Or she’s also sneaking a smoke. 
You can always tell a smoker by statements like that. I can tell you that as a non-smoker, I can tell if you have been in a room with other smokers vs you have been smoking at all during the day. The only caveat to that is if you have just showered, brushed your teeth and put clothes fresh from the laundry on your body. I do have an extremely over-developed sense of smell, but trust me, non-smokers can tell. She is letting you have your “secret” in the hopes that it keeps it under control.
Things I must never tell my (future) spouse, but continue to do…
Think the concept of the christian God is rather silly. I have learned not to be judgemental, but if she knew my concept of “god” was entirely alien to hers, she probably would spend all the time trying to “convert” me back. I still go to church, but I am a closet diest. (and borderline athiest: I.e my “Belief” in a “higher power” is tenuous, more like “it is possible, and even probable, but likely… I don’t know.”) I don’t tell my parents as they are super religous as well, and her parents on top of that. In fact we are thinking of getting married in a place called Unity Village, but her parents and relatives are throwing a fit because they are a “cult” according to them. And they claim to be non-denominational.
It’s the occasional hooker.
I will never, ever tell my husband how many veggies I puree and stick in the tomato sauce to make sure we get an extra serving of vegetables.
Nor will I tell him that I just sit on my ass drinking coffee and enjoying the fact that I’m alone when he takes the little one out in the morning on Saturdays so I can “sleep late.” I get up just as early as I always do - don’t want to waste time sleeping when I can be enjoying those precious minutes to myself.
Isn’t your religion kind of important when getting married? Fortunately, my husband and I are pretty lax from a religious perspective (I was raised in a Jewish and Christian household - he in a Hindu and Bhuddist household), but I’d sure want to know if our beliefs were radically different. It’s especially important where there are children involved.
Since neither of us is really religious (or picky), we can pick and choose from our various religions to satisfy family members, but if either of us were dead-set on a particular ceremony due to religious conviction, that’d be a problem. Do you forsee it being a problem with you and your betrothed?
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I never heard that term used in that way. At first I was thinking- what, she quickly turns on the light so she can make her way to the bathroom? No… Oh. Duh. A quick glance at your username and it all became clear.
Sometimes it takes me a minute, but I eventually catch on.
I totally agree. Although I’m really sensitive to smells, too. But still, there’s also a particular “smoker’s breath” that most smokers (even occasional ones) get that stays around even after they’ve brushed. It’s an underlying sourness or…something. My mom used to get it all the time even after she quit - or told us she quit and smoked a couple times a day. Fortunately, she stopped completely about 20 years ago. And you can tell a huge difference in the smell.
Also, if you do it inside your house, the smell sticks to the walls no matter how you air it out.
I still don’t get it
Being as how there was a TMI alert, uhm…it is a term referring to a very personal act of self-abuse that my husband would love to assist me with, but which I mostly enjoy doing for and with myself. Being female, the repetitive motion is much like that of flipping a light switch on and off rapidly. If I were male, it might be called something like “choking one’s chicken.”
Not particularly. We don’t go to church regularly and while I think it is a waste of time for the most part, it doesn’t hurt me whatsoever. I also don’t care what my children believe, and don’t feel compelled to dispell or prevent any beliefs that the church teaches them (I will hope they aren’t creationists and such, but I doubt it) She knows my beliefs differ enough for the topic to never really come up so her knowing the degree of my difference in religion isnt’ necessary. She knows I don’t disbelieve in evolution (I know she is a creationist), and that I have philosphical and ethical issues with the concept of hell (she believes in fire and brimstone), and we have gotten along just fine so far.
We share other things in common and find we love other aspects of our personalities.
Duh. Well, I’ve never heard* that * expression before. :smack:
Or “masturbating”.
Cool. It’s not very often you see a couple with such different beliefs able to enjoy each other regardless. Congratulations and best of luck to you.
Or perhaps she is being nice.
I quit seven years ago, and hung out with a friend at work when he smoked on breaks. I couldn’t smell it on his person, but I would presume that one would taste it when smooching one’s spouse.
Thanks for the clarification; I had to read the post a few times and still wasn’t sure I was right…never heard it called that before.
Worse yet is what it does to a car, where about 80% of the exposed surfaces are carpet and upholstery. Hate that “new car smell?” One cigarette is enough to banish it forever. I always hate renting a car that’s been used by a smoker, because they can never get that smell out, not with all the Febreze and carpet shampoo in the world. :mad:
Wow. I think (seriously) that I may have an undersensitive nose. I am not a smoker, but I can’t tell that someone has been smoking unless it was very recent or in very high volume. I’m surprised at all the people who can know for sure, because I’m pretty sure it would be easy to keep it from me, at least.
Things you must never tell your spouse, but must continue to do: Let kitties in the children’s bedrooms. I’m a rebel, I tells ya. Kitties forever!
I read it as she loved the sauce but if she knew how much chili paste he was putting in she’d think it was too much and tell him to cut it out.