Can’t post from the guy’s standpoint here, but as a spouse of someone who has gone under the knife.
Papa Zappa had the Big V about 4 years ago (technically, he only had half a vasectomy…). We were in our early 40s. Two very challenging kids (one with autism, one with non-specific issues), plus those pesky life-threatening pregnancy complications with Kid #2, so we were certain we wanted no more.
My spouse also had a spermatocele (cyst on one of the twins) that made it look like, well, he had a “pair and a spare”. When that was diagnosed, the doctor told him that removal could affect his fertility so we should wait until we were done having kids, and wanted a vasectomy, before removing it.
The “up side” of all that is that since the surgery itself was medically necessary, the vasectomy wound up being covered by insurance (often sterilization is not covered). Plus, my spouse got to be put under general anesthesia. So none of the tales of “novocaine didn’t work” or “could smell the burning”. I was with him until they doped him up and wheeled him away, got a good look at “Mister Happy” while he was changing into the hospital gown, and laughed hysterically at the fact that Mister Happy was doing his level best to retreat entirely… as in “micropenis”. Terror will do that to a fellow, I guess
Anyway - an hour later, Papa Zappa was awake, minus the “spare”, and with only one incision (they were able to do the vasectomy from the incision required for the spermatocelectomy). He had to wear a support garment for a few weeks. Pain was fairly minor; I think he just took prescription-strength ibuprofen for a couple of days. There was a minor infection of the incision - not common with a vasectomy but this was a more involved procedure. Also because it was more involved, he took most of a week off of work (he thought he’d have been back after the weekend, if it’d been a more standard procedure).
The half-vasectomy was not because we like to live dangerously, but because of the malformation that led to the spermatocele - apparently he was only firing on one barrel. The other side wasn’t connected at all.
Make sure your spouse does the followup visit to the doctor a month or three later to check that he’s shooting blanks. I don’t know what the percentages are but sometimes the surgery doesn’t quite work :eek: