ditto.
dropzone:
If I recall correctly from one of the Keirsey/Myers-Briggs threads, you’re an INFP (Idealist/Healer). If so, then you’re describing one of the hallmarks of a true INFP: The ability to be in touch with so many sides and facets of yourself that sometimes it can be hard to decide who you’re going to be when you wake up in the morning.
Most other personality types are blissfully ignorant of their other selves. Those other facets of themselves appear in their lives as compulsions and impulses: “I just suddenly got the notion to do it…” or “Something just came over me…”
INFPs rarely get compulsions or impulses. They’re all too conscious from day to day and minute to minute of their own different natures and the ongoing competition between those natures.
INFPs don’t “fake” their personas. They are just painfully aware that they have to make choices between competing needs and values all the time.
FWIW…
I don’t know which is creepier, that you remember I’m an “Idealist/Healer” or that Kiersey has me nailed down so hard! I thought I dismissed that as so much psycho-babble!
Yeah, I make the choice of who I am all the time. I wish I didn’t have to; it would make life a lot easier. And it is why I cannot understand people who see things in black and white and know how they will react in every situation. AND know they will always react the same way! Shit, as you may have noticed I will often not have the same opinion from one post to the next, which gets me accused of hypocrisy. I’m not really hypocritical. I just see everything in constantly shifting shades of gray!
What’s the standard treatment for “delusions of importance” and “chronic inability to express oneself clearly in writing?”
Hehehe! I’ve kind of made a mental note of some of the INFPs on the SDMB as the opportunity popped up. (I’m one too.) Besides, you made it easy for me with your description of your “persona.”
If you want to read up more in-depth about INFPs, I can give you the names of some books. The big one in the field is Keirsey’s “Please Understand Me II.” It’s the most in-depth of them all. The other ones are more intro-level. You’ll learn lots of neat stuff about yourself: The desire to improve yourself morally and spiritually even as you are fascinated with perversity; the haunting feeling that success brings you, because it means disaster is right around the corner… Lots of good stuff.
That’s another feature of INFPs: An acute ability to see both sides of an argument. That’s why we are called “healers”—we’re the peacemakers, because we can bridge the gaps between opposing sides. Of course, we also get caught in the crossfire a lot (as you’ve noticed). I’ve learned to stay out of political discussions because I tend to adopt a position that can only be called “militant middle-of-the-road.” I catch hell from both sides.
Let me know if you want some more reading references. I have the address for a fairly active message board (actually a “list”) out there solely for INFPs if you’re interested. It’s a strange place.
All the best!
That would be cool, although I’m still creeped out by it. Although I would disagree about not having compulsions. I have many, but I know EXACTLY where they come from.
So, what you’re telling me is that The Others don’t spend their lives in self-analysis and don’t understand their motivations and the origins of their motivations? No wonder they’re so screwed up! And happy.
A snotty post by a friend will generally bring me down to Earth. Were you referring to me?
EXACTLY!
This is turning into a particularly fierce hijack. We should probably take this to e-mail. I only brought all this up because it irked me to see blessedwolf taking an INFP trait and turning it into a form of social betrayal. The misunderstanding wasn’t his fault, of course, but I still wanted to clear it up.
Anyway, you can e-mail me at jtr357@yahoo.com. When I get home, I’ll pull together those book titles and addresses and send them along to you. You can form your own judgments about the validity (or lack thereof) of this personality type stuff.
No, my fellow middle child. (I’m an ENFP, but sometimes I test as an I). To tell the truth, your mediating does annoy the hell out of me, I can only imagine how the combatants feel! So I guess in that sense, the “delusions of importance” could be about you - the arguing of others shouldn’t have any effect on you, dropzone, and if they do, well, then, that’s bizarre.
Should I have quoted the OP in full and all subsequent techchick ramblings? See, if I had, everyone would know what I was talking about.
Hijack? Oh, yeah! We were supposed to be telling Techchick how much we hate her.
Won’t work. I still like her just fine.
Yeah, it is, isn’t it? But the reality is that I grew up in one of those standard dysfunctional households and when people I like argue it rips up my stomach. I become eight again and just want to yell “SHUT THE FUCK UP!” Here, unlike my childhood home, I can.
You will notice that when two people I don’t particularly like go at it like squabbling hillbillies I don’t open the thread, much less get involved. For instance, I don’t know who Jack Dean Tyler is. And that long squabbling hillbilly thread that was all the talk of the Chifest? Glanced at it but didn’t read it.
I’m putting this thread out of its misery.