Say I’m in a room/enclosed space/whatever with you (such as the University of Texas at San Antonio computer lab within which I find myself right now), and I find you attractive, is it acceptable for me to just walk right up to you and begin conversation? What would my opening line be? “Hello?” It just seems odd. But it happens in the movies all the time! The guy sees a girl across the room, wipes the milk mustache off of his top lip, strolls over to her non-chalantly and begins a conversation. If it were obvious to you that I was approaching you for the sole purpose of making small talk and then possibly receiving your digits (Sorry, but I just wanted to say that), wouldn’t you feel uncomfortable? Or do you like it better when the exchange “just happens,” so to speak?
I would think it a little odd if you just marched over and started talking. BUT, if you prefaced it with some legitimate question, then it’s OK. So you see a girl you wanna talk to. First thing is to go snag the computer next to her. Once there, come up with some question, like “Hey, do you know if Excel is installed on this computer? No? Hmmm… are you in my English class? No? Oh, I could have sworn it was you. Seems to me we’ve met before.” etc. etc. etc.
If you can’t snag the computer next to her, then you must create a diversion of some sort. Maybe she’s sitting next to the printer. If so, you need to print a lot of stuff, and have questions about the printer. Use your imagination. It’ll happen.
Try an outrageous line:
At the library…“What’s a girl like you doing in a place like this??” wiggle your eyebrows suggestively. If she laughs, great, if not, you dont want her anyway.
Or, begin a conversation about a neutral topic…“I cant believe they are closing the library on saturday’s…isnt that terrible…” etc.
I say just go for it. if you’re busy trying to think of something cute to say, you may miss the opportunity or rationalize yourself out of talking to her at all. I think people who have “been to the zoo and seen all the animals” don’t give a good god damn if you have any valid “reason” to be talking to them. If you like someone, approach them. Say, “Hi, my name is Joe Blo. Do you want to go get coffee after class?” Simple as that. Don’t play games, just be yourself. Anyone worth having will appreciate your honesty and forthrightness(<—I’m sure that can’t be a word
“It is now proved beyond doubt that smoking is one of the leading causes of statistics.”
There’s conversation and then there’s the ballpeen-hammer-in-the-teeth come on.
Hey, manners are there for a reason. If the object of your affections (okay, hormonal interest) can’t carry on a civil conversation, what in the world would you find to do on a date with her?!
Oh lord, that was great Vix! that reminds me of the musical number in “Billy Madison”. The last line of the song is, “Do you have any more gum, more gum, more gum? Do you have any more…gum?” LOL!
“It is now proved beyond doubt that smoking is one of the leading causes of statistics.”
I say just go for it Junior. Confidence in a man is soooo sexy. But not cockiness. Just be down to earth, be yourself, be up front. If she digs ya, you’ll know.
If your head is wax, don’t walk in the sun.
-Benjamin Franklin
Actually, I was referring to the Father Guido Sarducchi bit where he says you should always keep a pack of gum in case you meet some aliens and have to break the ice. "Want…some…gum???
“You’re only calling us a cow college cos’ we were founded by a cow!”
Try and make eye contact and say hi , if you can sit near her and ease into a conversation about school and whatever you are working on that would be good.
I wouldn’t be offended if I was approached like that. I think if she doesn’t want to talk to you the she will be kind of evasive.
Chief Scott, you have an excellent suggestion. I am a terrible conversationalist; I have trouble starting conversations, letting alone continuing them.
"Want…some…gum???