I’m just teasing you, since you said you were offending someone, I thought I’d be mock-offended, too.
Oh!
I am so clueless today–not getting anyone’s jokes etc.
Johnny, Johnny, Johnny - don’t you get it? You had a good time, you met an interesting lady who you were interested in who seemed to like you* - IT CAN HAPPEN! And it will happen as quickly as that. And then you’ll look back on all your doomsaying and laugh at yourself for being so negative and un-trusting. You sound like you have so much to offer a good woman. Keep the faith, dude. And good luck with your movie.
*Not every interesting woman you meet will be a lesbian.
Huh? Two words? I didn’t see a single “chatting up,” “pulling a bird,” “throwing a wobbly,” or anything!
Sheesh dude…
Oh and as for a classic Americanism (or should I say a California-ism), how about that “Dude!”
So, if a woman who chases gay men is a fag hag, what… oh, nevermind…
Just teasing, John.
Personally, anyone telling their sexual preference at a first meeting, is IMO, simply trying to get a reaction, not imparting information.
Don’t start picking out china patterns, but don’t lose all hope either.
Or, she could tell I was interested and was being considerate enough to not let me waste my time.
Interesting question from my ex-fiancée: ‘Why do gay women like you?’ Hm. Now I’m wondering.
Frankly, mate, Old Bean, I don’t care what makes your stomach churn. Could be the chips, could be the fish, or could be you chose the wrong forum in which to attack another poster.
Yeah, that last one. Don’t do it again. Right-o.
Thanks.
I’m used to it, actually. People have assumed I have an accent (whcih I don’t) and have commented on my diction for decades. Ever since I was a kid. I talk how I talk.
Let’s put the unfortunate post behind us and get back to the lesbian.
Speaking of which… We’re waiting for some money to continue shooting the film. One way to get money is to actually work, which we did today. Shot a wedding. The first thing they said to me when I got to the studio was, ‘So. Did you call her?’ No. ‘Call her!’ After the wedding the Producer told me to call her (the woman, not her) and ask her to dinner. I told her that we’ll have a BBQ sometime, and I’ll call her then. She insisted I call the woman.
Maybe I will tomorrow. Just to ask her if she went to the website to see the photos and the trailer. But I don’t see the point in asking her to go out on a date.
Well, if you ask her out, she might say yes, in which case good, or she might say no, in which case the SDMB will have to move on to the next dating scenario.
Your call. 
How much would a sex change operation cost you?
John, come on, man. A date, doesn’t have to always be with a potential partner. Even if she is K.D. Lange in drag, the two of you made some small connection.
What if she were a man? Someone you met is much the same way, (except for the dancing, Straight men dancing with straight women is bad enough, but two straight men dancing?! :dubious: oooo I don’ ting soo. I digress
Ok, you met a man with whom you shared some interests, and you both felt an immediate liking. You would call him, get better aquainted, maybe end up close friends, play poker, and smoke sausages… wait, that’s… forget the sausages…
Why is this different? It sounds like you both felt some sort of kinship, pursue her as an interesting friend. If she is truely a lesbian, you haven’t lost anything, and you’ve expanded your world by one more brain.
The worst thing that could happen is she says “What part of lesbian don’t you understand?” But she won’t. She might say no, but still, you’ve lost nothing but 2 minutes on the phone.
I know you’re shy, but shyness is not your friend. Think hard about what fear is driving your shyness, then ask yourself “What’s the worst that can happen?” and “How will this situation effect my life a year from now.” They won’t cure your shyness, but they put it in a little better perspective.
Noe, GO CALL.
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Hey, since you seem to be into the whole movie making scene; Is it at all possible she said thespian instead of lesbian?
This would be SO funny if it turned out to be true.
**Johnny L.A.[/] leans over and whispers, “I’ve got a nine inch tongue.”
Does your producer, or anyone else in your group knows the girl? I can’t figure out why they keep on edging you to call her even after you tell them the Bad News. Is there something which they know but you don’t?
Brilliant!
They’re under the impression that I’m a nice guy who deserves a girlfriend. (Incidentally, the Driector and I met in person for the first time on a local music video shoot – the day after my ex-fiancée became my ex-fiancée. Hey, the show must go on.) They noticed that she’d played with my hair and my soul patch, and that we’d talked for quite a while. They seem to think that she’s attracted to me. Only she specifically said to me that we would just be friends.
Nothing wrong with having friends, of course. I’ll certainly call her eventually. But I tend to phone friends when I have something to say. A potential g/f I would have called immediately.
Well not to alarm you or anything. But my ‘lesbian’ friend is now my lover and I live with her. It took another friend of mine to hit me with a clue x four to realize that this ‘friend’ wanted to be more than just friends. So things might not be what you think they are.
Bin Gay (who is a poster here–and thus the name!) is my GF. And I had been friends with her for a few years. After my divorce she and I started hanging out together doing friend things. I didn’t know for sure she was a lesbian—she sort of hinted at it, all her friends were named Chris or Pat, she had the short hair, etc. One night she and I had been out and she leaned in close like you said your friend did, and said that she was ‘involved in the lesbian community’ and left it at that. What the hell does that mean?!!
Eventually it turned out that she was dropping hints–but being a guy I was too dumb to pick them up. She had lived for over 25 years as a lesbian, but had been questioning her sexuality for several years and I guess just needed the right guy to come along! Luckily I stumbled in at the right time. We are both very happy!
Guess what I am trying to say is to not short change the situation—things may be as you stated–but they could just as easily be very different. Take it slow–but take a chance. Call her!
That’s very interesting, Hakuna. So maybe Terry McMillan’s ex-husband, Jonathan Plummer, was right when he said “Who knows at 20 years old that they’re gay, straight, bisexual, transgender?”
Well I do think people do change as life goes on, sexuality is not a constant. I know several friends who were married, had children–and in their forties came out as gay. So why not the reverse? I always tease Bin Gay that she doesn’t make a good lesbian :eek:
The funny thing is she was so nervous about telling her lesbian friends–but they ALL were like–hello we knew that already! They were wondering when she would finally realize it herself. They were way cool about things. She has some good friends
What’s a soul patch?