Bluntness. Yes. This is a problem I also have, in and away from work. If I am not happy, I say so. I will not fake it. If I am happy, everybody knows. Problem being, when one has a bad day, or a bad week, everyone does think one is being a whiner. Shrug, I say. Biggest problem comes when one is dissatisfied with one’s employers, and little chance of gaining another position with equivalent pay in one’s area.
The irony being, that as I first saw this thread, I thought I could likely put every one of my posts in it. But it would be terribly boring.
Munch, I would pretend to hate you (but we must be literal!) , if you truly handle stress that well. I cannot handle even a teaspoon of stress most days. (teaspoon. that’s not literal. Replace ‘teaspoon’ with ‘modicum’)
I personally don’t flirt with people I’m interested in having a relationship with. I ambush them. People who know me know this and thus do not take my flirting seriously. (mostly. sigh.)
You have stated that you are aware that Coldfire lives in the Netherlands.
You have also stated that your wish to have vaginal sexual intercourse with him.
This leads me to believe that you are not aware that people from the Netherlands eat their french fries covered in mayonnaise.
At least that’s the reaction I get when I eat my french fries with mayonnaise and that I learned it in the Netherlands.
I often wonder what does go on at Dopefests, seeing as I’ve never attended but have never asked anyone. This is because I do not know anyone on this board very well. I’ve lurked here since AOL days, but have recently started getting into the posting groove.
I wonder if being younger than most Dopers (junior in H.S.) causes any discrepancy between the reaction to my posts and to other, older posters’ posts. That sentence confused me. Oftentimes, I wonder if any Doper has ever noticed my name. Not wondering if I’m well-known or ‘popular’ here, (how could I be with so few posts?) but if anyone has noticed any of my posts.
I am stressed, because I have a LOT of homework to do, and today we had a bomb threat at school so I did not get home until recently.
I enjoy physical pain because it rarely hurts me as much as I used to get hurt by physical pain, so in that sense I have triumphed over it. People who know me well enough know that I love to think I’m in a better place than I was four or so years ago, or more.
I enjoy emotional pain because I can handle it. This used to not be the case. And if I cannot handle it, I adapt and this is another part of myself of which I’m fond. There are very few things I cannot take all by myself.
I feel right at home when I’m depressed. It’s a lot more comfortable for me than being happy because if I’m happy, most anything can take that away from me without trying too hard, so I’m always either protecting against it or welcoming it just because i get so damned nervous when I’m happy.
Hey, buddy, just because you check the “Disable Smilies in This Post” box, that doesn’t absolve you of your obvious intent to use smilies. NO SMILIES!
Since I myself cannot use smilies in this thread, I must point out that the above bit is merely a bit of gentle ribbing; I like thinksnow, and would never dream of being genuinely gruff and overly nit-picky in a mean way.
(Now looky there; a great big long sentence when a simple winking smilie would have sufficed. This is hard on the fingers.)
I really have got to get to a Dopefest one of these days and meet all of you charming people. Living where I do, however, it’s practically impossible, except by some freak turn of events.
OK, straightforward it is.
[ul][li]I am flattered by the desires expressed by jarbabyj. I do not have similar feelings, however. This is not because jar isn’t funny, intelligent, charming, or attractive: she is all that. It is because I personally don’t like flirting games that will never lead to anything. [sup]1[/sup][/li][li]I will never comment on the true size of my penis on these boards.[/li][li]The motorbike in the referenced picture is a rented Harley Davidson. My own motorbike is a Yamaha Diversion.[/li][li]All this attention towards me made me realise -again- that I miss someone very, very much.[/li][li]Eating fries with mayonaise (which, incidently, is the proper fashion. It’s in the Geneva Convention, and also in the Bible) in no way negatively influences ones ability to have vaginal sexual intercourse. Nor does it affect ones sex appeal in a negative way. Au contraire, I dare say.[/li][li]That is all.[/ul][/li][/quote]
[sup]1[/sup] = Of course, jar also needs to make up her mind. As long as she’s also fantasising about that German rock creep, I’m in no position to answer her desires anyway.
I really wish the Bamadopers (and others who are coming to Bamadope III) would please tell me ASAP if they’re coming or not. I’m arranging the Secret Santa and it’s very hard doing it if there are good possibilities of cancellations.
I would like it very much if thinksnow attended Bamadope. We are a very fun crowd.
In fact, I would like everyone from this Board to attend Bamadope, except then the Secret Santa thing would be hell for me to arrange.
I think that this is an extremely interesting thread idea.
More than one romantic relationship was torpedoed in years past by the object of my affections responding to what he thought was my real meaning behind my words. The real meaning is not behind anything… it’s right out in front, leading the charge.
I considered not posting in this thread because I’m not certain anyone gives a flaming f*ck about what I think. In that case, it won’t make a difference either way.
I will be hitting the “submit” button for my own benefit and ego-gratification. (As always.)
I have a very hard time being straightforward. I’m always afraid I’ll say something wrong and have no way to cover it up. But, since this does seem like an interesting thing to do, and I want jarbaby to have lots of success with this thread, I’ll bite the bullet and be straightforward.
Ever since I’ve moved, I feel like I’ve changed on the board. I flirt, but not as much. As a matter of fact, I don’t seem to say as much about anything any more. My posting has gone down, and I don’t even really know why. Sometimes I wonder if I post enough to even be remembered any more. But then I realize I’m probably just being an insecure twit and that I should just leave it be. Of course, it doesn’t always work, but I try.
There are a lot of Dopers I wish I could meet, but probably won’t get a chance to because I don’t travel very much. I’ve wanted to find a way to go to every DopeFest that has been going on since I joined the board almost a year ago. It just never seems to happen, so I look at the pictures of the DopeFests and sigh instead.
