I went to lunch today at a very nice reataurant in the Biltmore section of Phoenix. Our waiter came to the table and his hair was all messed up as if he’d just been in a scuffle, or just woke up from bed. With closer inspection, I was mistaken, he had gel in his hair… Meanign he meant to have a messed up head of hair. 
What’s up with this? Is having a messed up style all that attractive?
I’ve heard it referred to as the “Freshly F***** Look.”
It can be stunningly attractive or just silly. Whether or not you can pull it off depends a lot on how sexy your eyes are.
I don’t get it, either. These guys spend a lot of money to make it look like they don’t know how to operate a comb, and they are under the impression that they’re stylin’. Meanwhile, somebody is laughing all the way to the bank.
It bugs me. No one looks good in it who wouldn’t look just as good or better with combed hair.
I like the kind of messed up look on guys, in certain situations. At a bar, or a pub, or the beach. That kind of gelled-but-not-combed look is cute, on younger guys. But not the messed up hair sticking up all over the place look. And not at work.
Now, bedhead on girls, I’m guilty of that look. My hair is wavy, pretty thick, and falls halfway down my back. I can never get that sleek and straight look, so when I wear it down, I run a bit of gel or hemp oil through it to get rid of the frizzies, but it’s still pretty wild. If I need it to look professional, I’ve no choice but to wear it up.
Messy hair is cute. My fiance looks wicked hot when he wakes up in the morning with messed up hair. However, I dislike the purposely messy look. I don’t get putting time into your hair when all you really had to do was not comb it.
I actually don’t really like how obvious hair products look on guys, but maybe that’s because I see too many guys who use too much. A little goes a looong way, especially if you have short hair. I like to touch guys’ hair when I’m dating them, and I don’t want to run my hands through grease or get stuck in gel.
Unless you’re going for an extreme style (think liberty spikes) or color, you shouldn’t be able to see the hair product. The idea is to make it look like you just have great hair.
It really amazes me on celebrities, especially women. At events like the Oscars there was a certain period where you’d see women arriving with perfect gowns, make-up and jewelry, but with their hair looking like the limo was a convertible. The trend seems to have passed a bit, though.
Not true. This guy wouldn’t be half as pretty.
It’s just a casual relaxed look for guys similar to the tousled waves popular with women. I much prefer it to the days of Brylcreem.
Tousled, thank you. That pic is close to how my hair looks, mine’s just a little less curly and longer. With a bit less styling product. Hmmm, I wonder how hard it would be to get my hair to look like hers? I refuse to use hair dryers, so it probably won’t happen.
I think it’s cute as can be on some guys, but the day my husband tried it I refused to let him leave the house until he fixed it and then banned him from touching my mousse ever again.
I was at the gym the other day and approached the mirror to comb my hair at the same time as a buff, toned metro-kind-of-guy got there with this exact hair style you’re talking about. While I got out my comb and combed my hair, he got out a little jar of goop, got some on his hands, rubbed it into his hair, rubbed it in some more, swooshed his hair up, tugged and pulled at it, and as I put my comb away he was still fiddling with it. He said, “You know, I have to reconsider my hair style if it’s supposed to look like a mess and it takes me longer to get it looking like that than it takes you to comb yours…”
On some people, semi-messed up hair looks hot, as with tremorviolet’s link. When it’s got too much gunk in or is too messed up it looks yuck.
My DH is growing out his hair. It’s in that messy stage and I find it quite attractive. I want it to end up like this. But I like that “I just got laid” look, that’s how my hair is most of the time.
Personally, I love it. It’s too cute.
I like the tousled hair look. In some cases, I even love it.
Gunk in hair is not a good look. Hair that won’t move in a stiff wind is awful.
My husband likes the “just out of the sack” look in hair as well. I think it’s cute, and frequently do my hair that way.
Got it. Love it.
Depends. Some can carry it off (think Ewan McGregor), some can’t.
A little muss for a guy can be cute, but some people are going too far. You should be lightly tousled not looking like you’ve been attacked by a herd of the rare, hair-eating mongoose. I’ve become aware that I’m getting tired of it, kind of like the Rachel cut became tiring in it’s ubiquitousness (ubiquity?).
On women I notice that it looks great in a fashion magazine but often looks odd in person, if not done carefully. I, unfortunately have no choice; my hair is always going to look mussed. If I wrestled my curls into tidyness, I’d look like I was wearing a football helmet made from a blonde sheep.
I like the messy look on some people. It takes me half an hour before going out to make it look like I woke up five minutes ago. It pisses me off, but any other hairstyle looks rediculous on me. But maybe I can get away with it as I’m reasonably young. shrug
