Incidentally, brevity is not a virtue when asking for advice about a situation in which a crime may have been committed. On a MB where people divulge in excruciating detail the mundane aspects of their lives to the point of TMI I’m a little surprised and disappointed it took 15 replies for that question to be asked.
He was standing at an open 2nd story window. It isn’t a bay window, but these are Victorian era houses, so it is a large window. I had a clear view of his body from about knee height to mid chest. His penis was practically out the window. That was what I saw first. I thought, “my, that looks like a …”
As I said, this is an old neighborhood. The houses are about 4 feet apart and are built almost at the sidewalk. There aren’t many kids living in the neighborhood, but a single mother and a 10 year old son live in the 1st floor apartment.
What about a video? Do those little camcorders or cell phone vids work after dark? He would be hard pressed to deny his actions. I’m fairly certain that masturbating in front of an open window is illegal in most jurisdictions and I believe that two times in a “few months” is just a little more than coincidental.
I’m wondering if this whole incident would be treated any differently if it had been a woman masturbating instead of a man.
The OP said: “…standing in the window, approximately 12 feet from me, full frontal, masturbating.” That rather clearly means not sitting at his computer.
Now let’s take a poll. How many of you who masturbate at home (and aren’t flashers) do it right next to a window, facing out? None? That’s what I thought.
It’s fine to keep an eye out for possible mistakes and misunderstandings, but come on, the described behavior doesn’t come anywhere close to what a normal person might do. And for anyone who thinks he “forgot that his curtains were open,” I have a bridge in New York City that I can sell you.
The OP said “last night” and the other incident was also at night.
Was it after dark? Were the lights on in this guys place? If so, then as someone else mentioned upthread, inside windows become mirrors, and some people really are incredibly stupid. Also, if it was after dark and his lights were on, there’s no way he could have seen it was the OP who saw him, or whether anyone was actually looking.
The OP makes it sound like this was directed at her though, so I would like to know about the light situation.
Is she hot?
Or for that matter, was he hot?
I’ve found in these situations often the person’s ugliness is about 95% of the crime.
Exactly. He was having himself a good time wanking knowing that Tess was able and likely to see him. I’m sure a lot of people have accidentally exposed themselves in their houses, walking around nude all the time and stuff, but most people don’t hang out in open windows four feet from the sidewalk. Repeatedly.
Oh yeah, the question from the OP - I would be tempted to go ahead and press charges. He’s doing it to you on purpose.
Maybe he didn’t have a hanky nearby and the window was the quickest way to not soil the carpet.
What? 
She said the window was open. That would seem to suggest that the window was pulled open and the guy was standing in the breeze, with no glass to reflect anything.
Was he looking at you? Did he make eye contact? 
We need more info to know if this guy is a flasher or just too damn careless about where he pulls his pud.
What makes this touchy is that the guy could make a counter claim that the OP is a “peeping Tom”. Of course she isn’t, but if he is a good liar, it might not be the best thing to do “bring the full force of the law”.
The OP didn’t specify the GF was home. You want to avoid going the police route? Tell the GF. Might accomplish nothing, might put the guy’s ass in a bigger sling.
I would wait and see if it happens again. If he was just feeling naughty, chances are good that the visit from the cops scared the kink right out of him. Try to snap a pic with your camera phone if it happens again, then he can’t deny it.
He obviously is not wanking enough at work if he is that busy with it at home. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kUZYuOVezA8
Since this is IMHO, I’ll offer mine.
I understand this to be the 2d time this has happened. The 1st time you did nothing, the 2d time you called neighborhood watch and cops. I could imagine waiting to see if this happens again and, if it does, pressing charges at that time.
Essentially it comes down to how big of a deal you personally consider it, and how much effort you wish to go through to stop it. Personally, I could imagine just making myself get in the habit of averting my eyes from his windows. And perhaps carrying an umbrella!
I don’t think we can rule out the possibility that the guy was just really hungry and was masturbating at the sight of groceries.
Kidding. So sorry for what you’ve had to experience with this “jerk”, Tess. My guess is that in his own warped, perverted little mind he fantasized that you’d find his display erotic and would rush upstairs to be his love slave. Gee, I bet the cops kinda buzz killed that thought. You did the right thing and there’s a more than even chance this won’t happen again. If it does, go judicial on his ass.
It would have to happen a LOT more to me - specifically to me, indicated by waving to me or calling my name or banging on the window to get my attention, or to groups of kids playing within a few feet from that house, able to clearly and repeatedly see up to a 2nd story window - to make me call anyone about this.
I thought this was going to be about his flashing the OP when he was outside. Like in the yard. But he was inside his house? I’d chalk him up to being a real weirdo and then I’d move on. And then I’d probably ask him about it when other people were around so he’d feel like an idiot. If it kept happening after that, then I’d call the police, only so they could talk to him. Not to press charges or file any kind of official complaint. Not unless he was doing it ALL the time, or specifically when the school bus was letting out.
Looks like Omniscient and I are the only ones defending the “perv.” Guess I just don’t consider him a perv. Yet.
Then I’d better be careful. I could get the death penalty.
I agree with the thought of waiting for another incident. I think the OP did exactly what was right to her comfort level:
Honestly, I would probably ignore it if that was all he did…but my limit for exhibition is a bit higher than most people. I would make fun of him with my SO, but that’s about it, and I don’t live alone, so don’t feel that unsafe or anything.
I’d at least wait for one more time.