Googleing Hymen is against the law in Georgia.
Not if he’s your brother. (Thank heavens for loopholes.)
you guys are a riot!
But, I hear ya.
My first time, I was 26, and it took quite a few times to get it in.
(there was no foreplay).
The next time I had sex, I was 31, and my guy had to use shamppo.
Worked great.
I suffered for quite awhile with vaginismus. I had many serious relationships including living with someone from the time I was about 16, but remained a virgin until I was 23 for no other reason than I was physically incapable of having intercourse. I spent years of expensive psycho therapy (to no avail) and finally had to undergo some painful physical therapy before I was able to have intercourse. I still don’t know what caused it or why it had to happen to me.
All I can say is, it’s no freaking picnic. I was fortunate enough to have some very understanding boyfriends but it was still a very traumatic experience. There really is nothing like being physically unable to do such a basic, human activity.
I actually think the OP’s partner is just going through typical virginal tightness, if he can get a finger in, she’s not too bad. I couldn’t even use a tampon for years, it was like I was wearing a damned invisible chastity belt. She should probably see an OB/GYN, though, just to make sure everything’s okay.
And for og’s sake, don’t rush anything. Take your time and make sure she knows that this is not a life altering experience. The bigger she blows it up in her head, the harder it will be for her to be able to relax enough to let you in.
Shampoo? As lube, I take it? Um, ow. Correct me if I’m wrong, vanilla, because the very thought of shampoo there is unpleasant. I mean, it hurts when it gets in your eyes!
Shampoo?? Surely that would have irritated an awful lot.
My first time was outstanding!
I was shocked when I found out that so many had a terrible time during their first sexual experience.
[Carl the Groundskeeper]
It’s in da Hole!
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While this is true for some women/girls, it’s most definitely not an absolute that the first time must be painful for a female.
For many of us, the hymen’s been taken care of through years of using tampons, riding bicycles or just plain being an active kid. Also, spending lots of time with foreplay and making sure that everything is well lubed will loosen things up quite nicely.
I actually think that the attitude or belief that it’s ‘supposed to’ hurt, or just flat out not be any good, contributes to the problem. If a girl goes into things believing that it’s going to hurt, she’s going to be more tense, and it’s more likely that it will hurt. Kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy, or something.
If it’s still a problem after lots and lots of foreplay (use your tongue too, and feel for the little pencil-eraser like thing), then she should see a gynecologist.
Shampoo? This could explain a lot about your current opinions on sex. You poor dear.
yep, foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Then maybe some foreplay. Learn to love the foreplay (It really can be the best part!). I like to avoid penetration until she’s had at least a few orgasms. Of course that’s not always possible with a lightly sleeping baby in the next room, but hopefully you don’t have that problem.
and remember, a happy customer is a repeat customer.
I’m not a poor dear.
What current opinions? I think sex is wonderful.
We used Jhirmack, and it didn’t irritate me one bit (amazing, I know) but he said his balls peeled for a few days.
A good ad campaign: Jhirmack, its less irritating! 
Jhirmack It’ll peel the hair off your balls. At finer drug stores everywhere.
Good Lord! :smack:
LOL
Shirley, that may just be a selling point to some…
Remember to dilute!
What would Dr. Bronner say?
tweet!
You’re having too much fun in this thread.
Off to the penalty box with you!
I am going to go out on a limb and say that it is probably not anything physically wrong with the female. During my first time, I had plenty of experience with other, related things but I also could not penetrate. I think that I just had the angle wrong and I know that I thought the entrance was higher up than it really was (Don’t want to go too low on the first time though!). After I did start to penetrate, I didn’t even really know it by that point. I had to reach down and feel to make sure. Start low and aim slightly upward is my advise (I think, I don’t really know how I do it now but it works).
I think nearly everyone in this thread is making a mountain out of a molehill. The first time I had sex, my boyfriend could not get it in. He tried and tried and tried and finally rolled over and gave up. Being the determined girl I am, I climbed on top and, um, forced the issue. There was a definite feeling of something “giving way” with a pressure that my boyfriend simply couldn’t have acheived in missionary position. It took the full weight of my body. There was relatively little pain for me.
I think you and your girlfriend could be successful with her on top. 'Nuff said.
Lather. Rinse. Repeat.
Jesus…where are you supposed to stick those?
Yeah, dude, seriously, here’s what’s going on.
First let me congratulate you on your first time… or what will be. Make sure to use a condom. Also get some KY jelly or some other kind of sex lube. NO PETROLEUM BASED LUBE, it will cause the condom to break. Oil is oil based, so you don’t want to use that. Use water-based lube.
Secondly. People here mention muscle tension. That could be a problem, also the hymen could also be a problem. I don’t know because I’ve never had sex with a virgin. But I am guessing that you may have the wrong angle going too. Its probably not at the angle that you’d expect. if you were to say the angle that it is when the girl is lying on her back, I’d say that its at a 75 degree angle from the ground, that is tilted away from her head? I hope you are all picturing this correctly. it isn’t exactly perpendicular to the opening. Maybe you feel like it should be at a 45 degree angle? I haven’t done it in a month, so I am just doing this from memory! Her on top wouldn’t be a bad idea, but insertion like this isn’t always so easy. My penis is at a pretty steep angle when really erect, so is a little difficult to get in like this.
My suggestion would be to get a little erotic first. Don’t go too fast dude, because it may not last long. But then again it depends on how long you have known the girl, in my opinion. I would probably start out with some oral sex to get her relaxed and not start out with the explicit goal of intercourse. Just focus on getting her off for a while. Then get a little lube and probe around there with your fingers. Make sure that there is enough lube inside of her. Some girls get the juices really flowing when they get horny, but others don’t have so much and would need a little lube. Sometimes it doesn’t really get wet unitl you get in there and start moving a little bit. With your fingers you can be much more gentle until you get her loosened up a bit. It is a very adaptable organ. The idea of letting her get on top isn’t bad because she does have a hymen, I guess. It’s called a cherry in layman’s terms if you want to know.
It depends on how big she is down there so even once you get in you may need to be a little gentle the whole time. Just be safe and go slow and make sure you aren’t hurting her. It may hurt her, and she may want more, but make sure you stop if she wants you to.