I’ve wanted to post this many times in the last 8 months but I’ve been too stressed to do it. Now, I’m feeling better so here it goes…
Mr. Congo and I are currently playing unwilling hosts to his brother. Just so you know we are engaged and the Idiot is married with 2 children.
Last July, the Idiot moved in with us for 3 weeks because he and the Whore were having some problems. This was a bit rough for me since I hate the man and always have. After his vacation, he went back home and we thought everything was going to go back to normal. It wasn’t to be.
He moved back in October and stayed for about another month. Keep in mind that we live in a 700+ square foot condo with two bedrooms and one bed. This means he was sleeping on my couch.
In November, Mr. Congo’s parents made him move in with them because Mr. Congo ruptured a disk and was out of work, living on the couch. It was harder for them though since Mr. Congo’s sister and her 5 year old son live there. The nephew moved into his mother’s room and the Idiot moved into the nephew’s room. Unfortunately, the Idiot treats his family like dirt. He never helped to clean or cook and he treated them like it was their fault that his wife is a bi*&%.
Around this time, a co-worker of the Sister’s told her that the Whore was cheating on the Idiot with some young guy. The Idiot’s mother actually caught her at it. Meanwhile, she’s living in their apartment and the Idiot was still paying for it. The kids were always at his parent’s house so she had plenty of time for her whoring. The Idiot refused to accept the fact that his wife could ever cheat on him even though their relationship started when she cheated on her ex husband. He said everything was his family’s fault and that the Whore would eventually take him back and life would be good.
In January, two days after my birthday, he moved back in with us because he had a fight with his sister. He had been fired from his job and was home all day. His sister works full time so she only had 2 days a week to do things like the laundry. She started a load and went to the store. While she was gone, he stopped the machine and threw her clothes on top of the machine so he could wash his kids clothes. The Whore can’t do her laundry because the machines are in the basement and she refuses to go down there. Anyway, the sister came back and they got into a fight. He came back here and has been here ever since. The first week was ok because he tends to show us more respect than he shows his sister or parents and we don’t have any kids for him to be jealous of (he hates the fact that his nephew is better behaved than his own kids). After the first week, the kids started staying over. It’s gotten to the point where they live with us more than they live with their mother. They’re sleeping on an air mattress in our spare bedroom. Meanwhile, the Whore is still living in the apartment that the Idiot’s tax return paid for.
In February, we had the kids one week from Monday through Sunday. They went home on Sunday and then came back on Monday again. Apparenty, the Whore had the flu on the first Monday and couldn’t take care of the kids. BUT, she was fine to take her daughter our for her birthday on Tuesday. That same Tuesday, the Whore had a doctors appointment because of “an abnormal PAP smear”. On Friday, she had to go back for a “Procedure”. On Sunday, she was having complications from the “Procedure” so the kids had to come back with us. The Idiot told us that the Whore refused to tell him what had happened. This tell us that she either had an STD or an abortion. We all vote for the abortion. The Idiot had The Surgery so it would look really odd if the Whore turned up preggers when she insists she’s not sleeping around.
So now, here it is March and he’s still living with us. He’s very close to starting his new job. He’s happier and he’s filing for legal seperation on Tuesday. This new job will have him at work 12 to 14 hours a day so the Whore will actually have no choice but to care for her own kids. He’s finally started visiting his parents again, even though he only goes over when his sister is working. Last Saturday, he even asked us if it was ok for the kids to stay over! He’s also not taking the Whore’s crap as much. She was bragging about how she never has to pay for drinks at the bar and he asked her if she gets them using her hands or her mouth! Things are finally looking up.
Just so you all know, he does help us clean - he even cleans the bunny cage. He also does our laundry and folds it too. I don’t know why he is more respectful to us than to his own parents but it makes it easier to handle him being here.
Also, I’ve seriously considered reporting the Whore to the Department of Social Services since what she’s doing is very bad for her kids. She had her boyfriend living in her apartment even when the kids were there. She kicks them out constantly so they have to sleep on our floor for days on end with few toys and even less clothes. But, as a former foster child myself, I couldn’t bring myself to do it. Either DSS wouldn’t care or they’d take both kids away and put them in foster care. I’d rather have them here.
We try to make this as easy for them as possible. Since Mr. Congo is a 30 year old child, we have lots of toys for them to play with. We try not to show our frustration in front of them because it’s the last thing they need. I know they’re better off here, at least they have 3 people showing them love instead of one person ignoring them. They may wear the same clothes 3 days in a row but the clothes are clean. They also have plenty of food here and it’s quiet so they’re not so tense.
It’s a crappy situation all around but it does have it’s good points. It’s brought Mr. Congo and me closer together than we’ve ever been in our 5 years together. We go out on dates more and we play games together instead of watching TV every night. I bring him dinner at work most nights so we get some time alone to just talk. I guess I have the Whore and the Idiot to thank for this. We appreciate each other more and we now realize how lucky we are to have each other.
Anyway, thanks for letting me tell all this. I needed to get it out of my system.