I miss a lot of old friends from the board and from life. It doesn’t seem like I ever get to talk to people any more. And I think a lot of that is my fault. I need to resolve myself to renew contacts again - at least, those contacts that are able to be renewed.
Oh, and back to DopeFests. Sex doesn’t happen at every DopeFest. There wasn’t any sex (as far as I know) at SaraDope. There was a lot of drinking, but no sex.
I’m not sure whether I should post more frequently, so as to become more familiar to the other posters around here, and therefore be invited to dopefest’s, or just continue as I have been- mostly lurking and spending time in the ‘real’ world.
I have been semi-seriously ill on an irregular basis since September. I am growing increasingly frustrated with my doctor’s inability to diagnose and correct the problem. My illness is affecting my schoolwork and my social and personal lives. I believe that I will switch doctors before the month is out.
I want my friend Teresa to stop IMing me every time she sees me online. I enjoy talking to her every once in a while, but I find such frequent conversation to be extremely tedious. Despite these feelings, I can’t bring myself to put her on my blocked list, as she often seems very lonely.
I’ve had far too many snacks today and I feel very guilty. I doubt that I will reach and maintain my goal weight as long as I cannot control my urge to eat frequently between meals. I believe that my weight keeps me from being attractive.
I am very tired and I want to shut myself off from human contact ang go to bed at about 8 p.m.
I’ve thought way too long about what to post to this thread. But I always think too much about what I’m going to post. I think too much in general.
I find myself in the position where I need to emotionally withdraw for a while and consider this place and the people associated with it “just a message board.” I’ve had to do this in the past a couple of times, too. Not sure how long it will last; as long as it needs to, I suppose.
As a result, I find myself not really caring much about upcoming dopefests.
I think this is the oddest thread that was intended to be a game that I’ve ever seen.
Sometimes I feel cursed, like I won’t get anything I want or deserve, sometimes it’s because it’s nature conspiring against me, and sometimes its self defeating behavior. Either way I blame myself for everything, which doesn’t help either.
Part of me hope things will get better before they will get worse, but the larger part of me is too pessimistic to give even that much comfort.
I also am conflicted about going to any dopefests I feel that I am too much part of the background to be welcomed or accepted there…at times I feel like I should tap the screen and ask if anybody cares about what I post, and then the other part of me says that is too egotistical, just post what you want when you want.
While I may flirt with many Dopers, and lust after a select few, there is only one I truly want to be with. As in having idle fantasies about walking on the beach hand in hand…
[sub]He knows who he is.[/sub]
Indeed this has turned into an introspective thread with people baring their souls. Which is interesting.
When I tried this with my friends in Chicago it went something like this:
“That man’s haircut is unappealing to me”
“I agree with you on that point.”
“Both of your statements have caused me to laugh”
and so on. I guess it only works live.
Coldfire has certainly broken my heart, because, like I’ve said before, I could have 13,000 men flirting with me, but I’m always most attracted to the one who won’t flirt back. Which is how my husband snagged me.
Coldfire must also understand that in my mind, in my ‘jarbaby picture’ of Coldfire, he LOOKS like that German creep, regardless of what actual photos I see.
I disagree with you on that point. I think this thread has proven fascinating, and I admire the people who have stepped forward with personal stuff. There were so many different directions this could have gone; I like the one it’s settled into.
I would like to send out a sincere hug to Juniper. I too have been ill without diagnosis for some time (almost four years). They’re leaning toward MS at this point, but I’ve hit the wall in patience and couldn’t care less what they label me with. I just want to feel normal again. Don’t give up… go to another doctor, and keep going until they give you satisfactory answers. And… about the weight thing. Would you like a diet buddy? I’m doing the D&E thing as well, and know I work better if I have someone to answer to… I’d be willing to help motivate you, if you’re interested.
I would also like to extend an invitation to BamaDope to everyone who is conflicted about attending Fests. I have never met such a warm, open, fun, accepting group of people. You’re welcome to crash at my place… I may even be convinced to pick people up at the airport.
I can’t wait til 8:00 tonight. Yes, I’m a Survivor addict, much to Mr. Bobkitty’s dismay. I just want to see Lindsay get her ass kicked. Then I’ll be happy.
I should get some work done, but I’m unmotivated. Maybe I’ll go for a walk across campus.
More straightforward stuff from Superdude, and some of it may not even be sexual:
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•Given the chance, I would sleep with jarbabyj, juniper200, bobkitty, Sophie, Tokiwoki, or Nymysys (among others) in a heartbeat.
•I put up a comical front to hide a lot of deep-rooted insecurities.
•JoeyHemlock scares me, but in a way I can’t put my finger on.
•I feel outclassed and inadequate in many conversations between Dopers, both on the boards and in real life.
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I also agree about liking the direction this thread has gone in. It’s reminding me a little of the “Confessions” thread, which I loved, except this thread is a little more introspective. I’m terribly nosy, and love reading what other people are thinking. This is not the best habit to have, as I’m continually poking into other people’s business. I feel bad about that.
I’m really enjoying the Straight Dope so far, but I’m cautious about padding my post count. Similar to most newbies, I’d really like to people to start recognizing me, but not for stupid “me-too” posts or one-line posts. Because of that, I’m really self-conscious about what I post. I always preview. Always. I’m scared of posting something terribly stupid, and I can’t believe I made a stupid spelling mistake in the Welcome Wagon thread (a really stupid mistake, for which I was berated, but in a nice joking way.) Since I’m being straight-forward, I also think I use too many parentheses. But I’m working on this.
