piss you off.
There are good people in this thread. Some even voicing frustration at me. You aren’t one of them, though. Your someone who gets pleasure out of harraesng others.
Chances are I didn’t go back to the thread, or didn’t scroll up far enough if I did. I so often just get junk replies that only piss me off and make it likely I’ll say something I’ll regret. So I stay away until I’ve calmed down, and then will only check out the thread if it’s still on top.
I figure that, if you made a good counterargument, it will stand on its own. Everyone will see it and know I was wrong. My acknowledgement is only gravy at that point.
Sure, it means that bad arguments may sometimes come off as good ones, since I didn’t counter. But, frankly, this board isn’t that important for me to care too much. It’ll come up again.
That said, I apologize for that brief bit of frustration I caused you. I hope this post will decrease that in the future, as I don’t see myself changing my pattern of returning to posts. There’s too much to talk about to go back to every one, and not enough time in the day to stew over some jerks who will just give thinly disguised attacks with no actual substance besides “BigT is a poppyhead, therefore he’s wrong.”
Also, the good side does moralize. That’s how we’re good. Pomposity is something I work on, but I telling people right and wrong? Yeah, we do that. Right and Wrong are real things, not suggestions or based on feelings.
I do find it funny that I’m told to stop hurting the feelings of people who argue you shouldn’t care about feewings, though.
The BigTard Lecture Series ™ continues.
No, Verdi did Tre Stronzi in un Auto da Pagliaccio, it’s very similar.
Well, this is embarrassing. Ok, let’s deal with this now, like pulling a plaster…
Listen, Scum - I had no idea your man-crush on me was strong enough for you to do searches on my use of a completely reasonable phrase. Damn. I’m totally cool with whatever your sexuality may be, really I am, and I’m sorry I did whatever it was that let it get this far in your head, but I just don’t like you in that way.
I mean, I also don’t like you in any other way, but especially not in that way. Let it go. Or you *might *come across just a little stalkerish.
I suggest if his posts bother you to the point where parenthetically chide him and skip to the next post, you do have a little problem with him.
Bigt always reminds me of Adrian Mole.
Agree with this.
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Freudian slip?
Why’d you stop? You almost had the coveted quintuple post!
Tone matters. As much as people hypocritically tsk tsk and bridle at the so-called tone police tone does matter.
I was just enjoying my popcorn without intending on commenting because I usually just scroll past the lectures. However, this deserves comment:
You say that this board isn’t that important for you to care too much, but if so, then why the need for lecturing others?
There are many posters who you could lecture, scream at, mock or insult all day and no one is going to bat an eye because they deserve it. These posters steal candy from kids, declaw their outdoor cats and eat pizza with forks. You’d get nothing but “+1” if your attacks were all targeting these despicable lowlifes.
OTOH, there are also respected posters. People who aren’t jerks or aren’t out to troll others. The Heavens sing when they open their browsers. They help boy scouts cross the road and offer insightful thoughts to interesting threads.
If there are issues in their posts that you question, then clarifying it with them is the cool thing to do.
Your problem is lumping CairoCarol and others with the riffraff. I have no idea if she can walk on water (I suspect she just knows where the rocks are), but for fuck’s sake, she’s not a bottom feeder here. She doesn’t deserve lectures or being lashed out at just because someone pissed in your cornflakes. It’s a measure of her character that she would actually respond in substance to your beef rather than respond on your level.
For someone who is great at wagging your finger at others, you don’t get it, which pegs the irony meter. Pick fights with assholes and be respectful to respectful people. Then you don’t have the villagers picking up pitchforks.
Seriously dude, listen to yourself here and think about how that comes across.
This is the sort of thing people mean when they talk about perspective, having the perspective to step back, judge the situation and then react accordingly. And the way to react to somebody pointing out that you tend to do a lot of lecturing really should not be a series of pious, pompous lecturing posts.
The correct answer was always “Go fuck yourself random internet person”, with perhaps a few moments personal reflection off board on whether I am right and maybe it is something you should be trying to tone down in future.
But these posts, the type of posts I have quoted? Pompous blather that just makes you look detached from the real world while putting far too much importance on a place like this.
Thanks for acknowledging. This makes sense.
No, good is what you do. It’s how you treat your wife and raise your kids and conduct yourself at work and the way you deal with the people around you. Scolding people on a computer screen is just you wanking in your basement. Get out, get a life, deal with actual people, and for fuck’s sake learn a bit of humility, you little nothing. You’ve got a lot to be humble about.
BigT, hurting someone’s feelings is different from being annoying.
Yes, Right and Wrong are real things. But your opinions on what is Right and Wrong are not, in my view, very well-founded. And being sanctimonious does nothing to establish them.
You’ve got your schtick, if you like it, carry on. As Ed Gein said, “it’s no skin off my back.” But you are not being treated unfairly.
Regards,
Shodan
Every board needs a white knight, and BigT is ours. I recently got my first sanctimonious fingerwaggin’ from him and, yeah, it’s annoying. But it’s annoying in the same way it’s annoying when you’re out of ketchup, but then you remember that you have an unopened one in the pantry. Fleeting.
However:
This is cowardly bullshit. If you’re going to rail on the way Dopers live their lives, develop the common decency to read their responses. If you can’t do that, then stop moralizing. Calling out Dopers and then fleeing the thread because you’re afraid that the responses to your attacks will “piss [you] off” should tell you all you need to know about the tone of your posts.