Suggesting men ask for clarification if they are unsure about vague, often conflicting signals isn’t employing lavish amounts of hyperbole or declaring the entire world pussy-hungry sex clowns. Asking for clarification— and taking that answer at face value-- saves all of us a whole lot of trouble.
And either way, you stop whatever she just asked you to stop. If you try to stick it in her ass and she says, “No, I don’t want to do anal” you should respect that. Being the dude who keeps trying to “accidentally” slip it in there makes you a major douchelord at best. I’m not sure what’s so ambiguous or signally about such an exchange.
So, let’s assume you’re in bed with a woman and you flip her over to do her from behind. She does it, them mumbles something that sounds like no while waving her hand in front of either her ass or vagina-- you aren’t sure. What do you do? Do you go forward and stick it in whichever hole without clarification, hoping you guessed right and she won’t fight it? Or do you have an exchange like this:
You: “Baby, what was that?”
Her: “No. I don’t like that.”
You: “Don’t like what?”
Her: “Anal.”
You: “Oh, that’s ok, I wasn’t going for that anyway.”
A 5 second exchange that clarifies, to make sure you aren’t putting your partner in an uncomfortable position and completely disrespecting her wishes.
Sure, but they’re still sexual assault. That’s like saying, “Please agree with me that there are varying kinds of tacos in the world.” Sure, you can get a chicken taco, a beef taco, a street taco, a unauthentic Taco Bell taco, etc etc etc. Some of those things are more “TACO” on the Taco Scale than the other tacos, but they are all still tacos.