And send it to his mom.
He could have been acting totally innocently. But both times?
You might by now wish you’d just let it go but now you’ve involved the police and they’ve advised you on a course of action, you should probably follow what they’ve said. Whatever you think of it in retrospect, you also have to consider that if you let it go this time and he does it again, how willing will the police be to take you seriously if they’ve already given good advice that you’ve clearly not followed?
Oh yeah, and tell the GF too.
True- like in the SNL sexual harassment video sketch- Fred Armisen says something inocuous to girl, she files charge on him. Tom Brady walks up to her wearing no pants, says something dirty, she smiles and laughs.
I would go ahead and press charges. You are, unfortunately, in for a hassle either way. The difference with **Shagnasty’s ** situation is that his was for him a one time event in the past, not one where the perpetrator will be living next door until one of you moves. The situation seems consistent with him knowing your schedule and when you get back from work. Do you want to worry about that every day until one of you moves? Do you want him to just pick another woman to wait for and surprise? Do you know that he doesn’t have a pattern of doing this to other women in the past? Repeatedly, 12 feet away, full frontal–let him explain that to the judge!
I would buy a 1,000,000 candle power rechargeable lantern and a compressed air air horn (about $30 total) and walk past his house very often carrying them. Upon any flashing activity turn on the VERY, VERY bright lantern and aim it at him while blowing the VERY VERY loud klaxon. The next move is up to him.
I’m unclear on something as well.
Does the OP happen to live next door to Judge Roy Pearson? That would explain a great many things.
Camera phone, digital camera, video camera. Start carrying one of these when you walk that way.
When it happens, snap a quick picture. Take a relatively wide angle shot showing the context. If you show that he’s plainly visible out of the window - showing a fair bit of the house around him, then it’s a good context shot that will prove that he’s plainly visible to everyone. The police will look at the picture, compare it to what can be seen from the street. If you take a close-up or zoom in, then it can potentially be argued that you’re reaching for it and he might not have been as visible as you’re making it out to be.
I work second shift security. I often carry a digital camera in my pocket. You wouldn’t believe how often it comes in handy.
“I swear I wasn’t looking at porn!”
“Sure kid (he was 13), here’s the picture I have of YOU sitting at the library computer with pornography on the screen. Come with me.”
I personally would follow through with the complaint. I think it’s stretching it (no pun intended. OK, maybe a little) to think it was an accident the first time- this time? I’m about positive it was a show for you. I’d press charges. Talk about setting off your creep-o-meter.
Personally, I would press charges. My feeling is, if he likes hanging his dick out in the wind, then let’s see how he really likes having his dick out in the wind – in court, in public, in jail.
But (A) I’m a lawyer with a good deal of courtroom experience so I don’t have the trepidation about being in court that I know a lot of people do, and (B) I purely hate being fucked with, so much so that the inconvenience, embarrassment, and expense would be worth it to make the guy deeply regret the day he ever waved his wang at me.
And let me assure you that, other people’s willingness to extend the benefit of the doubt notwithstanding, I am convinced the guy was fucking with you. Exhibitionists follow very specific patterns and this is textbook.
I can certainly see why you would not choose to press charges and I don’t think anyone should think less of you if that was your choice. But I also think that if you don’t press charges, he’s very likely to do it again, if not to you than to someone else.